Women that say "Why can't I find a guy like you"?

[Anonymous]

RANT: Why is it that women say "why can't I find a guy like you" always the ones that turn down the nice guy to go for the ****hole. Then turn around and cry that they can't find a nice guy to treat them right?! Its like.. I gave you a chance, its not that hard to find a nice guy you just need look at what's standing right in front of you and not over their shoulder!

I'm guilty of being one of those girls that doesn't see what's right in front of me.

I like being treated like sh*t & being in an unstable relationship

Nice Guys are SUPPOSE to come last.. its just the way it works.

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

Women like nice guys, but they aren't ATTRACTED to them.

This is why they are f***ed up - what they're attracted to isn't what they want emotionally. It's just the way they're born, sadly. :/

So when they choose to go out with a nice guy, more often than not they are sacrificing ATTRACTION to get a better EMOTIONAL connection. For guys, this would sort of be like dating a really ugly girl, or one without any sexual features, but who has a kick-ass personality. Just picture it - a girl who loves doing the things you do, is always willing to hang out with you, makes you feel nice... but you just don't feel like having sex with her. If you can picture that, you'll have a pretty good idea of what it's like for a girl to go out with a nice guy.

When she chooses to be with a bad guy though, she's sacrificing that emotional connection. The guy makes her feel unworthy. The guy doesn't seem to care about her. The guy acts like she doesn't mean anything to him. But none of that matters because she is ATTRACTED to him. And I don't just mean physically (in fact, it has very little to do about what he's like physically). It's about how he acts, what he says and does. That's what makes the girl attracted to him. This is why any douchebag can get a girl to fall for him - they just gotta know how to act and what to say. And almost NONE of those things are things nice guys usually do.

So the trick here is to learn the balance between being nice, and being a jerk. You can't be TOO nice, too perfect, or make it seem like everything is wonderful all the time, or the girl will get bored. That is the sad truth for every nice guy out there. Every now and then, they will have to make the girl feel like trash if they ever want her to feel attracted to him.

[dudeman]

Your got it all wrong man you got it all wrong....there is a huge difference from being a nice guy and being a bitch.

[TimeAndTimeAgain]

No I do not have it all wrong, actually. There is a difference between being a nice guy, and being a bitch. But that difference is irrelevant - girls aren't attracted to either type of nice guys.

"Nice guy" isn't a synonym for wuss, or insecurity. While it's true that there are a lot of nice guys out there who are wusses and/or insecure, that isn't why girls aren't attracted to them. It's just there's nothing attractive about a nice guy. THAT'S why girls don't feel like getting with them.

[Killfest400]

TimeAndTimeAgain, I'd say your answer is absolutely correct. When women say they want "a guy like you", they mean they want a confident (cocky and arrogant work well, too) jerk that's not going to cheat on them or leave them, not that they want a genuinely nice guy. They just want a guy just nice enough not to leave them, because the jerks are the challenge and get them really excited.

[Anonymous]

I think saying "Why can't I find a guy like you" is kinda of like saying, Hey there, don't feel bad, second place isn't such a bad thing. I don't think its an evolution thing because most of the "bad boys" aren't at the top of the evolution chain. But maybe a girl can answer this better.

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[AutumnsMonologue8]

Maybe I'm the only girl on Earth, but I am attracted to nice guys. I've seen enough a**holes treat my mom and friends like sh*t and I don't want that for myself. I think it comes with maturity though, because I've noticed that some women, as they get older, focus less on status and good looks and more on sincerity, ambition, and respect. You need to find yourself a woman, not a girl.

Of course, likewise, I've seen plenty of nice guys completely brush past me and find a girl who treats them like sh*t.

[dudeman]

listen man if your gonna be a females friend that you like your not being a nice guy your putting them in a situation that they don't want to be in and you don't want to be in. you got to learn that what your doing is being a bitch and a coward not a nice guy. most girls don't want to make the first move, being a nice guy means being a leader and taking what's yours. not just being nice. your a hunter so hunt

[snackeyg]

I hear this sh*t all the time. I'm like ok... then why the f*** aren't we dating?

[BadAnna]

True that. Most guys could use this same advice.