Is it ok to ask him out first?

[MoonFace2]

Someone told me that I’m beautiful. He’s been talking and flirting, but acting shy as well. He’s cute and he seems fun to talk to. Should I continue to get to know him better, or ask him out first? I usually have to ask men out first. They always assume incorrectly that I’m taken.

[Finchie40]

Nothing wrong with making the first move , especially if the other person seems shy and nervous to open up their mouth , so if you like him , Go for it , some people just don’t have to confidence to ask someone out , they just assume they aren’t interested or assume they are already taken , if people were more confident about themselves they would realize asking someone out really isn’t that hard to do , Me personally would rather have an answer than no answer at all , just the way I look at things. I use to be shy when I was younger , but once I got passed that shy stage and opened my mouth , I realized how stupid I was for being shy in the first place

[236color]

Yes it is. Now be aware, it is possible he will say no, not as big a risk as if he were to ask you but still possible.

[SueShe]

I mean no disrespect to your looks but if a guy that is flirting tells you that you are beautiful, he says it because he has very specific intentions with you.

Flirting, by definition means:

"a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

We all know what a "deeper relationship" means in this context.

He is simply trying to get into your pants and for that, guys are practically ready to prostitute themselves.

Depends what YOUR intentions with this guy are.

[MoonFace2]

It’s true that I am beautiful. So he wasn’t exaggerating. But it’s quite possible that yes, he wants a shag 😊. I met him on a somewhat seedy dating site 😊

[MoonFace2]

I am more the kind that wants marriage.

[SueShe]

I did not insinuate anything about your looks but I was more under the impression that he is indeed looking for something more physical.

My apologies for having been inconsiderate.

[MoonFace2]

It’s fine 🥰. I thought you raised a good and valid point

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[236color]

I'm always a bit confused by this attitude of, "Well he just wants sex." Did you think there are men out there looking for someone to marry and be celebrate with? Sex is part of the relationship package, if it's not you're just friends. Now this doesn't mean you have to have sex on the first date, but it means that there is an implicit understanding that at some point sex is possible if not likely. It seems women are looking for a relationship first, secondary what man to have it with. Men are looking for a woman, if she's the one he wants, THEN he thinks about what kind of relationship, (provided he's ready).
The sex before marriage thing is a bit of a two edged sword, I understand. You're face the double standard of, sex too soon and he drops you because you're "easy", not soon enough and he drops you because he figures it's never going to happen. Again, thinking of heterosexual relationships, they are by definition, sexual. That it itself does not make him not marriage material. So don't discount him because he wants to have sex with you, if he didn't, he wouldn't be interested at all.

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely! There's no rule that says men always have to make the first move. If you're interested in someone, go for it!

[AviatorTom]

Of course it's okay, especially if the guy is shy. Go for it!

[Truthatanycost]

You said that you usually need to ask guys out first because they incorrectly assume you are taken. Surely communicating that you are single should solve that problem and that can easily be done through conversation. Most will tell you to ask the guy out but that is rarely ever in a female's nature. If a guy is flirting but not asking, then he's probably not interested.

[Darwin_n_chill]

Yes, especially in the post me too era, men are much more nervous than they used to be about making moves with women. If you like him, ask him out. Men do not have a negative view of this generally the way that women sometimes do. In scientific studies, relatively attractive researchers asking random men and women on campus if they would have sex with them found that 79% of men said yes. So trust me, it won't bother him.

[Jay-_-]

I don't know what you're waiting for, just ask me out already. (Before you go insane and go all cannibal on me this was just a pure joke, I am not delusional nor am I actually implying this is truthful in any way)

[MoonFace2]

lol yeah, I don’t know any nineteen year olds. Your pictures don’t look familiar either.

[Jay-_-]

Stooooop don't be humbly oblivious solar eclipse, my shooting star, it's me.

[MoonFace2]

Who is ‘me?’

[Jay-_-]

We met three minutes ago you don't remember 😭😂

[MoonFace2]

Lol no I forgot

[Jay-_-]

🤣😭

[MoonFace2]

So, when you say not to be humbly oblivious, are you saying we actually know each other?

[Jay-_-]

No 😔

[MoonFace2]

Lol 😊🥰

[Jay-_-]

❤️‍🔥

[skidawgkc22]

It's totally fine. In fact, I would very much prefer it that way. Especially because I've been less than successful doing the asking myself.

[MoonFace2]

You prefer for women to make the first move, or were you referring to me?

[Lliam]

Sure. There's nothing wrong with that. Go for it. Some guys need more than a nudge.

[Malbonaviro]

You have to have the courage to ask a man out first or you won't have the courage for the subsequent confrontations you'll have to deal with when things go sour.

[Anonymous]

If you want something in this world stand up and let it be known. Few things are ever handed to us.

[SunnyRS]

If you feel like it, then you should.
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[Raaj4you]

Yes, ask him out if you really like him. If you are shy and hesitant then you would definitely "miss the bus".

[Janbrown]

Yes, it doesn't matter who moves first, the matter is who will love you, cares for you! Just go for it.

Most people are very shy in the world! Don't miss the chance to be happy.

[Nifrayu]

Someone always has to ask first. There's no way around that.

[Pohjolan]

Yes. Its not like a date is consent to sex and marriage.

[nawtee_me]

Ask him out and have a good time on your date….

[i_am_an_engineer]

Yes you can. He might think that beautiful girl like you might be taken.

[Anonymous]

Of course it's ok, guys like it when a girl takes initiative.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. Ask him out.

[MisterWack]

Yes, it is totally okay.

[MizzArtFreak89]

I dont see what happened?

[MizzArtFreak89]

I dont see why not i mean. My bad

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Next question.

[Wise4myage]

I see nothing wrong with that.

[RedInnocent69]

Yes. It’s appreciated, even

[Penelope79]

Sure go for it before some else beats you to it.

[Hrrhrbhtr]

No. Women should not chase males.

[Shihab_91]

Ask in a playful way? Or give hints first?

[Jmmmfi4]

YES YOU SHOULD!!!

[slatyb]

Of course it's ok.

[Iron_Man]

Yes sure

[kaucky1]

That be ok

[seanscoopers]

You ask first 🥇🥇