Is it okay to move on and ask out?

[Anonymous]

My Fiancée died two months ago. I feel like I have grieved as much I possibly can. But, I feel like I am past the emotional hurdle. The girl that I am interested has a been a friend for about 6 years. She was friends with me then became a friend of my fiancée. I find that we both share similar interests hiking, anime, going to museums, playing board games, fishing... However, I highly value my friendship with her and would not want to ruin it by asking her out. I know my grief period is over. But I don't know how she would feel dating a widower or if her friendship to my deceased fiancèe was to close that it would hurt her to have a relationship to me.

[MisterWack]

“ But I don't know how she would feel dating a widower or if her friendship to my deceased fiancèe was too close that it would hurt her to have a relationship to me. “

You value her highly, you respect her admirably, and you care about her not as just a friend though a human being and maybe your future girlfriend…. The thing is, you should tell her that you’ve been grieving over her loss a while and you feel you are capable of dating though don’t know if that is the right path forward and ask her for advice.

Note: I don’t believe asking her out will sabotage your friendship, she knows you’ve been through a lot and that you two have a strong bond so it was bound to happen so she won’t hold you to it and make it ‘water under the bridge’. Don’t sweat it. You don’t want to ruin her and you care deeply about her so, clearly she would see these qualities in you as per your demeanor & character. God Bless You in your endeavors man and you are a great person.

[AnonAndrew]

Ask her out if you want to - that's the only way to get a real answer.

The only concern I'd have is that it's so soon after your fiancées death, so there is some risk that even if she likes you, she may say no because she's scared she's just a rebound.

But I don't know the details of your respective relationships, so only you know if this is a real risk or not.

[PeachyPie93]

It usually takes me 3 months to grieve someone close but I guess if you think you are ready you could ask her how she feels about things but not push for a relationship so soon.

[Flower7]

It is a bad idea to try and date this particular person. Start fresh with someone who didn’t know your fiancée and has also not already been a friend of yours.

[AviatorTom]

You won't know, and neither will she, if you don't ask her out.

Ask her out on a date... her reaction will let you both know how each of you feels.

Best wishes!

[HungTexan]

Why not ask her out? You’re both single, you like each other, and it’s not like you’re proposing marriage at this point. Just have fun together, maybe some sex, and see where it leads. Just make it clear from the start that you value her friendship, but also find her attractive and feel the need for some female company.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s been 2 months, you have not grieved as much as you think and you’re codependent and unable to cope. It’s not a relationship, it’s going to be a rebound

[Anonymous]

I'd be surprised if you have recovered from your loss after two months. And maybe she hasn't either.
But assuming you truly have, and she has, it's your call.

[blackeagle007]

Real question is what are your wishes? As for others, can you read minds?

[Crazzyyworld]

Yes she died so you don’t have to pay for child support nor divorce settlement so you can get other girls who die easily too. haha

[KrakenAttackin]

Damn bro, she's barely cold and you are looking for new tang?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Seems far too soon but that's my opinion

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely 100%.

[BigTex53]

Ok to move on. Don’t wait too long.

[In_Trance]

It's perfectly fine if you feel like you're ready