When does "being busy" actually start to mean they're not interested or seeing you as a priority?

[coachTanthony]

[HawkPerception]

I don't think there's any black and white rule that states after a certain amount of time goes by without them communicating much that they're not interested. But I do believe if they haven't given you time within a week, it means they're not interested in you or ready for a relationship in general.

The majority of us have enough time in the week to make time for people. I could go into the math of it, but I'll refrain from it here. Unless you're working 7 days a week 12 hours a day, you generally have time.

[Unit1]

"Yo, what's up?"

"i'm busy"

...

"Wanna hang out with me? There's this park"

"i'm busy"

...

"I've been to this beach and I loved it. Wanna join me next time there?"

"i'm busy"

[TurboAnon]

Many such cases!

[sage2021]

I hate when you see someone that you were supposed to hear from, but then you saw them sitting at the bar drinking at
Applebee's restaurant and they acted so surprised to see me there.
Then he'd say "Sorry I haven't called, but I've been busy".
Like they were the first person to ever say that. 🙄
I would reply that we are all busy!! Yeah, you're really busy chugging down beers at Applebee's every night. Right!

[sage2021]

Thank you 😊 for the MHO 🧁🌷

[midnightmoon05]

When they use the same excuse the second time.
early courtship, it’s understandable to use busy, then asker can be polite and let it be. when ask again for a date, they answer the same… get the hint and move on. It means they are not interested.

[Chazmatazz269]

Immediately. As soon as you agree to spend any amount of time with someone, they automatically own the rest of your time. You are not allowed to make plans without them unless you have their informed consent. This is particularly tricky with the friend zone, getting permission to sleep alone gets old quickly. Ell oh ell!

[OlderAndWiser]

I have a tendency to respond with sarcasm, like “oh, okay. Let me know when you’re not too busy for a friend.”

[Dina_Melissa19]

“Being busy” can sometimes be a genuine reason for someone’s lack of availability, but it can also be a sign that they’re not prioritizing the relationship. Here are a few indicators that “being busy” might be a way to avoid commitment or show a lack of interest:

1. Consistent Patterns: If the person is consistently too busy and rarely makes time for you despite being available for others, it might suggest a lack of prioritization.
2. Lack of Communication: If they rarely initiate contact, or if their responses are always delayed with little effort to explain their absence, it could indicate disinterest.
3. Inconsistent Effort: If they only reach out when it’s convenient for them or avoid making plans in advance, it may reflect a lower level of investment in the relationship.
4. Avoiding Important Conversations: If the person avoids discussing the relationship or future plans and frequently deflects with “I’m too busy,” it might be a sign they are not as committed.

[quickquesocheese]

When the gut feeling says so. I always rely on my instincts and they have been right before. Its not worth chasing someone eithere. I mean, getting an closure is nice but if they can't be bothered to be honest, just leave everything and move on your life. Its not worth it.

[purplepoppy]

Being interested in you does not mean you're our priority. Guys need to grow up and realise this.
Anyone who gets stroppy because you don't drop everything to answer is a control freak and probably a wife beater.

[Anonymous]

As soon as you decide it is. I've said a 1000 times on this site, "I'm not going to beg anyone to be a part of my life". They either want to make time for you or they don't. And if they don't they have other priorities. So cut them loose and let them chase those priorities. Because they've already chosen it in your mind they're just not informing you.

[MemeSupreme]

being busy vs no communication is different

like i can be very busy, but plan for a day to hang or i'll be active in being like "i'll let you know when i find out" and follow through

[MemeSupreme]

if they don't try then they don't care or lack energy lol

[Nikki1989]

People have lives to lead, jobs to do, people to care for. It can't always revolve around you.

[msc545]

When they say they are too busy to spend time with you and they don't suggest an alternate plan at that point you are finished or at least you should be.

[Justneedtokno]

When I’m the only person that’s reaching out and initiating all the conversation. Remember if they wanted to, they would.

[luvstoned4him]

Because we always make time for the things we are truly interested in..

[Pohjolan]

When they don't tell you when they do have time.

[Dongie]

Depending on the first delivery of that nugget maybe then.

[Guacamole409]

Nugget?

[Dongie]

🤣🤣🤣 yeah, nugget 😅

[beefcakebradybatson]

When they're ALWAYS busy.

[RavVid]

Most of the time I'd think.

[LiamJHayden]

Immediately.

[Guacamole409]

Once