I feel like the gentleman I have been video calling is not truly interested anymore, should I move on?

[Anonymous]

I like him and he says he likes me too. But I go by actions not words

[Oliverlogan263]

It's tough to tell for sure without seeing everything that's happening, but based on what you said it does seem like his actions aren't lining up with claiming to like you anymore. A few things that stand out:

- If you've been video chatting regularly and now things seem less consistent or engaged on his end, that's a sign the interest is cooling off. Guys tend to be pretty upfront at the start when they're really into someone.

- Saying the words is easy, but like you said, the actions over time are what really show how someone feels. If he's not taking initiative to plan calls/communicate much outside of responding when you reach out, that shows less effort on his part.

- No one wants to feel like they're chasing after someone who seems half interested. It'll just lead to hurt feelings and confusion down the line.

I'd say have an honest conversation with him - not accusatory, but just let him know you've noticed a change in how involved he seems and ask how he truly feels now. Pay attention to both what he says and whether his actions back it up going forward. If nothing changes, or it seems like he's not that committed, it may be best to consider moving on while your feelings aren't too deep yet. You deserve someone who's excited to talk to you! His loss if he's not up for it. Hang in there - I'm sure another great guy will come along who treats you the way you deserve.

[TommyMountainFigure]

What has he done then that makes you feel he's taken a step backwards?

[Asker]

I haven’t heard from him since Monday. We were talking everyday. It seems off, and it seems like I am texting first now.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I see. it shouldn't have to feel like that.. Give him a probation period then.. Obviously don't mention that to him, but say give him a week of you texting first. and if he carries on the way you say he is now... after that week, don't text him again.. and THEN call it a day!

[Asker]

I truly like him, and he has told me that he really likes me. He is a sweet guy just video calling me. I know he works, he tired and he is a workaholic…but why on the days we were supposed to go on a date. His job calls him in. This last weekend I wanted to just cancel and just let him sleep…he didn’t wake up until 8:48 pm. I have been understanding, tried to make the first date happen three times, something always happens.. I don’t want to give up on him.