Is it valid to feel this way?

[Anonymous]

So for most of my life I never knew what it was like to date or be in a relationship 4 years ago that changed I went Into a relationship and ultimately it ended last year but It ended and many months after questioning certain aspects of the relationship maybe being a person on the spectrum this was supposed to serve as my experience to what it was like to date and now even if I never find another relationship I can never say that I never knew what it was like to be in a relationship or date

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I totally get where you're coming from. Your first real relationship is such a big deal - it's like this whole new world opens up and you experience so much for the first time. It sucks that it ended last year, but at least now you know what it feels like, you know?

I can understand wanting that experience even if you never date again. There's definitely value in knowing you've put yourself out there and gone through it all, the good and the bad. It sucks that it didn't work out long term, but you learned a lot about relationships and yourself in the process.

Plus, who's to say you won't date again someday? You're still young - don't count yourself out just yet! Maybe take some time to heal from this last one and get back out there when you're ready. Or maybe someone cool will come into your life unexpectedly.

Either way, try not to dwell on it too much. You had your first real experience with dating and a relationship, and that's huge. Be proud of yourself for putting yourself out there. The future's still unwritten - keep your head up, dude!

[Juxtapose]

You dated once, that's not really a whole lot of experience. And I'm saying this as an autistic dude myself.

[Asker]

Well in reality it probably won’t happen again that was my only chance

[Juxtapose]

It only happens if you make it happen or you get lucky. Take matters into your own hands.

[Asker]

I got lucky once and it took the world being in a pandemic back in 2020 where the energy of the world was completely out of wack and anything was possible

[Juxtapose]

Don't overcomplicate it.

I am autistic and I have been on dates and have had sex. You can do it.

[Asker]

Dude my first girlfriend was at 29 I have routinely tried

[Juxtapose]

Well you keep at it. You don't just throw your hands in the air and give up.

If there's something in your life repulsing women away from you then you work on it.

[Asker]

My disability I’m autistic my social skills are gonna be very poor the rest of my life there isn’t anything I can do to change it. It’s not like being shy

[Juxtapose]

I'm autistic but I improved my social skills.

[Asker]

The thing is I also have literally no one around me to help I don’t have any family because the people that do improve usually have a social circle or support network

[Juxtapose]

You have to get out of your house and actually talk to people and meet them.

[Asker]

I go places everyday

[Juxtapose]

Talk to people more and be observant, introspect a lot and focus on learning about psychology and how to interact with people.

[Juxtapose]

Nobody is going to be able to help you through this but yourself. Nobody helped my ass.

[Anonymous]

What was the actual problem?