My girlfriend loves attention on social media. Is it disrespectful?

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My girlfriend loves attention on social media, constantly posting and seeking validation through likes and comments. I’m not sure how to handle it, as it’s starting to bother me. I don’t want to come across as controlling, but I feel uncomfortable with how much attention she seeks. Any advice?

[Finchie40]

You aren’t being controlling man , you are being disrespected , put your foot down to her ass and tell her if she doesn’t stop seeking validation and posting herself all over the internet? . you will be leaving her for a girl that doesn’t need constant validation period , that actually respects the relationship she is in , tell her how would she feel if you were doing that shit to her? If she says she would be fine with it? then tell her she will be fine being single as well and leave her ass. She clearly doesn’t respect you bro if she is seeking attention and validation from other men. , so you have every right to walk away from her and kick her to the curb where she belongs , if she doesn’t stop being disrespectful.

[HawkPerception]

I wouldn't necessarily say it's disrespectful, but I do think that her seeking/needing attention from others is only going to negatively impact your and all of her relationships.

I get that you're trying not to be controlling. It's tough to tactfully approach these kinds of scenarios, but I think you definitely need to address it. If she doesn't respect your thoughts and brushes you off, then you might want to consider leaving the relationship.

People that don't know how to communicate to solve issues in a relationship are not ready for mature relationships.

[natured]

it depends on her personality,
Some women post because they love posting, and showing off their life and whatever they are doing, but not to seek validation or attention, they just love sharing with the world whatever they're up to.
Other's, want validation yes...
And I don't think you will come off as controlling if you nicely ask her the reason for her posting so much. Make it seem like you are interested for the reason and see what she says.

[itsannalee]

I had over than 500k followers on my page and i kinda left social media now because my boyfriend was sad coz he thought i was seeking attention there. So i took down that page, and only use private account with 40k followers and rarely post any pics.


Sometimes we don’t really want to seek attentions, we just want to share.

[tzdc21]

Alright, let's get something straight. You having preferences and limits does not make you controlling. You are well within your right to have those things in a relationship, and you SHOULD have those things in a relationship. That being said, you should tell her how it makes you feel when she does that, not in a forceful manner, but in a way to make it clear to her that it bugs you. And if she still insists on doing it, well then that is a sign that she doesn't value you or your feelings very much, and it's a sign for you to dump her.

[MisterWack]

Tell her that you are uncomfortable with her constantly posting herself on social media….

Know that it isn’t disrespectful and a lot of people feel insecure or a need to show off what they have or else they’ll feel bad about themselves on social media also it is a “rush” getting likes & positive comments that it feeds into her posting constantly / staying active. It isn’t disrespectful though it could mess with her head…

Just remember to be respectful, empathetic, also sensible.

[Josey29]

Start praising her. Tell her she's the most beautiful woman you ever seen. Stop checking other women out in front of her, watching porn and liking other women's Instagram nudes.

If she not getting the attention from you... she'll get it someone else. If you're making her feel like she has competition... she'll remind you that you have competition as well.

Be the golden retriever.

[Josey29]

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[disappoint3d]

I would tell her if she wants you then she needs to take a week off the phone once a month if she's that absorbed in it, and tell her you want to spend time with her doing simple things together.

And if she can't start seeing that you will give her all the attention she should need, it might be time to reconsider your relationship. I know it might be something you don't want to break off, you might feel lonely, maybe she's just really hot. Believe me, I understand.

But living in her phone is not healthy. I hope she can see that you care about her enough to tell her you want more of her attention in exchange for yours.

[BetaBucks]

It's only controlling if you're demanding that she change her behavior. You can let her know that you don't like it, then leave her if she doesn't change. No ultimatums. She has the right to post whatever she wants and you have the right (more like obligation) to leave her if she keeps acting like a weirdo. I've broken up with girls or crossed them off the LTR list for much less. I wouldn't even have the conversation, like I suggested to you. I'd just move on.

[soe11]

• It is absolutely normal for some societies in today's cultures.
• As long as your relationship strong enough no need to worry about it.
• If your narrow minded then leave her and get new beginning with new girlfriend as your chemistry.
• Personally I don't mind with my husband.
• She love attention and wearing revealing outfits publically.

[SolitarySolace]

If she needs attention from other men and not from you and you alone she isn't as into you as she should be and I'd strongly recommend breaking up with her and finding a woman who actually cares more about your attention and not the attention of other men

[DrPepper12]

Don't know how long you guys have been together but if not very long this is actually a welcome development. It's strikes me first as shallow and a substitute for real human interaction, I think you should discuss it with her but you should expect her to take great offense to you criticizing her drug of choice

[avery58]

She probably doesn't think so but you do. I think you should address your feelings with her and tell her that you don't mean to come across as controlling but that you wanted to be honest about your feelings.

[Cripplingkingship]

This is a sign of low self esteem, when people have low self esteem, they have poor self image and always looking for validation.

Plus social can be addictive for the likes, so she is addicted to the validation plus low self esteem.

[Alwayreckles93]

In my opinion and point of view that is very disrespectful on her part especially considering she's in a committed relationship with you. I seriously can not understand people now a days it's like I walk in into a different world demention.

[Datboi65]

YES. The term "controling" is only there to gaslight you from legitimate complaint. If your girl likes attention from other men online, she shouldn't be your girl.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

Tell her how you feel about it. She either respects you or she doesn't and if she respects you she'll dial it back. And if she doesn't, well now you know about what she thinks of then. And what you do with that is up to you. I know what I'd do.

[Miristheiss]

Yes. 100%

This is clear behavior that shows she is NOT girlfriend material. You should downgrade this to friends with benefits and you also seeing other women or just break up outright.

[jshm2]

No. She's only your girlfriend, not your wife. She is free to do exactly whatever she likes, as are you.

She's earning her pay and validation that way, and you're just being jealous.

[DextroShade]

This is completely unacceptable and it sounds like you have a serious problem on your hands. This sort of narcissistic behavior would be a deal-breaker for me.

[Nikki1989]

Chances are, she is not getting what she wants from you. Lift your game.

[Radiate143]

Yes. I refuse to date a guy who posts thirst traps or posts selfies. And I won't entertain guys who follow insta models.

[Unap0logetic_]

Same, I agree with this 1000%.

[Radiate143]

@Unap0logetic_ keep those boundaries intact.

[MzAsh]

What’s she doing specifically that’s seeking attention vs just posting on social normally?

[jojouzumaki]

Let her know how you feel about it. You simply wanted to have a quality time together. That itself is not controlling at all.

[noohair]

Things have changed over the years. Not always for the good. I would not worry, because you can't stop her or change what society had done. You control yourself and that is about it. Good Luck.

[paledreams]

Only if you feel it's a wedge 😋 aka a sticking point -

[Crazyced]

How much of her posts/photos refer to you or have you in them?

[spartan55]

I'll guess zero.

[Anonymous]

in my humble opinion there is something deeply wrong with girls who seek these levels of attention. i understand couple posts here and there but all the time and exposing ALL your stuff. nah, that right here ain't normal

[Anonymous]

I despise show offs for attention getting when it deals with nudity or half nudes.

[Bẽllã3]

Missing content, is it a new thing? Did you know about that when you started dating her?

[Surely]

I wouldn’t like her doing it excessively, in my mind. I probably wouldn’t say around.

[Crazzyyworld]

She is a attention whore. Stop giving her attention

[Joe_Kirk]

Women are made different buddy. We should just accept

[joselyn002]

My opinion is may be if you are together you don't give her attention like social media

[thegreenyogi]

Tell her how you feel and talk it through.

[Thot_Stomper]

Depends on what she's wearing

[Anonymous]

Get a better girlfriend.

[jahaims]

Don't date someone so immature and broken

[In_Trance]

Is your age accurate?

[Anonymous]

It's just your turn.

[Anonymous]

How old is she?

[jazzy34]

🚩🚩 🚩

[jazzy34]

Also, this may seem like an unrelated question, but believe me, it’s relevant. Do you know what her relationship is like with her father? Sometimes, when a girl doesn’t get adequate love, affection, attention from her father, she seeks it from other men when she grows up.

[monkeymanoohaah]

Yes yes it is

[Cheerfull009]

No, it is not bad