How would you feel if your fiancé gave you a cheap proposal ring even though they have a lot of money?

Question

My fiance has $50k and got me a ring that cost $50. It's starting to turn green.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you and your finance need to have a talk about finances.

To all the people saying "loves isn't about money blah blah", if you want your partner to wear something everyday for the rest of his/her life, then you better take the time and be willing to foot a little money to get the right gift FOR THEM.

Just because you don't think an expensive ring is important, doesn't mean that you should DENY your partner what they want. Chances are they don't need a 5k or 10k, but yes $50 is hella cheap and a sign that you're only willing to invest 4-7 hours of minimum wage income (depending on your state) on your forever person.

If you are OK spending $200 on a gaming console for yourself, please be willing to buy a ring that's double that. If you literally don't have money, never go out, can't 'afford' a ring, then for heavens sake, save some money, wait a few months and don't disappoint your partner.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

How much someone loves you shouldn't be measured by how much they spend on a ring that's only meant to be a symbol...
What's more important to you? A man that loves you and wants to marry you? Or an expensive ring?
Maybe you should think about that before getting married...

Lliam · Accepted Answer

That ring tells you what he thinks of you. It's like he knew he was supposed to give you a ring when he proposed, so found the cheapest ring possible. He doesn't care if the engagement ring that you are supposed to cherish for the rest of your life is garbage. Even a simple $180 gold band would have been sweet.
I'll bet he would throw a fit and call you a gold digger if you said anything.

Does he make you split the bill when he takes you out, too?

This, to me, would be a signal of what you're in for if you marry him. Sounds like a nightmare.

RationalMale · Accepted Answer

Now you know how he got that 50k lol, by being frugal.

I knew a couple, the girl loved loved loved that the guy was debt free and had a very very nice asvings account relative to the mboth. He's like mid 20's, she's early 20's. Then she was upset he bought her a cheap ring.

The dude was living in a cheap rental sharing a townhouse, living off cheap groceries and never eating out or drinking, making terrible pay but had tons of savings. She was then somehow shocked her ring was off etsy for a few hundred. Did she not see that coming?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

So you know now that he is cheap. Still wanna get married?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not big into jewelry so the price part wouldn't be the big deal, but for this particular thing that I am supposed to wear  for the rest of my life , I don't think it's too much to ask my fiancé to put thought into it. Getting married is a pretty huge step, and if he just went to Costco last minute to buy whatever was up front on sale with no more thought than that, that would be the bit that would irritate me. I think most guys will at least ask a friend or family member or even sneakily try to ask you what kind of ring you'd like because it is a gift and a promise to you, not to/for them and vice versa when you buy a ring for him so as long as some thought was put into it, price wouldn't matter.

Moose304 · Answer

50K is NOT rich! A man that is only worth 50K should be on his purpose and putting off marriage for now! As to the value? My mom's older sister was born back in 1906 and married a guy that returned from fighting WW1! My uncle had his last pay in his pocket and a job working at a local filling station. My aunt's wedding band was a toy ring I think out of a box of Cracker Jacks. Still, she treasured that ring until the day she died. It was put up in a locked box and replaced with a nicer ring a few years later.

lilyanony1 · Answer

A ring that is turning green isn't cool. But if it was a spare of the moment thing. And he wanted to do the proposal so you knew he was serious sure.
But I'd like to think he'd look at something a bit more reasonable.
They say it's usually a couple of payslips or something to cover the cost of the ring.

But this was all about the war. Making sure if he didn't return the woman and the family had something they could sell to make ends meet...

I would love to get married but I also think it's really important that the man and I do this in a way that doesn't affect our finances

DaveJord · Answer

I would feel freaked out because I think marriage is huge mistake... the whole concept of it is primitive and misconstrued. The fact you're worried about cost of the ring is a prime example as to why I always advice men against marriage.

If you really loved him, would it matter? No, it wouldn't, and why does the guy have to buy a ring to begin with? Whats the piont of that? The ring literally means nothing, it's just a archaic social convention pushed on men by jewelry companies... and its sexist, why don't women buy thier men engagements rings when they accept?

Get over your self and be happy that you found a fool of a man to want to marry you to begin with.

Cherry234 · Answer

He doesn't necessarily have to give you an expensive ring but the fact that the ring is turning green is very concerning. He clearly didn't think this through. If he excepts you to wear a ring for a lifetime then he should at least gift you a quality ring. Don't listen to some of these people who are shaming you. They have no idea what they're talking about so I wouldn't mind them.

Hellodownthere · Answer

I'll go against the grain here. Fifty bucks? That's less than a tank of gas these days. I spend more than that on wine every week. That's cheap. But that's what he's saying you're worth. . . a tank of gas. Here's your cheapshit ring, will you marry me? Men are supposed to provide. I don't see a lot of provisions in your future.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I wouldn't care honestly. I think it's stupid to spend thousands on a ring. I'd be happy with anything. It's the thought the counts not how much you spend. Love cannot be nought. I would take it if he did I'd be very appreciative but I'd be happy with small ring with any stone. I don't need a huge real diamond.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Some of us never ever experienced getting proposed (and end up leaving the man when we find out he never wanted marriage, wasting our time and years keeping us as a forever ''girlfriend''... never getting out of that stage) meanwhile you already got out of the girlfriend stage; you got what most of us want and you're still complaining about the ring being cheap?

I would be happy if I were even proposed with a plastic ring.

Dburns1268 · Answer

Be happy u have one. I'm 51 yo, been married twice and have never rcvd any jewelry from any guy. Does he have a good heart? Does he love u? Will he provide for u and a future family? If yes, then stop bitching!! He's a good man and jewelry is materialistic!!

molonski2 · Answer

The ring means little/ nothing , he only has 50 k he certainly shouldn't be sending 1000s on a ring , its a very wise move on his part , and has nothing to with your relationship , he is a clever and practical guy , what is far worse is the idiots who spend a plethora , good move by him.

You are far more important things to be concerned about.

PeterCruz · Answer

I do think engagement rings are a waste of money. I’d rather give it to charity than buy a 4k ring that’s worthless after leaving the shop. If you don’t have a house of your own buy that first, rather than ring.

Just ask him why he spent no money? Maybe he’s got plans for a house

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Soooo... ''what's your price, sugar-lady?''
Perhaps his expenses are based on the value he sees in you.

In the 21st century, where women have more rights than ever before - and regarding ''entitlement'' exceeding these rights towards an imbalance AGAINST men (who are humans as well) - a silly ring has become just a symbol.
Any will do, as long as it's meant sincerely.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I would be less annoyed that it's cheap and more annoyed that it's turning green and won't last. If the ring doesn't symbolize anything then why get it?

Anonymous · Answer

Well when you think about it, it's a silly thing to buy in the first place (not necessary in my opinion lol). So why break the bank on something like that? And if it's supposed to be a "symbol", then it really shouldn't matter what it costs right (because it's not about money but what it symbolizes)?

howhigh420 · Answer

it doesn't matter how much it cost its obv all he could afford he may get you a better one once he saves up if u feel its not good enough but he obv still loves you and wants to marry u wich means more than money ever could

Blackcupcake · Answer

lol…  I wouldn’t care about the price, but I do want it to last… and I want him to have loved it when picking it out. that would be more than enough to make me happy.

SnakeBoop · Answer

Not worth marrying if he goes do cheap the ring turns green. £50 is more than enough for a decent ring here

TrueConfection · Answer

I'd be worried that he's so cheap you won't ever get a vacation and arguments might happen frequently over finances. If it's just a test to find out how much you love him, I'd be worried about future tests/playing games.

888theGreat · Answer

how cheap , what do you think of this one? 950 Platinum and Tanzanite . I also have one that is $24,000 2 CT white diamond and 1 ct in Columbian Emeralds. Someone lady may get lucky with me some day.

2021biguy · Answer

You should see if he still wants to marry you after 6 months or a year. Maybe he got it out of a cracker jack box, lol. but it's the thought that counts. If someone took time to make a hand made card it's much nicer than an expensive store bought card. How much was the ring that you bought him cost?

Isismoonie · Answer

Bad especially because my partner would know a cheap ring would make me feel like I’m not worth much in their eyes

Dinklex3 · Answer

"Babe, the ring you gave me is turning green. Can I just buy my own? " I think I'd laugh about it tbh lol.

jamesgoldman · Answer

He got conned if he dropped £50 on such a piece of trash, I've had plenty of gold rings for less than that (some of the lightweight ones probably still are)

In silver you could do well for that budget

Squaresquirrel · Answer

If an expensive ring is that important to you, maybe you should not think about marriage. It's supposed to be symbolic.

Daniela1982 · Answer

I would feel that he thought our relationship was only worth 10 cents of some damn kid's game to him. And also I would realize he really like those Cracker Jacks prizes, especially the rings.

melanieeeB · Answer

I own a ring, that I paid only 12€ for and it's still shiny and silver after 4 years of daily use... so it only depends on the quality

WonderBell99 · Answer

He is a cheapskate. However, I would not be bothered as long as he truly loved me. Maybe he is working on something better.. or maybe he just wanted to be financially smart?

sheikalana · Answer

oh I mean even if he just wanted to get something more affordable he should have still checked the quality of the jewelry. I would stop wearing it. we don’t wear jewelry that leaves our fingers green.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

Honestly, I'd be more interested in the material of it because I'm allergic to most of the stuff out there xD If I like the ring visually, then I do not care about its value.

XXblack88 · Answer

The price of the ring wouldn't be that big of a deal to me but the fact that it's turning green would concern me.

shaysh87 · Answer

it depends on whether he can afford something better. some guys are so poor , a 50 dollar ring is all they can afford. but if you know he has money, its a huge red flag.

jshm2 · Answer

Quit bitching. It's only a proposal ring. He could give you an onion ring for all that it matters. You're already showing you're not deserving of the wedding ring, deary.

HawkPerception · Answer

Ask yourself this simple question. Is the value of the ring equivalent to his love?

IMuser · Answer

Just ask him why? Maybe he is saving for something or does not give a fuck about the ring and maybe planning something else?

Iron_Man · Answer

That would be pretty cheap but I don’t like the little tiny gold band what can you get that actually looks good I can’t stand those little tiny thin gold bands while they get the gold mine on their finger

Subarugirl · Answer

My husband bought me an inexpensive ring, and I didn't have an issue with it. We've been married for 5 years now.

thistle4 · Answer

If I let a ring get to me then there are probs other problems

Guy13 · Answer

YOU PICKED HIM…. I Would have not. THANK GOD, THAT ONE IS OFF MARKET, says…. ALL THE OTHER WOMEN IN THE LAND 🙀

devilish-cutie · Answer

I would def aak him why he boight such cheap ring to understand his reasoning

Cuminginside · Answer

It turned green, could that be an indicator of a future infection?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Heck, I bought my first ex-girlfriend an engagement ring that cost $200 + she broke off the engagement so I got the ring back.

Anonymous · Answer

Poor guy, your question suggests you are more into money that into him. Reminds me of Dudley from Harry Potter: "Last year I got 100 gifts, so why did I get only 99 this year?"

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Could be testing you, perhaps it's bait, if I was going to Mar a girl, i wouldn't want her chasing my money

Drumlin2001 · Answer

So you only want expensive things? £50k isn't a lot of money in context of life, barely a deposit for a house.

Anonymous · Answer

If you love him he could give you a candy ring to propose and you should be happy. So the question is, do you love him or his money?

IsoUser · Answer

I gave my fiance a 2 and half carat diamond ring in college and married her, in the end I married her and we grew apart we just grew apart as we grew up emotionally and physically so we decided to go our separate ways and grew apart.

sean1234 · Answer

You don't need a ring, it's just a silly tradition of man.

driven159 · Answer

It is the size of the proposal not the size of the ring people i know that have been married for over 30 years most of them have plain band so if she complains about the ring then don't marry her save the money and move on

nofilterhonesty · Answer

Do you want material or a partner? People are worth more than things

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

If you think it's selfish for someone to buy you a cheap ring, then what's your selfish reason why you need an expensive one?

MuddyMole · Answer

How much did you spend on the ring that you bought for him?

Wise4myage · Answer

What a cheap bastard, shows you how much he values your love and affection.

Selena1987 · Answer

Other things are ok between you and your parter? If so, be patient and look what happened later But if you have some other problems, it shows he doesn’t valorise you

Mangospacho · Answer

Have you asked him for a better ring? What was his response? If you hate the ring, which is understandable, why not just ask him for a better one?

XhmadRooz · Answer

Rich Are are Animal and Dry minded. They thrive on dumping their things on others so they can keep those money they earned.

gdillon78 · Answer

If you do you're an a****** if you love the person you should be happy ring is just a symbol of it a expensive ring is a symbol of you valuing material things over the more important things in this world

maverick2022 · Answer

Expensive engagement rings are just a marketing scam.

linka_pat307 · Answer

No reason to feel bad as long as he loves mi and wants mi

Jamie05rhs · Answer

He probably made a wise choice. Because here you are already questioning him. You should just be thrilled that he wants to marry you.

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