How do you overcome being lonely while single?

[strangeatcircleK]

I don't like being repetitive. I'm just trying a different approach. After this. I promise more fun questions.

[serious_miss419]

I’ve been happily single for over 13 years. I don’t dabble in bed with strangers and I don’t explore any physical intimacy or emotional on the side. Purely just me.
I’m never lonely. Should I ever feel the need to be with someone, I remind myself it’s not worth it. And it’s simple as that. I move along and tomorrow is a new day.
I can’t justify having someone around me just to feel better about myself. Someone elses existence doesn’t fulfill me in any way. It would exhaust me having to run everything past someone all the time and texting and calling them all the time or having them around me is just as draining.

[Crazzyyworld]

Meet some people in the same situation. You can meet some people at meetup. com or facebook dating app. Go out with the people who are isolated or lonely. It helps

[Ευδεμονια]

That’s my actual big fight.
I’ve never been engaged and I feel a lot loneliness and sometimes is barely manageable, there are moments moments when I feel extremely alone, moments when I have a pain in my chest and I feel like I’m doomed to be alone forever.


I try to manage those moments by doing something I like, for example cooking or reading or maybe doing a long stroll with some music in my ears. Sometimes I try taking with friends or even with strangers. Those things sure aren’t a solution but they’re ways to distract a bit and diminish the pain.

[strangeatcircleK]

It's helpful to have someone that at least gets where I struggle. It's not an easy place to be. Thank you for the advice and the relatable comments

[Ευδεμονια]

It’s not easy, for real.
You’re welcome, if you need to talk a bit you can write to me.

[strangeatcircleK]

Thanks, I appreciate it. I might just do that

[kmg9150]

Sup. This is going to sound weird, but I established this belief that had really helped me along with my severe abandonment issues…. First, accept that you will die alone. Second, understand you are never alone. Third, change your thought of what you are expecting will eliminate the feeling of loneliness.

Anyone, anything, even yourself can fulfill that need your feeling.. What is it that Think it's holding you back the most in being able meet someone?

[Unit1]

I mean like I could fight it all I want but it got me nowhere, so I'm not expecting to emerge victorious against my imposed "fate".

It's a given and I deal with it.

[Bethany22]

You don't have to have fun questions. These types of questions are fine ☺️ maybe try free therapy lines whereby volunteers talk with you on the phone and just listen to you.

[Serkee]

Therapy doesn't usually work for men like it does for women. It's typically not solution-oriented like men need it to be. Therapy is great at helping you understand your emotions better, but that's not what men need, or what they go there for.

[Bethany22]

@Serkee That's really depressing. Hopefully male psychologists are better at offering solutions?

[Serkee]

@Bethany22 Maybe, but offering solutions isn't really what therapy is usually about. Therapy is great at identifying what the problem is and helping find where it stems from, but men are pretty good at doing that on our own. We don't need therapy for that. But we always look for practical solutions, even when our problems aren't practical. We look for something tangible we can fix, or some routine or habit we can change. But when we can't find that, we feel frustrated. And when the solution relies on someone else's support, we feel weak and hopeless. That's why loneliness is such a big issue for men. It's not a problem we can fix on our own, and just trying to bring attention to it makes us look like we feel entitled to affection.

[Bethany22]

@Serkee wow, that sounds really tough. Wish I could help you 😞

[Account]

By actually indulging in your own interests/hobbies. If you don't have some, try a couple of different things till you eventually find what can make existence more bearable.

[AviatorTom]

You spend time with your friends.

[Guacamole409]

Years ago Microsoft came up with an Xbox thing that would recognize you and your friends and call you by name and talk to you. They ditched the project, because people were too freaked out by it. I guarantee this will make a comeback.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/C51B50Qh6sI

[IslaTheWitch]

My place is regularly invaded by my friends, mainly without a prior notice... I work and raise a teenager... when tf should I feel lonely?

I want to feel lonely at least once for a while but it looks like all the people I know are in quest of not letting me...

so I'm single and I don't feel lonely at all...

[Serkee]

You don't want to feel lonely, you want solitude. Those are very different things. You can easily feel lonely even when you're surrounded by people 24/7.

[IslaTheWitch]

@Serkee I don't feel lonely... I don't think I ever did... I prefer to be alone... and for some strange reason, all my life, someone always wanted to be close to me... I never was looking for a partner... they simply appeared in my life :D

as an autistic person, I prefer being alone than with people...

[Serkee]

I never said you feel lonely, I was saying that what you want is solitude, not loneliness. It's great that you're not lonely.

[RebelinSteel]

Go outside, hang with friends, do stuff, sports, sports clubs or fun stuff

[PeachyPie93]

Surround yourself with single friends, go out have fun and be social. Don't sit at home doing things alone it makes you more lonely.

[Fireguy17]

I was never lonely and I was single by choice for a long time.
I have a great friend base and stay busy.

[paledreams]

Coping mechanisms, working, keeping busy and enjoying quiet time - appreciating whenever I see some family and I remind myself those screaming bratty kids and nagging wife - or even gay couples - glad I'm a single man ♂️👞

[paledreams]

Not to mention the costs, the state of societies, puppets, etc lol 😆

[chrissykerdock]

get a friends with benefits and give him blowjobs it does take the lonliness away if he comes over a few nights a week

[Serkee]

Finding a friend with benefits is much easier for women than it is for men.

[bolverk]

Why do people think that being single automatically means that it means being lonely? Most people who have chosen to be single are happy being alone, they'll interact with other people as and when they need to.

[Serkee]

He never said he thought that. He asked how you overcome being lonely while single, that means he knows being single doesn't automatically make you lonely.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think I've ever felt like that... while single

[ManInChains]

I remember how happy I am being single and how unhappy I was when I wasn’t

[noohair]

When i started to like myself, I became less lonley.

[nawtee_me]

Keep yourself busy and surrounded by people….

[SkatPak392]

now normally I would use the game on my computer, but my computer is broken and I can't stop thinking. my mind is beginning to drive me to suicide.

[dustybiker2]

Start something new as distraction.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

U get used to it./Smxs you're better off by yourself, than w/some People.

[PatKirby]

Be at peace with yourself.

[Serkee]

My goodness, why haven't I thought of that?

[A_Wild_Redhead]

My strategy is going outside and meeting people.

[LiamJHayden]

Friends and hobbies.

[jahaims]

Have friends and hobbies