As a guy, I’m getting increasingly frustrated at having to take the lead in everything dating wise?

[Anonymous]

I’m expected to ask them out, decide what we’re doing, carry the conversation etc. Most of the girls I been on dates with talk about themselves for 80% of the time and barely ask me any questions about myself in return.

I’ve never had a girl kiss me first on a date without me initiating, and the few girls I’ve had sex with have expected it to be focused 100% on them and barely anything in return.

Even girls who openly proclaim they like to “take the lead” usually end up meaning “they expect their partner to focus on them and give them exactly what they want all the time”

I’m not asking for women to take the lead all the time, but just *SOMETHING* to show that they’re actually interested in *me* and don’t just see me as an object for their own validation

[DishLady]

Perhaps you're overthinking things... OR perhaps you're consistently going for the "Barbie princess" type of girl, in which case they're super high maintenance and you get what you get...

"Girls" might be too shy to initiate. "Ladies" won't initiate a kiss unless they see the guy is willing and they ease into it.

There's a full scale of other women who will initiate whatever they like... they're not that hard to find, but they're perhaps hard to keep.

[Dantec2024]

I see what you're saying but I think it's just the culture if that makes sense? I don't wanna sound like an ass but it could be that these women you're going on dates with are a bit old fashioned in the sense that they expect you to make the first move in pretty much everything. As for the conversation part I think maybe be a little more assertive and try to talk about yourself more, ask questions and you'll probably get some in return, find common ground