He doesn't arrange meetings and makes every conversation sexual. What does he want?

[baddiska]

So I'm 20, have been texting with a 34-year-old. We actually met on a dating app almost two years ago, texted for a few months, then I cut contact and now I go to university in his city and we matched again.

We met once, went for a coffee, he paid for me, then he walked me home, we talked a lot, it was very nice. He's a foreigner, doesn't have any close friends here, lives in a shared flat with strangers. He's very smart, has a very interesting, serious job (even though he doesn't earn much) and is just an interesting person, I enjoy talking to him, I feel like we connect well.

There are two problems tho. The 1st one is that he turns every conversation sexual. He likes sending me selfies and naked pictures. Even if we start texting about regular stuff, then he says something that he I don't know lays naked in bed, sends me a pic or sth. He's open that he's attracted to me, he would do sexual stuff with me (or me to him, he's submissive) but at the same time we both know it's impossible, because we both live in shared flats lol, I live with other uni students, I'm not gonna let a 34-year-old guy in.

The 2nd problem is that our meeting was a month ago. I told him many times that I'd like to see him again, he says that he'd also like to meet but that's it. I told him about the Christmas market, going skating, maybe again for a coffee etc and he says sure but doesn't arrange anything further. I stopped asking because come on, if he wanted to he would. I'm new in the city, we could go somewhere, explore it together I don't know anything. He says he's kinda busy with work but bro, you don't have friends or anything, what's the problem to meet for like an hour when you're going back home from work, the coffee shop is on ur way home. I don't understand what is going on, what does he want. He says that we might be in a relationship one day but at the same time he refuses to delete dating apps. What is going on?

[Tarifa]

I think he just wants sex, without the commitment. I doubt a serious relationship is even on his mind.

[Abbycado]

Sounds like a player that wants in your pants.

[baddiska]

But how? He doesn't want to invite me to his place because he lives in a shared flat with strangers, I also can't invite him to my place because I live in a shared flat with other students. So what's the point in texting me? He could be spending his time on someone who lives alone and can invite him for sex.

[RHK36]

He's waiting until he has an opportunity for sex. You aren't the only girl he's talking to. He'll linger because you allow him. He sounds like an asshat, so not sure why you're still talking to him.