Do guys really don't want to date single mothers or is it just social media propaganda?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It just depends on the guy and where he is at in life , when I was younger, I refused to date girls’ that had kids already , but as I got older, I realized it really isn’t that big of a deal , so it just comes down to where he is in life, Some guys’ are completely against it and some aren’t , so it just depends, on his preferences of what he accepts and doesn’t accept. After I split with my wife and now that my kids , are pretty much grown up , I prefer dating a girl that doesn’t want kids , or already had kids that are pretty much grown up as well, that doesn’t want anymore. I honestly can’t see myself starting over raising a child , I been there and done it already lol. So I have no desire to do it again , even though I love kids , just not on my top to do list especially at my age now , I just want to enjoy the rest of my life and spoil myself and meet a girl that wants to spoil each other , travel and share things together , so if she has a child holding her back from doing those things? , I probably wouldn’t date her unless she has split custody than maybe lol

Avicenna · Accepted Answer

Most don't, which is one reason why most single moms do not have stable relationships. Most guys know better than to deal with the drama and chaos in most single moms' lives, plus a disproportionate number of these single moms have mental health issues, financial problems and/or bitterness toward men. Are there some exceptions? Sure. but they are few and far between, but it's best to avoid these potential issues, especially if you want to have (biological) kids yourself as part of a stable relationship.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

i wouldn't date a single dad either. most girls my age wouldn't either i think. so i dont think it's a gender or politics thing. it's just people that are younger dont typically want that. though i think once people get to a certain age they dont care that much about that aspect

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Some do and some don’t. It depends on the guy. Some SAY they do but they’re now mature or prepared enough to handle being in a relationship with someone who has children.

ohsheeT · Answer

If a girl is somebody that I'm looking for and has all the qualities that I'm looking for it doesn't matter if she has children or not I will date her I don't care what social media says or anybody else. If I like her I'm going to date her

RebelinSteel · Answer

I never knew it actually was a problem until I joined gag, in the real world, I know plenty guys dating girls with kids and some of those guys have kids as well. It will greatly vary between people, if you both get on what’s the problem, if she has say 5 kids and you don’t get on with them, then obviously you won’t date.

For the question, I don’t think the word WANT is accurate, no one really wants to date someone that has kids, it’s a harder dating experience, chances are she’s single, working and stressed with the extra work, so no one wants to walk into that. However, yes people will date the same person if they get on well together.

ZackBan · Answer

There are those who fetishise it.
Turn it into their own "porno parody" about getting it on with a MILF

There are those who wouldn't do it on principle.
Raising another man's kids and all that

And then there's a sad minority of men who think they can't do better so they settle for the woman who settles for them because both parties are out of good options.

Pragmatically: I think a single mother is better off staying single until the kid is self sufficient.
Once the kid moves on to college or work or both. Then she becomes just a single woman.
Yes she has a kid. But she's not looking for a father.

Of course life tends to work in it's own way sometimes so there's no iron rules here

meepmeeperton · Answer

Well it’s seen as undesirable because to be in a long term relationship with her you have to raise another man’s kids. On top of that, the fact that she ended up as a single mother could indicate she made poor decisions in her past. Not all the time though, I mean widows exist for example.

So I think social media exacerbates the stigma around it, but there certainly are men out there who will be understanding and will even treat a single mother’s kids as their own. There are also single fathers—like divorced dads—who go for single mothers.

HawkPerception · Answer

It's not social media propaganda. Men's first thoughts aren't that they want to help raise or be a part of another man's kids lives. For me... I'm 30 years old and I would not be willing to be in a relationship with a single mother unless she was PERFECT (really attractive and had a perfect personality) and she is okay to have more kids. I want kids of my own and if she's not willing, it's definitely a no. But honestly, I'd rather just not deal with that in the first place.

Only men that are older and are past that part of their lives wouldn't mind dating a single mother.

HighValue · Answer

I have turned down multiple women for that exact reason. Though I am polite and just say, "I don't think we are compatible." In reality I am often laughing inside that they would even bother to ask someone like me to consider being with a single mother. They can go after someone with very few options instead.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

As I got older I became more comfortable with the idea.

However, if I find out the biological father is still around. Count me out. Sorry.

But the amount of “single mothers” that are still fucking their kids dad even though they’re single or in a relationship with a new guy is pretty common

Apple1996 · Answer

It's more just online hate especially from the red pill community. I know lots of moms that were single moms then found their current husband's/boyfriends.

Kelley1 · Answer

Men know the disadvantages. However, they date single mothers because they are prettier then the single women they can date. Single moms must date men they would reject if they were single girls.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is more the bitter online immature guys that say that. They can barely look after themselves, let alone a woman with children.

Anonymous · Answer

guys with no options would date a single mom. guys with options won't

Billlewis · Answer

I've known several guys who have dated single moms; don't believe everything you read.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Most of us do not want to. Why would we? We will never be put first, we will always be undermined and it is just natural to not want to have someone else's kid. If we want kids then where would that leave things.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys find single mothers about as alluring as women find homeless guys. Hope that helps.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Dating is one thing…let us know how it goes in 5-10 years.  most don’t…but like MR. Avicenna said… there are exceptions.

Anonymous · Answer

It can go either way. I wouldn’t recommend it, but it does work out for some men. Had that experience before. Was too much of a headache. Honestly it’s hard these days to meet someone who doesn’t have kids.

sage2021 · Answer

I was a single mom and most guys liked that I was a mom. We had fun taking my son to all different fun things. Kids keep you young.

Juxtapose · Answer

Let's get real, is she going to make me number one or am I always going to be put behind the kids?  I want a woman who can make me her number one. I don't want some snot-nosed brats getting in my way.

sawno · Answer

Many don't want to, for me if she's a really nice girl I am open to it.

Berethor · Answer

I sure don't want leftovers and raising other man's child.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Some do some don't. I've got a friend who would only date single mom's and I wouldn't

RavVid · Answer

Why would we want to date single moms? Give me an upside

Unit1 · Answer

You should ask single mothers how it's working out for them and hear from them first hand. I do not date single mothers.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Its complicated. I think a lot really depends on the age of the guy and whether or not he already has kids.

SunnyRS · Answer

I really don't have any problems dating a single mother as long as the father of the child is not in the picture, cause I don't want him coming back in her life in the future.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Lots of guys have no trouble dating single mothers.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Some guys just don't wanna be an instant daddy.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Some guys date single mothers, but most won't, or at least have a long-term relationship with one.

Redstang88 · Answer

If they don’t have kids of their own, the vast majority don’t

RedInnocent69 · Answer

It’s not ideal. Most guys aren’t anxious to have kids the same way girls are. Were even less likely to want to care for someone else’s.

OtterMan68 · Answer

never, ever met a guy who said he would not date a single mother

KrakenAttackin · Answer

We definitely do NOT want to date single mothers except to smash.

nawtee_me · Answer

I don’t mind single mothers, just need to make sure the kids are ok with it too…,

Pohjolan · Answer

She better come with big mommy milkers if she is a singer mother.

NYlatefun · Answer

I’ve dated single mothers, it depends on the guy I guess.

Anonymous · Answer

Only single fathers and pedophiles want to date single mothers. Granted there are guys that don't fall into either category that will date single moms; but only out of necessity and not desire.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

DEFINITELY DON'T... BUT ITS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO FIND A GIRL WITHOUT A KID ANYMORE

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I wouldn't ask this on this site.

Nicebutt462 · Answer

Single mother's are single for a reason!

ChinaGrove · Answer

I've dated a few.

Vegasrunner · Answer

What's in it for the guy?

Anonymous · Answer

We dont want to date

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