Is it weird to you when people don't get their shit together until their late 20s or 30s?

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Get their shit together meaning drive on a regular basis, get their own car, finish college, get their own house or apartment, start dating, etc

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Not really. I didn't have my shit totally together until I was in my 30s.

I got my driver's license as soon as I turned 16 in 1970 and my parents gave me a car. That 1966 Rambler American 2 dr hard top wasn't fancy, but I sure had a lot of fun in it.

Later, my dad gave me his 1963 Buick Le Sabre 2 dr hard top. A couple years later, I bought a 1969 Chevy El Camino. After that, I bought a souped up, semi-race, 1972 El Camino.

I also got my first girlfriend when I was 16.

I always had a part time job, beginning when I was 14. One of them in high school was really good. After I graduated from high school I had full time jobs, except for a year when I milked unemployment as long as possible. LOL

After high school, I attended community college part time. I had no particular career goals in mind.

I was lead guitar and vocals in garage bands. I surfed, snow skied, skateboarded, went back packing and on all kinds of adventures, played lots of frizbee and sports with my friends, went to lots of rock concerts, was always active, smoked a lot of weed, and partied like a frat boy (not so much on booze).

My parents had never inhibited my behavior and I could come and go as I pleased, so I was comfortable living there when I was working part time and doing my thing. I could bring over girlfriends but I just didn't use their house to party.

When I was 26 1/2, I was handed a great career opportunity with excellent salary and amazing benefits. But I had to cut my rock star hair and start wearing a suit. That was kind of traumatic because I no longer recognized myself when I looked in the mirror. I didn't look like the people I used to hang out with, felt like a fraud in a suit, and had to learn how to act like a grown up.

I moved out of my parents house when I was 28 and bought a condo when I was 30. By then, I was also comfortable with my new persona, too.
So I guess that's when my shit finally started coming together.

I had a couple more amazing, long-term girlfriends over the ensuing years. Then I got married when I was 42.

My wife and I moved to a different part of the state when I was 46 and we bought our house when I was 48.

We joined a nondenominational church and I soon became the Board President of a local, environmental nonprofit. I learned how to speak in front of large audiences and became quite well known.

So getting my shit together was always an ongoing process and it is still continuing. LOL

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Not even a lot of people don't have it like others so it's going to take them a little bit more time and to be honest with you it's none of my business I don't look at them any different than I look at anybody else it is what it is and they're probably doing the best they can some people just having a little bit more easier than others

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, everyone runs in their own pace. Life really is a marathon and not a sprint. Of course there’s a bare minimum that’s expected of by the time you hit your late 20s. Like at least having a stable job, a roof over your head and a goal to actually get your shit together in mind. Thanks to the pandemic, a lot of people lost a couple of years busy trying to survive rather than building themselves up. I was doing great in my early 20s but then COVID happened and I lost it all, I even moved back in with my parents and sold my car… I’m only just now starting to get myself back to where I was. Shit happens but life goes on, it’s not a race.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

No. You don't get everything handed to you when you're young, so you're learning to work and financially balance yourself (which is tricky). It also depends on the individual and how they develop, since some people might be different and might need help with it. So, it'll take some people longer than others. Someone could be 21 and move out and live on their own just fine, but someone like me wouldn't do well with that just yet. To put it simple: Some people bloom early, and others bloom later. 🌼

AviatorTom · Answer

I know several people who still don't have their shit together, in their 50s and 60s.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all , especially with the way this country is today

Account · Answer

Nothing is weird to me anymore

rienna888 · Answer

No I know cuz I was lost in life, depression hit me and my mom was also verbally and mentally abusive. I did get my shit together in my late twenties. I think I’m actually doing better than a lot of people I know. My sister studied interior design right after high school, but she has trouble finding a job with good pay. I feel like I started slow but now I’m getting paid more than most of my family. I did nursing by the way. I also have a friend who was doing well and was smart but family problems and her father committing suicide lead her to drop out of university and working at a restaurant below minimum wage, so we really cannot judge others and what they’re going through.

DrPepper12 · Answer

It fascinates and disgusts me at the same time. I didn't and couldn't live like that yet my kids & their friends are quite content being useless parasites.

Do they have it rougher? Yeah. Boomers fucked us all over. Get over it. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have.

Is it weird to you when people don't get their shit together until their late 20s or 30s?

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, probably means they had some bumps in early life and parents/support system not there to get them going sooner. Felt lost, just went to work and did something.

Maybe some are spoiled rich brats.

Everyone is different.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’m 32 and some days, feels like I don’t have my shit together either.

Anonymous · Answer

Let's see here
Drive on a regular basis- medically exempt

Get their own car- see above

Finish college- actually did that

Get their own house or apartment- £50k for a downpayment on a run down ex-council place... I'll be dead before I pay it off

Start dating- I'm asexual and aromantic so have no interest in that sort of thing

LiamJHayden · Answer

The building near my rental units in Costa Mesa is charging $3250+RUBS/month for a small 2 bedroom. WIth those kinds of prices, it is no wonder than many people have a hard time getting out on their own.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

No. I don’t find it to be weird, when I see people in that age group with their things together, it makes me happy for them. Depending on where the people who don’t have it together live, it makes perfect sense to me.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Nope nothing wrong with it, a lot of people are not 100% over their careers until their 30’s.

rosemilk · Answer

no. especially since milestones are about 20x harder to achieve now...

Nikki1989 · Answer

25 is my cutoff point, but that is just me.  Everyone has their own timeline and path.

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah some people just take longer than others. I won't judge them for being slow pokes

NathanDavis · Answer

they got they shit together... good... that's, good

exitseven · Answer

kids today have a very protracted adolescence. Often well into their 30s.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Not these days, houses and cars are so over inflated in value alongside ridiculous interest rates on home and auto loans prices damn near everyone out of those markets.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

If a person seems to have his/her shit together, that just means you don't know this person very well. None of us have our shit together. We are all crazy lunatic freaks.

art84 · Answer

Everyone is different in life at accomplishing goals.

noohair · Answer

Some people never do, so when someone does, that is good.

Dnice1 · Answer

It typically happens around that time so it's perfectly normal

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, because there is a big economic crisis. I think the majority of GAG thinks like me. What do you think?

avery58 · Answer

As long as they do who gives a damn?

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, every life is different. Nobody is the same.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Some folk NEVER get it together !!!

itsgonnabemee · Answer

Not everyone is fortunate

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Age doesn’t matter DNA does

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