Need an advice related relationship?

[Anonymous]

am a guy and am currently in a relationship, its gona be a whole year in a few days, my girlfriend really shows no interests in my interest wht to do? like whenever i try to talk to her about it she just leaves me on read and goes offline, later makes an excuse that she was busy or so which i know she wasn't, i show interest in her interests its like, if i do the same what she's doing the we won't be even able to talk anymore, i feel really bad about it and i dont know what to do, hope it can be helped somehow

[DishLady]

It's ok if you have different interests, but if you have NOTHING in common then it's a problem. Also, if there's no reciprocity then it's also a problem.

[laly520]

Incompatibility ruins lot of relationships

hopefully not urs

I suggest u openly address the issue with her

[Asker]

i tried she blames herself about it, am 21 and she's 20, i tried a lot of times but she blames herself that she is bad soo i try to make her happy but after some time she gets bored and stuff

[laly520]

sorry but thats very toxic

[Asker]

i wanna how thats toxic, i mean it could be but i wanna know how and like whats the reason, she been through some stuff in the past

[laly520]

its good that u want to help her, thats all right
her struggling is also fine but toxic if u will have to handle it all on ur own, u aren't a robot, u r a human too n all of it would harm u mentally

[laly520]

not telling u to leave her
but talk with her n maybe get her to change the way she treats u cuz its unfair n no one deserves to be treated that way

[Asker]

ill try my best thank u for ur answer, i know no one deserves to be treated like that but, she was in her past by her ex, soo i feel like i should do things best at my part, if she breaks it in future well, ill figure something out for myself as always.

[laly520]

good luck with it
u r a good guy

[Asker]

thank you

[Anonymous]

How long have you known her? How many times do you get together in person?

[Asker]

in person a lot of times, our house is not too far, and its been 1 year

[Opinion Owner]

You need to talk to her find out what’s going on. Try to arrange some romantic candlelight dinner get together go to a theme park go to a specialty place in your area. Take her on a road trip or something light the fire.

[Asker]

hmm ill try

[Opinion Owner]

Ok good

[Jacobbbb]

Try to have a talk with her. Voice your concerns and communicate

[Asker]

i did, talk to her about it, she just can't communicate for some reason, i have always tried to be there for her but now it looks like our relationship might end anytime, i dont want it to tho, things can be fixed but she just dont wanna communicate for some reason i tried giving her space too but it made things worse, i am ready to do anything but what i dont know

[Jacobbbb]

Thanks for most helpful

[EmmaMary]

Have you heard of the word communication? If so, try using it... Simples.

[Asker]

i just replied in the above comment, have been trying since months

[EmmaMary]

If that's the real case, then sadly the writing is on the wall... Sorry.

[Asker]

so u mean, realy?

[EmmaMary]

I do mean really.