Did I do the right thing by ending things since there was no date follow up?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy were talking, it was going well. I think he’s a real nice guy for sure. I told him to let me know tomorrow afternoon (which is today) on plans where to go on our date this evening. But I was really disappointed that he was still msging me.. yet didn’t… even follow up with no plans😔 as much as I wanted to see him, I’m tire of many guys who said they will plan a date and there was nothing. So I told him it was really fun talking to him but I like good communication and following through with actions on plans. I told him I still wanna be friends. All he said is “ok” and I explained. He only said “all good :)” I can tell his ego is hurt. I feel bas for ending it… but I feel like I need to put up my standards when a guy didn’t follow through…. Like it’s already evening, he had this whole day to say something about plans… and he didn’t.. I don’t know what else could he be waiting for… 😔 it feels bad either way to wait and to end things because I did want to see him… but yeah he wasn’t saying anything about where to meet up.. and I hate to be the girl to keep asking when, where, and what time..

[Summeroflove]

No don’t feel bad honestly don’t waste your time and don’t waste his. I’m the same way if I’m the only one putting effort in I assume either they are one sided or really aren’t that into me. I figure that if we ever do become serious it will be that way the rest of the relationship. I’ll be doing all the planning and everything. But what do I get out of that?

You were mature for being direct but kind. There are people who aren’t direct and just leave someone hanging. I’m glad you didn’t do that and you were the bigger person.

You’re a good person so yeah I get feeling bad. But you’re not wasting your time and you’re also not wasting his. He can find someone that maybe he is interested in and so can you.

[MissTrix]

You did great and agree a lot of guys are all talk and no plans. You even told him what you wanted and he ignored it!

Red flag good thing it is over and you ended it.

Need someone to listen and follow through!

[Summeroflove]

I agree with you I can’t stand that either. I refuse to be the only person putting effort into something because what am I getting out of it?

I think she did good and she was direct. If someone isn’t interested there is a kind way to communicate that without leaving someone hanging.

I can also understand being busy especially this time of year. But I know if someone is interested enough that they will keep me updated and make a effort to find time that we can meet even if it’s after Christmas. But just leaving someone hanging and not answering questions is wrong

[Summeroflove]

Also people who make plans and don’t follow through. Yes I understand life happens sometimes things come up out of someone’s control. But many times people just don’t want to. They won’t be direct they like playing games with people to feed their egos. Instead of building something real

[David5668]

There was no fizz in the Prosecco. Move on