Is there really requirements or met a certain criteria's for datings nowadays 🥴?

[Anonymous]

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From everybody's standard extremely high nowadays 🥴?

[Cormac995]

Yes, you have to be able to afford it. Most woman won't go Dutch and a lot of them will straight up say no or dump you the moment they find out they aren't getting spoiled for free. If you can't budget in at least 4-5 dates a month your fucked. It's about to get even harder too. The economy is taking a nosedive right now because of these stupid tariffs.

Also, if you don't have your own place a car and you're not at least a 6 or a 7 you're fucked too if you don't have a good enough job like you're flipping burgers your fucked, and if you can't afford a nice ring and a decent wedding you're even more fucked.

[Asker]

Yeah, you're more attractive when you have a car. Especially when your dick is a chocolate color.

[NicholasRedone]

@cormac995 yet it's also realistic to expect, if a person thinks they can support a girlfriend or having a girlfriend or vice versa having a partner, and they can't afford dates or don't drive a car or don't this don't that - then who wouldn't be disappointed when there's a hundred other fish on the sea out there who do have X Y Z and are ready to 🥐🥐🥐 lol 😆

[NicholasRedone]

Roll lol is the joke

[NicholasRedone]

@cormac995 hell imagine the shoes on other feet, I could be really awesome yet my girlfriend puts in zero effort when we go out to dinner, she wears slacks, a dirty shirt and forgets her socks 🧦🧦 on her shoes

[NicholasRedone]

Not exactly an ideal partnering or lol

[NicholasRedone]

I think people get what i mean to express kindly lol ; if people can't do it, don't not be single lol 😆 be single and enjoy it

[Cormac995]

@NicholasRedone I'm well aware and I agree I wouldn't want to date someone in my position either although TBH I would since I'm already there meaning it's a level playing field. Unfortunately, I don't see a way to fix any of my problems that stand in the way of dating just my money issues alone make it impossible. I'm not even sure if I'm going to have any income or maybe even insurance in the next few years if not sooner.

[NicholasRedone]

@cormac995 always consider free counselling services even free or charitable financial counselling services. If they exist in your areas or locale or corner of the globe. Anyways + happily I'm single man - after all "as I tell myself, why do a rush job at 30 aka rushing dates rushing to have a girlfriend" blah blah - I'm not one to do things half effort and I feel like I'm quite content that while the ship has sailed , I'm a happier man for it :)

[OneViewpoint]

Not necessarily. I've had 2 women I know buy me drinks lately. I wasn't even out with one of them. She (married) just bought me a drink and yelled that I had a drink coming from her. I accepted graciously and thanked her. Not the norm but a generous gesture. Still waiting for an opportunity to return the gesture.

The other one I was out with friends and one of the women paid my entire tab for the night. We weren't dating. I barely know her. She just paid the tab and didn't say anything. I went to pay after she walked out and the bartender said she'd already paid for me. Didn't even get a chance to say thanks. I will return the gesture.

A 3rd one, I was out solo again on a Friday night and a complete stranger did the same thing. I had dinner at the bar and several drinks. We were flirting from a distance but I never got around to talking to her. Once again she left and I went to pay, the bartender told me she'd taken care of it. Another debt of random kindness I owe to some woman I don't even know. Dunno if I'll ever see her again or what her motivation was.

So not all women are looking for free meals and drinks. A lot of them are OK paying once in a while, or splitting a bill, or just making a nice gesture.

[Cormac995]

@OneViewpoint Apparently, you're a human four-leaf clover.

[OneViewpoint]

It’s not luck. It’s putting in the work to keep yourself fit and making an effort to look like you care about your appearance. I really think that’s all it is.

[Cormac995]

@OneViewpoint It's nowhere near that simple especially when you factor in everyone gets old. If that's the only thing that gets your foot in the door and none of your other virtues as far as I'm concerned walk away.

[Zack-Bann]

People have always had standards


What people only started acquiring recently is participation trophies


So now we have a generation that “expects” to have everything without ever trying
And when they are denied because their value proposition is worthless they blame the standards because it’s easier than looking in the mirror and accepting that they have work to do before they’re worth dating

[IslaTheWitch]

or we click or not... I don't think it changed much :D

[sawno]

Not really but there's going to be things that will significantly increase or decrease your chances. For example I am recovering from a health issue, while recovering I don't see a point of dating. I can't imagine her going for me. But once healed I think I am in a good spot.

[NicholasRedone]

Those checklists and to-do lists need to be long long long lol 😂😆 ; ah well - it's a modern dating for ya - and I'm sure I have my own list *scrolls scrolls scrolls paper long scroll* 📜📜📜📜

[NicholasRedone]

*and on St Patrick's Day, we wear green* - lol Mean Girls 🫢🫠🫠 parody to the future girlfriend lol 😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

politics seems to be a big one these days

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes people have standards