Guys of GAG, what would you do if your girlfriend rejected your proposal just based on the fact that the ring didn't cost enough?

[Anonymous]

Fun story, a good friend of mine proposed to his girlfriend, now ex, the ring was white gold, custom designed with diamonds and sapphires. It cost a total of 2500 dollars. She rejected based on how much it costs. She literally told him that unless the ring cost between 25k and 50k there was no way in hell she would say yes. And now she is homeless, because he kicked her out, changes the locks, and put her stuff on the front lawn with a sign "free to a good home".

Guys what would you do in his situation?

[Sheriblossom]

I'm 23. Every girl has an idea of what her wedding ring might look like, what her wedding dress would be like, what the wedding would be like etc. But I wouldn't blindside my partner with my expectations of how much the ring should cost. I firmly believe that yes, it should cost something significant, and the guy shouldn't be looking to cheap out. I don't expect my ring to be 25k or 50k so I think that is shocking. For me, a fair amount is 6K - 8K. But it depends on how much the guy makes. If he's more than capable of buying her a ring that costs that much, then I would ask why he cheaped out on her. I think that you should show sincerity in your proposal by getting her something she would like. What I am more surprised by is that it seems like neither partner talked about this ahead of time. I feel like even a simple conversation around this could've alleviated the confusion, and perhaps both partners could've come to a reasonable conclusion about what ring to get and how much it should cost.

[Asker]

Lmao, gold digger. You place more value in a piece of metal, than you do the relationship.. Sad. See my response to the other commenter.

[Sheriblossom]

Not sure which response you mean. But again, it is extreme for guys to believe that no value should be placed on said "piece of metal". Just something your WIFE will wear on her body for the rest of her life, and it symbolizes your marriage and commitment, she will bear your children, etc. Even in nature, you see animals put in effort to impress their mates. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but it's sad to see how things have changed. I'm not sure why you are asking for opinions if you already have your mind made up on what the right answer is.

[Asker]

If you knew the history of engagement rings you'd be singing a different tune. Prior to 1920, engagement rings didn't exist, only wedding bands did. So no you're not old fashioned, you're materialistic. The only reason engagement rings exist is a diamond company advertising them as necessary. Debeers.. They are literally the ones that invented them as a marketing stunt. They even set their value st three months salary.

So tell me again how you're old fashioned, when you follow a tradition invented by corporate greed..

So yes you're materialistic, you're a gold digger, and the fact thst you have a number in mind on what he should spend is a huge red flag because it says you plave more value in something with artificial value, than a relationship with someone you supposedly love. It's narcissistic in the extreme.

[Asker]

And the comment I spoke of was to someone else

"Dude my wife's engagement ring was just over 100 dollars. We have been together 12 years. And yes she knows how much it cost.

I did have it combined with the wedding band, and on our 10th anniversary, I had additional stones added to it."

[Sheriblossom]

So let me ask you then, many guys are willing to meet those expectations. Not in a beta "I'm a simp" way either. But in a way that makes them exude masculinity, makes many view the girl as extremely lucky, and like she has picked someone who really cares about her and adores her. So what does it say about the guys who do meet those expectations? Again, I think it's a bit extreme to say a girl is a gold digger if she wants to have a nice wedding ring. And honestly, I feel like it comes from the man's insecurity about his ability to provide and his money situation. If he was truly able to provide, I think he would be proud of the fact the he is able to take care of his woman and satisfy her in buying her something she likes. It wouldn't be a big deal to him at all. There are guys out here buying luxury handbags, and a bunch of other things that seem "pointless" and they do it with pride. So I find it funny that having expectations for a wedding ring is somehow crazy. But I'll just leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

Done! I'm not a materialistic person. And if she is that's fine. But this will not work between us if that's her take. And before someone calls me cheap, I do consider this an important purchase and I would spend about 10k. But 25k to 50k? F*** no! That's ridiculous.

[Asker]

Dude my wife's engagement ring was just over 100 dollars. We have been together 12 years. And yes she knows how much it cost.

I did have it combined with the wedding band, and on our 10th anniversary, I had additional stones added to it.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand man. If you asked me this same question 25 years ago I'd be getting it out of a crackerjack box.😆
I think that cool that you keep adding to it. Why wouldn't a woman prefer that. It's like symbolically saying "our love grows".

[Asker]

My thoughts exactly. It started with a single sapphire. And I added more sapphires (her favorite stone), one for every year of marriage, arranged in an infinity symbol. Her um female friends originally insulted her ring, and now they are jealous.

[Juxtapose]

I would dump her lol. That's more than I make in a year.

[sirderpsalot123]

Dump her lol