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I recently broke up with a guy a week ago because it felt like he was pulling away. Before we saw one another at least 3-4 times a week. There was a bit more to it but it felt like he was losing interest even when he said he wasn’t. He texted me the other day to meet him for dinner. I did and he explained that he has been feeling so “pulled” between his work, his kid, me and his goals. That he felt no matter what he did he was either disappointing someone. If he gave too much attention to one thing the other thing lacked. Does this sound like a bs reason or something guys (especially men with a child) feel and will actually pull away a little bit because of it? I would never ask a man to put his child before me but I wish he had communicated this a bit more.
Will a guy pull away if he has too much on his plate and is afraid of disappointing you?
Anonymous
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It's definitely possible that a guy could pull away a bit if he's feeling stretched too thin with a lot going on in his life. Having a kid adds another big responsibility on top of work and other stuff.
When you've got a lot of people depending on you, it can start to feel overwhelming. I could see why he might try to create some more space just to get his head on straight. Communication is always key though. He probably should have told you what was up instead of letting you think it was about not being interested.
It's good that he met up with you to explain himself after the breakup. That shows he still cares enough to give you some closure. With a kid involved, he's gotta be extra careful about not dropping the ball anywhere. And jumping into something new could add more pressure too.
If he's usually a good guy otherwise, I'd say there's a good chance this is on the level. Give him some time to sort his stuff out, but maybe keep the door open to trying again down the road if you're both in a better headspace. Taking a step back when life's hectic makes sense. At least now you know it wasn't about you - that's probably a relief! Hope things work out for you guys.
I don’t mean to sound rude, but to even invite people to openly call him a liar is not the remedy to your heartbreak. It’s not closure or anything that would benefit you at this time while you’re trying to heal. I’m not sure if you’re a parent yet or not, but if not then you won’t be able to fundamentally understand where he’s coming from.
Like, you don’t have a little life depending on you to do your best, and you can’t relate to how determined a parent can be to give them that. For some single parents their entire existence becomes about their child/children at least until they turn 18. They don’t date or even have real social lives outside of being parents despite wanted both of those things. It’s a lot of sacrifices and missed romantic relationships. All this to say, I’m sure your ex didn’t want this to happen, I’m sure he wants companionship and love. But after the newness and rose colored glasses came off, reality set back in and he just can’t accommodate having a partner be a priority as well.
This wasn’t even advice you just gave. Did you not read that I said I would NEVER ask him to put his son before me? I would never ask that of anyone I would see. I know a child comes first. I’m not a parent myself but I know the realities.
And no one is calling him a liar.
I’m not sure if you noticed the error there, which contributed to my answer. You’re saying “never ask him to put his son before me” when it should say “never ask him to put me before his son”. Without the context you just gave, it looks the other way. Just giving you a heads up.
When you’re asking if his reason is BS or not, that doesn’t sound like you believe him, therefore insinuating he’s being dishonest about why he has no time for you, aka lying. I don't know why you’re being so emotional and defensive anyway.
Also, no where in my commentary did I even suggest you’re talking about being a priority over his child. I’m saying that you may not understand why his priorities are assembled the way that they are, and this is why you have a hard time with him being too busy. If you really got it and understood, this wouldn’t be a discussion at all.