Do you prefer being asked out than being the asker?

[Monalisa77]

Yes

No

[Zack-Bann]

If asked by the right person I would love to be be asked
If not I would rather be the asker because that means I can pick the right person to ask


It’s really a simple human behavior. No one enjoys being rejected but having to reject someone who wore their heart on their sleeve for you is even worse (unless you’re a sociopath)

[NicholasRedone]

I felt conflicted :) if it wasn't due to timing of life circumstances - I for one could be brave enough to ask a woman / talk to women - yet I don't have anything to offer so that's why I'm not actively dating.

I'd even be amazed if an attractive woman, let alone any woman, actually genuinely asking me out - period 👁️👁️👀😀

[NicholasRedone]

So I voted Yes (aka A) however - in 50 50 or even in an ideal world it's mutual or almost mutual timed "do you want to go out?"

[NicholasRedone]

Assuming no one's already dating someone ) hitched / divorced, single parent/ just broken up blah blah blah

[Summeroflove]

Definitely makes it easier but it can be awkward at times too if you’re either taken or not really interested in someone.

[RavVid]

In actuality I prefer being the closer. Girls might make it clear if you ask they'll say yes. So you are closing rather than initiating in reality.

[Monalisa77]

I think i know what u mean but can u explain a little clearer?

[Monalisa77]

Do u mean chasing them?

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

He means girls make the first guys then approach. She will indicate interest with making repeated eye contact, smiling or gesturing with her hands or hair, the man notices her signaling so he comes over to start a conversation and usually ends with exchanging contact info.

[RavVid]

Well in an interaction you might well get the impression she likes you and if you ask her out she'll say yes.

Sometimes though girls will give you an opening that you can drive a Mack 18 wheeler through. Say we were discussing movies and I mention a block buster I want to see and she responds enthusiastically at wanting to see it too. It is extremely easy to ask if she would like to see it with me after that opening.

Really she asked me out in reality by cutting to the chase but she leaves to me to close the deal. Some girls have made it positively ungentlemanly for me not to invite them out.

That's what I meant by letting me be the closer.

At my local cafe, I have more skin in the game and want more positive confirmation. If we have had a good conversation I can finish with "Lets talk some more. I'll be here Tuesday" and effectively make it an ambiguous date. At another cafe/bar it doesn't matter if I mistake a friendly girl as being an interested girl and get rebuffed.

But at my local cafe it does matter. So I'll do it as a soft date unless I get some positive confirmation.

On the stats here seems like 77% of guys fear negative reactions.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't really matter. Genuine interest is genuine interest. If I'm attracted to her and she's attracted to me it doesn't matter who asks who as long as her interest is genuine and not just an attempt to stroke her own ego.

[NathanDavis]

it doesn't really matter to me... either way, both ways... we ended up together for years

[Joshydavid25]

It doesn't matter to me either way.. If a woman asks, I'll still pursue either way..

[nawtee_me]

Either is good with me. I don’t mind being asked out….

[FAUST0]

I think making a first move give you Advantage of being attentive towards the person

[oldpigg]

Yeah, I never ask anyone out.

[wkhan_87]

Yeah..