What do I do about what my fiancée said? I’m so lost and need help?

[Anonymous]

I knew he’d been a bit down and he finally spoke out about it.
Since we got together, he gave up his nice car and motorbike so we could save up for a house and wedding. The place we moved to isn’t great but it’s not bad either and it should be for less than 12 months.

He essentially started saying how he misses his boy toys and I said well you can’t have everything right now you have to wait and work hard for things in life. He said he had those things and it hurt. He also said he knew he could have those things but it would mean not having me and so he wouldn’t be truly happy but he’s not completely happy now… obviously that made me feel not good enough.

He brought up our differences because we like different things and I said that’s fine as long as you love the other person. We are allowed to be different!! I just thought that you wouldn’t really say that to someone you love. You’d just have your own hobbies and let them get on with theirs.

The thing is, now I feel like he’s just staying with me for the house because I earn good money and I've got potential to earn even more now. He wants the house as a step to becoming self employed so he can do it all up.

What should I do about this?

[Daniela1982]

So he gave up things he loved and worked for just for you. My question is what have you given up for him? Or is this just a gimmie gimme type relationship? I don't know it even pays to try and save up for a house in this economy with the rate of inflation keeps going up. If we have the predicted recession you could even lose a house if you bought one now.

[Asker]

We have decided to get a nice luxury car together now ☺️ We’ve also decided it makes no sense to do without nice things when we can still save over time and enjoy ourselves

[LazerBean]

A grown-ass man bought boy toys instead of a house? Was an 8-year-old child his financial advisor? And not on top of that he's crying about it? Bad, bad sign. Not likely to be anything good that comes from him.

[Guy13]

You are over reacting. He is simply expressing a feeling of loss. It is normal. You need not make a big deal out of it.

[Asker]

Seems like a big list of things that’s wrong with me tbh or what he can’t get now because of me or why he needs me to be able to get x y and z and that’s why we’re still together

[Guy13]

Do not punish him for being honest or he will clam up and never share his heart again.

[Asker]

No I won’t ☺️

[Anonymous]

See a therapist.

[Asker]

I am looking at it

[Opinion Owner]

Cool