Do you empathize with men who can't attract women or find a girlfriend?

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Bellona · Accepted Answer

No, because it means there is something wrong with them.

e. g. you got no money, why would a woman like you.

you have no teeth, how could a woman like you. it's rough but you can change that, work hard and do something about it.

Lazy, why would a woman like you.

Do you have a mental disability? Then only date people in your league who get you.

are you interesting? do you do anything outside of work, do you have hobbies, is there anything you can talk about?

can you build strong connections with people generally? if you struggle then you will with the ladies.

Why do you want a girlfriend? your reason, although not expressed to girls may be clear and may creep them out, girls generally who want a relationship, want to be friends with their man if you know what I mean. Its not all about getting physical, girls have different minds then guys.

Don't make everything about you. girls pick that up, girls love the police and firemen because they sacrifice themselves for others. what is your job? if not sacrificing do something outside of work. Help the old, the poor, be involved in the community, don't be a bum at home.

It is so attractive when a man is in service to others.

Are you in shape?

Do you smell?

What are you living for and who? we are all gonna die one day so you better have an answer to share with a girl. Are you indecisive, that is really unattractive.

Whoever posted this just know you should generally attract something of equal value to you so if you want 'her' then you got to be basically her but the guy version. look in your league.

Feel free to ask me questions.

Account · Accepted Answer

I do not empathize with things I do not consider tragedies. I consider it silly to empathize towards someone for that reason. It is too minuscule. The world is on fire. I don't have it in me to empathize about someone crying over the fact that they cannot attract a partner be it a man or a woman.

incorrected · Accepted Answer

I do, though that's dependant on some factors. There are some who don't deserve partners, and there are others who are the second option for women once they hit the wall who were otherwise decent and everything they were told to be when they were younger. The later kind I empathise with. I also empathise with women who can't attract a man, because it's usually because they're very ugly and can't do much about it. You otherwise don't hear about women not being able to attract a man though, because that game is biologically rigged.

It's not just a question of attracting women though, it's whether or not you can find a "good" woman, whatever that means to you. Average guys who don't offer money and regularly lie about their true opinions don't tend to get women, or at least not for long. Put it this way, an average looking woman who hasn't started a family by 30 to 35 at the latest has almost certainly slept around and skipped over a LOT of viable options that she could have easily had. It's a LOT harder for an average man to find an average woman to settle with and the male singleness rate is double that of women in the under 30s for a reason. There's a reason the average age of marriage is the average age of "the wall" (31 iirc). Try not offering money, and you're not getting married as a dude.

Read Ecclesiastes 9:11

I have seen something else under the sun:

The race is not to the swift
or the battle to the strong,
nor does food come to the wise
or wealth to the brilliant
or favor to the learned;
but time and chance happen to them all.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Yeah. It's rough out there for guys in society. Social media has inflated women's egos and made them narcissistic. Feminism has made them entitled. The majority of feminists don't look for equality. They look for superiority.

And with the spike of females in this day and age that have the "strong independent woman/I don't need a man" mentality make it even harder for men to find partners.

I personally find that there are many girls with zero accountability or logic when it comes to relationships.

Don't get me wrong now. There are some girls that have a head on their shoulders. They're empathetic and logical. But those are definitely in the minority. There are also a lot of creepy guys out there with zero social tact and approach women incorrectly or make undesired sexual advances.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Statistically there are now more single men in the United States then at any time in history. Over 60% of young men under 30 are now single.

For you ladies leaving negative comments about bachelors: do you really think that this is completely the fault of men?

https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/10yaru4/us_adults_under_30_are_the_most_likely_age_group/

MisterWack · Answer

Yes!

I empathize with everyone struggling whether a minor issue or a major issue. I’ve empathized for a lot of women on here failing to pick up dates and have a meaningful intimate relationship blossomed by love & sprouted into something more so I definitely take it seriously regardless of gender.

Whatever the guys are going through, I’m sure there is a beautiful girl who is kind, compassionate, sweet and warm welcoming for you who you can talk to about anything & will comfort you / support you all the way just as you’d do for her. Don’t stop looking, just take a break and once it is over try finding her again. You deserve the best!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, I can empathize with men who struggle with attracting partners. It can be a frustrating and disheartening experience for anyone, regardless of gender. However, it just means you are doing something wrong or have serious character/personality flaws.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I sympathize with people who, because of tragedies like an illness or an accident, are not able to find a close person, even friends, out of family... the rest must work on their flaws...

morganherrel · Answer

I think the dating market right now supports many men of basic quality who can't find girlfriends. It sucks to be them. They just aren't good enough to compete for the limited slots. That's life! Still, I can imagine how frustrating and painful it could be for them.

But I don't think the same is true for women. in my opinion there is really no excuse for a girl to be unable to find dates. 100% of them should be able to unless they are seriously ill or deformed. If they can't, there is often one obvious solution that will fix the problem while also saving time and money.

lowkanymous · Answer

i think it's 100 percent possible for at least one person to be attracted someone. most of the time it's not good men that can't attract women, there's always a reason. i know a few really sweet guys who just can't talk to girls for the life of them, so obviously i sympathize with them.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

In truth, I don't empathize with such wishes , it doesn't talk to me. I have only one friend  apparently  suffering from this position, and I empathize because it's a friend, because he knows he's looking at this problem the wrong way, so it helps me relating to.

BruceJender · Answer

I mostly do, especially for my mates who are genuinely good guys.

It's difficult because dating standards have skyrocketed over the last decade.

However, some guys who have been single most if not all their lives need help - personality-wise - they're fucking dogs.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yea, that's misery... a version of hell. It is the cause of much human destruction. I think in most cases, it's their status and how they project that's the issue. It's a developmental issue, not women. That was my experience.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I think for these people, for the most part isn't that they can't, they roadblock themselves, by either lacking to put effort in themselves, physically and mentally and/or their behavior and how they behave around women.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Why specifically men? For every single guy who can't find a girlfriend, there is a single girl who can't find a boyfriend.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Not particularly. If someone like me can have little trouble, I feel like most people can find someone.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Then i go off with the 6ft4 bad boy with tats

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Yep, because I never found the correct one for me. I’ve just gone through the motions. Love is work, so like work choose the job the you love to do but also one that has a good return on the investment of your time/life as well.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. Used to sympathize, but incels ruined anynshred of sympathy I had for them.

Anonymous · Answer

Some and some not. I don't know every situation. Everybody acts like they know what every other person on this planet is going through. But you don't. Some are not trash but they get no one and some are trash and they get lots.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I empathize with men who make an effort to change and improve. Not with butthurt boys who demand sympathy and chooses to wallow in despair.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on whether they're putting effort to get dates or not. And whether they're being realistic about who they can attract or not.

Unit1 · Answer

U-huh. That's me! So I downloaded me a cute AI Girlfriend

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. It's false premise. ANYONE can attract SONEONE. You don't need a lot of work to do it, you need REFLECTION, ASSISTANCE and VULNERABILITY.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

yes of course, that's how I feel without a boyfriend

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Well he'll I am a man who can't attract a women... but it's not all that bad. Sucked a bit when I was younger but as you age. you start to rapidly realize just how miniscule women are in life and that love just isn't very enjoyable or important.

avery58 · Answer

Kind of. I know what it's like to feel lonely but for different reasons.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Yes, as long as there’s not a red flag that causes them to miss out.

Seinna · Answer

Of course. Not only men, but women too. And the elderly. Loneliness is a terrible thing.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

I'm in stuck in this and can't get out. 😞💔

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes many of these men are pickier than they should be and sometimes in addition to lacking in physical attributes they lack in many other aspects too.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. Those type of men don't have a girlfriend because they are just lazy, super entitled or have some ridiculous expectations.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really because most of them have shit personalities.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, because it's MUCH harder for us to find of girlfriend than a broad to snare a boyfriend.

foxsquirrell · Answer

Yeah its a misfortune. And a very significant one at that.

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

It depends on what they intend to do to fix the issue.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I saw it happening and beat the game by remaining single

robocop666 · Answer

their called incels I feel forry for them its not their fault

Anonymous · Answer

Only if they are short because otherwise they could get a girl if they worked on themselves

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, of course I empathize, because I have the same issue.

Avicenna · Answer

Of course

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yeah, because I'm one!!

noohair · Answer

Social Media has fu@ked up generations of men.

grega239 · Answer

As one of those men, no i dont.

Anonymous · Answer

No but I do feel bad for them

Twalli · Answer

Yeah, because that was me until 27

CB-Raido-Time · Answer

Why would you want to attract trouble?

Anonymous · Answer

Sucks to be them!

the29thhuman · Answer

Not for a second.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I do.

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no.

In_Trance · Answer

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