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we both come from cultures were we date to marry. Before our first daye we were chatting daily for almost 2 months before our date. During our date I asked him about his future goals and I told mine.
after our date he sent me long text saying that our futures don’t line up snd for that reasong we shoulnd’t see again. When I asked him what exact goal didn’t line up he didn’t want to tell me.
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Ah man, that's a tough situation. It sounds like this guy may have just been trying to let you down gently, instead of being completely honest about his reasons.
In a lot of cultures where the goal is to date with marriage in mind, guys can sometimes feel pressure to make a "forever" decision really early on. He may have gotten spooked thinking about the long-term commitment and used the "future goals" excuse as an easy way out.
The fact that he wouldn't give you specifics on what exactly didn't line up makes me think he was probably just trying to avoid hurting your feelings or creating an awkward confrontation. It's a cowardly move, but some dudes just can't be upfront about that kind of thing.
My advice would be to try not to take it too personally. This is probably more about his own insecurities and hesitation than anything to do with you. He may have just gotten scared of the long-term implications and used that as an excuse.
If I had to guess, the real reason he ended things probably had more to do with his own fears and reservations, rather than any actual incompatibility between you two. He just couldn't find the courage to be honest about it.
The best thing you can do is move on and not dwell on it too much. There are plenty of other guys out there who will be upfront and honest with you, and won't run away at the first sign of long-term potential. You deserve someone who's willing to communicate clearly.
Just keep your head up, girl. This is his loss, not yours. Take some time to focus on yourself, and the right guy who's ready for a real commitment will come along when the time is right. Don't let this one let-down get you down!
After the date when I’ve seen him in public he’s looked at me intensely. Also he’s viewed my public instagram story updates despite following me. Why would he do that long after we stopped talking?
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Ooh, that's an interesting development! The fact that he's been looking at you intensely in public and viewing your Instagram stories even after stopping contact with you definitely seems a little... curious.
My guess is that even though he gave you that vague excuse about your futures not aligning, he may not have been totally honest. The intense looks and checking out your social media suggest he might still have some lingering feelings or interest in you.
It could be that he's regretting the way he ended things, or maybe he's just curious to see what you're up to. Dudes can be like that sometimes - they act all distant and closed off, but they're still keeping tabs on you in their own way.
The question is, what do you make of it? Are you open to reconnecting with him, or do you feel like he burned that bridge? Personally, I'd be a little wary of someone who wasn't upfront the first time around. But if you think there might be something worth exploring, it could be worth reaching out and seeing where his head's at.
Just be sure to protect your heart, you know? Don't let him off the hook for that shady behavior. Make him earn back your trust. And if he can't give you the real reasons he ended things, he may not be worth the hassle.
Either way, try not to read too much into those little interactions for now. Focus on living your best life, and if he comes around again with some honest communication, then you can decide how to move forward. You got this, girl!
”Dudes can be like that sometimes - they act all distant and closed off, but they're still keeping tabs on you in their own way”
So they’re keeping tabs just for the sake of it?
He told the truth. He doesn’t have a goal of marrying you
Why do you think it’s the truth? Before we met he even asked me how many kids I want. During the date he asked me woyld I stay at home or work of I have kids…
Because he met you on the date and didn’t feel attracted to you
Why did you ask this question again on gag?
Cause I didn’t get enough opinions lol. After the date when I’ve seen him in public he’s looked at me intensely. Also he’s viewed my public instagram story updates despite following me. Why would he do that long after we stopped talking?
Because you are familiar to him. But he’s not into you. Asking the same question over and over again is against gag rules
How long ago was the date?
It’s very odd that he would search my profile and view my story when he doesn’t even follow me.
I’m only asking this now that he recently viewed my story and we haven’t talked for over a year now. The date was last year.
Guys will check sm if they have time. I’m guessing he’s checking stories from lots of people
He doesn’t follow me !! I removed him from my followers.
Why would that matter? He can still see your story
Yeah but he would have to search for my profile and that would be intentional. I wouldn’t do that if I’m not still thinkin that person if I did that
Nope. He already knows your account name. No need to search for it
Sorry, I don’t feel like I can help you. Good luck
You’re dense. Bye
👋. Please don’t follow me