Help with being Extremely lonely?

Question

I have one friend but we barely even talk anymore. I’m not sure if I can even call them a friend since they only seem to ever remember me when they want something from me and get angry if I don’t give them it. Other than that they don’t text me for weeks.

They also make fun of and joke about my depression and anxiety, as well as the fact I go to therapy. They’ve made fun of me for not having any other friends. I try to laugh it off because I know they don’t mean it in a bad way it’s just their sense of humor but it still hurts my feelings.

I consider them my best friend so this stuff really hurts.

I just want a equal relationship that isn’t so complicated. I don’t understand why friendships have to be so hard and complex.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Damn, im really sorry about that. Well, about 6 months ago, i was heavily into depression, and that is kind of one of the reasons i joined G@G. I have anxiety as well. I have only 2 friends, and one of them who i thought was my best friend, turned out to be a fucking snake. Anyway, when i sad, my dad told me that high school friendships dont usually last because of the drama, competition etc. But once you go to college or start working, you can form REAL, GENUINE friendships. Listen, people are very selfish, you need to be your own friend. For now. You have to be strong. Its hard, i know, but a few tips?
1. Step out of your comfort zone
2. Do things which intimidate you
3. Come out of your shell and talk to people. I have seen you around on here, and you are very interesting. Im sure many people would be thrilled to be your friend. Im guessing you just started high school? There is still a few more years until college, so start now.
4. Surround yourself with people you are comfortable with. DO NOT isolate yourself. Lonelimess most of the time, stems fro, being alone.
5. Get rid of your social media like Insta, Snap, Reddit etc, except G@G. I did that, and im doing much better.
6. Do not entertain toxic people in your life. Cut off contact with them. This so called "friend" she was NOT your friend. Friends dont do that stuff.
7. There are good people who would love to be friends with you. You just have to talk to everyone, and make friends.

Most importantly, the amount of friends you have is not important. You can have 100 friends and be lonely, but you can have 1 friend and still have a wonderful time. Find that 1 friend. Quality is more important than quantity. Hugs ❤

dem_hero · Accepted Answer

Talk to random people and never explore your feelings 😭😭😭

Celtero · Accepted Answer

I never really made any friends in highschool either, all of them were leftovers from elementary school and they were dicks to me too. Next time I made a friend, and not an acquaintance, was in my early 20s, probably 22 or 23. They're online friends, but many of them are better than any friend I've ever had in real life. We met through the game, Destiny 2, but you can reliably meet people through any PvE game that requires hopping in a discord to communicate in order to overcome difficult content. ... Might be kinda different and risky though if you're a younger girl... but I knew some 16 year old girls from my Destiny days and everyone I knew treated them well.

And ironically, making friends has just made me realize how I appreciate being alone, because everyone can be annoying or unpleasant from time to time. Something I wish I learned earlier was finding validation from within myself instead of trying to please everybody to get them to like me when I was younger.

For me, I think the hardest aspect of loneliness was never really having a family that cared all that much about me, that my problems never really mattered, and there wasn't anyone I could fall back on when I was most desperate. But I think what you can take comfort in is that it doesn't ever really get easier, you just toughen up and get used to it so after a while everything feels normal.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Thats not your friend. That’s a piece of a shit. I saw your question the other day about marriage and thought you sounded like you were in pain or someone hurt you. I’m sorry that you’re being treated like that. I know how it feels. I’ve been bullied my whole life. You’re being socially Ostracize because you go to therapy. You should never tell anyone that you go. They’re probably telling people not to talk to you and making up lies about you. I don’t go to therapy, but I know you’re not crazy or a bad person. It’s just you got those people messing with your life. Maybe try group therapy, so you can find people your age that you can relate to their struggles. They can’t tell people you go to therapy or they will get in trouble, so you should be safe. And your so called friend you got to cut them off. Its hard you probably you really like the person, but they’re cynically manipulating you to and pretending like they care about to get you to do what they want.

worldscolide · Answer

That person is not your friend. I am truly sorry. I have been there though, before I met my wife, I had just one friend, I have known him since I was 11.. Now that I'm married, I still have just that one friend..

Bdsmaster · Answer

It is like that luv, people don't just become friends, everyone needs something in return. Everything is a give and take relationship but it's not impossible to make friends, open up about your needs and fulfill the needs of your friends and that's about it.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

After what happened tonight, I don’t think it would hurt consider a replacement. At least an online one. Wanna do a thing called conversation or something? (Also, I don’t wanna talk about what happened. It was the most sus thing ever and I can see things very easily so talking won’t help).

OddBeMe · Answer

I’m a business owner and every 10 potential clients I meet with, one will buy. I’m quite sure the odds would be less for friendship. It’s just about you getting over your fear of the other 9 people who reject you.

GeoCrusher · Answer

video games, play them and make friends, if you like board games try table top simulator

alance99 · Answer

Dont consider yourself lonely and having lots of friends isn't some sort of a bench mark, some people dont like to be in crowd, if you feel comfortable you can message me, just stay positive 😊

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

You can make friends when you least expect it, just try to do things that you like to do to stay occupied.

Anonymous · Answer

Uh! The ugliest person in the world is lonely as fuck. Imagine my shock. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

In_Trance · Answer

they don't. if they're complicated they're not really friendships; they're acquaintances. Friendships are simple and they last.

jasco · Answer

People are difficult, life is forever changing and assholes are always difficult to spot

EnglishEuropean · Answer

You've got friends here, and you don't have to go outside to meet them.

kkrystian · Answer

you can see that you are a strong person 💪 if you want to write boldly so that you do not feel lonely 😊

Amur8711 · Answer

I know exactly how you feel, i guess I only have aquetences too.

Anonymous · Answer

My advice is to change your pic because that pic of you looks stupid.

Agape93 · Answer

Reach out to someone new

msc545 · Answer

That person is not your friend.

EaterPeter · Answer

You have pets? Body pillow?

Djaay · Answer

I'll pm you.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

meet new people

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