How to win over a guy who's been cheated on before?

[Elizabeth1999]

[ohsheeT]

When communicating with him never bring it up make him laugh make him see you in a very beautiful way show him who you truly are without showing him anything and I mean by that is when you speak to him look deeply into his eyes he will feel your energy versus that other people's energy that she did on him you can't make him think anything except for you have to be honest you have to be his friend it's his choice to let go or not to let go you have to act as if you know nothing about what happened to him because if you can do that and if you can be real he will see all your qualities he will feel all your qualities and he will let go to whatever it is that he's holding on to


We are programmed to feel pain to be down and out when something negative happens to us and see that's bull crap. What he needs to know and what he doesn't understand is that the person that cheated on him they did that to show him that person is not meant for him he needs to think that person for showing them showing him their true colors I mean it's a positive it's not a negative quit beating yourself up for nothing that you can control that was that person's choice and only that person's choice if you did he did what he had to do he put his 100% into his relationship and he tried to make it work so don't beat yourself up for that love yourself and say thank you God for allowing her to cheat and show me who she truly is because I don't want her in my life and then move on don't be all Moody and negative and down and out you can't love somebody like that so move on accept it acknowledge it and move on and you are good friend just because of this question

And you have to look at things deeper than what we've all been programmed to fill or to learn look for the positive out of it because I see a major big positive the guy is lucky he's more lucky than ever and he will realize that one that he will go damn I'm so glad she cheated cuz otherwise I wouldn't be this happy I would still be miserable with her look for the positive and I think you are the right person to bring that out of him I can feel that

[Elizabeth1999]

Thank you so much for your time. I have been honest with him this whole time. But since it's only been a month I think I will have to be very patient. He is worth the fight for me.

[ohsheeT]

Yeah and at the same time he has to realize that you're not that person it's two different worlds

And he also has to realize that he can only carry that around with him for so long because guys will use that as an excuse for whatever reason and you don't need to go through that either

He also has to realize that he should be thanking the girl for cheating on him because he found you

Whenever negative things happen in our lives in that moment we get all down and out but once you acknowledge it and think about it it is actually for the best because we move on and better things come to us and happen for us but he didn't do anything wrong so he needs to snap out of it she's the one that did it wrong she's the one should be all bummed out not him

Yes and you're right you have to be patient and let it take its course hopefully it doesn't take that long because him treating you as if it was you or anybody that way it just holds everything back from going where it should go

[Elizabeth1999]

Thank you so much again. I will remember this for sure. So cool of you to reply instantly... I needed it. I almost forgot I posted this question.

[ohsheeT]

No just remembered I mean it's all up to him you can just be you and put yourself into it and if he wants to change he'll change and if not then it's going to be kind of a drag for the most of you for a while

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's a tough one. I've been cheated on twice (two different relationships) and I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust a woman again.

[Elizabeth1999]

I am really sorry as a woman. I hope you find someone who can restore trust and faith in you. And thank you for your reply :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, I appreciate that. Me too.

Merry Christmas to you!

Oh, and thanks for MHO.

[Elizabeth1999]

You welcome & Merry Christmas 🎄!!

[Danny_dan92]

Don’t be a hoe.


Emphasis you’re trustworthy.


Be honest.

[Elizabeth1999]

Yes sir! Thank you!!

[Danny_dan92]

Yep. Anytime

[jahaims]

You have to show you are a solid person over time through action.

[Elizabeth1999]

One problem is that we met through online dating app. And we are from different countries. He did tell me he trusts me now but he's not sure if he'll be able to in the future. And I 100% understand that. I didn't verbally promised him that I will be loyal to him because I think my actions should speak louder to him. Thanks anyways!!!

[DryGermanGuy]

Take it slow and build a friendship first.

[Elizabeth1999]

Yes... 🤞

[LiamJHayden]

Be super honest and open.

[Elizabeth1999]

I have been honest and open with him so far and will continue to be so... Thanks!!!

[Jmmmfi4]

HMMM YEAH I DON'T KNOW NEVER HAD THAT EXPERIENCE

[Elizabeth1999]

It's cool! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

With patience

[Elizabeth1999]

I concur. Thanks!!