Would you kiss on the first date?

[Simslover92]

Yes

No way!

Depends

[Lliam]

If we got along well, yes. A peck on the lips is more appropriate than a handshake. A handshake is like blowing someone off, as if they aren't interested in seeing you again.

I've had women initiate the kiss, too.
When I was 36, I asked a woman out. We got along really well during the date. When I walked her to her door like a gentleman afterwards, she paused on the top of the stoop, turned and looked up into my eyes. She put her hands on top of my shoulders, rose up on her tip toes, and gave me a tender, lingering kiss with her body against mine. My hands went to her waist.
Her lips were so soft and sensual that my head actually spun.

My future wife did something similar after our first date when I walked her from the restaurant to her car.

[OlderAndWiser]

Over my lifetime, I'm sure I have had at least 150 first dates. A few of them ended with no show of affection whatsoever. One or two ended with a handshake (and you KNOW there was no second date in those situations.) Some ended with a kiss on the cheek. Some ended with a simple, brief kiss on the lips. Some ended with a passionate kiss, and some of those passionate kisses led to more than just kissing.

It all comes down to having a sense of whether the date is going well for both of us and whether she is comfortable with a kiss on the first date.

Ironically, my first date with Miss Helen - now known as Mrs. OlderAndWiser - ended with no display of affection at all.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[DishLady]

It depends — if I’ve known the guy for an eternity and we start dating, for example, then ok. But not a guy I just met. That’s crazy.

[EmmaMary]

Most definitely... Especially if everything felt just right and I was comfortable doing so.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[ohsheeT]

Yes at the right moment I would. Or I would ask as I was kissing up your neck to your ear and it would probably be in very slow soft motion

[SteveSmith1985]

Depends. If the moment felt right I certainly wouldn't hold back.

If the vibe isn't there, then never.

[Finchie40]

Yes if her and I have great chemistry and connection together then why wait

[AviatorTom]

If the date goes well, I kiss her, usually initiating it. If not, I don't.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Looking at the comments, it highlights how the question isn't the right one, because the term dating is misleading, some of us date people we don't know at all, or so little, whereas some of us only date people we know enough already to go on a date. Since none of us visualize the so called first date in the same way, then we don't talk about the same topic while thinking we do.

If the first date is with someone I know little of, then I would not even want a kiss, because there is simply no incentive I could possibly feel.

If the first date is with someone I know for weeks or months, then I would most certainly kiss her.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Went far, far beyond kissing on my first date with my wife. That said, I was close friends with her for over a year before we started dating.

Depends on how well you reliably know each other, I figure. Sometimes you reliably know a person on a first date, sometimes you don't. If you don't, might want to slow things down and keep going on more dates.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Actually this might be overly conservative but ideally, I don't think we should go on a date with a person until we're ready to kiss them. People date way, way too fast these days in my opinion. Slow even dating down. Become friends first, hang out together and with mutual friends, get to know each other. Do that for at least months. Then go on a date. By then, kissing on a first date won't be premature, ever.

[Simslover92]

That's definitely not overly conservative. Definitely understandable. That's how it happened with my ex. We knew each other for years before getting together. This kind of dating is so foreign to me. I don't like it but I don't know what else to do.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think it's the best! We don't have to date to get to know each other. We can be friends first. People seem to have skipped the process these days.

I was thinking we should have online friendship sites, and not ones for an online community. We need to see each other. So it can be like online dating sites except the goal is friendship, not dates, and we don't focus on sexual orientation. I might find a new best guy friend this way in my area.

And people can meet each other and form a nice community of like-minded friends, and maybe love interests emerge from there. That's the nice way in my view, and compatible with our human nature as communal, social creatures.

[Simslover92]

That's a very good idea!

[andreasderjuengere]

Of course :)

If I go on a ''date'' - then I know the lady already well enough.

If I don't know her well enough, then I get to know her better first and in a neutral environment.

Only when there's a spark, I'll think of a ''date''.

Nowadays' (GaG's?) version of ''dating'' is silly - to meet someone we (possibly) like isn't an election and it isn't a job interview.

[Zack-Bann]

In my experience if we don’t kiss on the first date there’s generally not a second


We live in a society of easy access


Wanting someone means you have to “lock them in” in a way
And the investment that is a kiss will do the trick after a successful first date

[IslaTheWitch]

we could, if we date, it means we know each other pretty well :D

[NathanDavis]

yeah, but... I usually go "out on a date" with someone I am already into and they're into me as well

and we've known each other enough before we finally go out on a "proper" date

[PeachyPie93]

Sure if I like the dude I'll kiss him, I never seen kissing as a big deal..

[Bricealan]

@Simslover92 Have had oral, and penetrative sex on a first date on several occasions. So yes, kissed on a first date.

[Little_Bumblebee]

So far I haven't.
I did vote it depends.

Maybe I'll be in a situation where I'm going for it.

[spartan55]

These women are always coming at me wanting a kiss right away. I remind thsm that I am not that kind of guy.

[bunny234]

what, not a kissing guy? whats wrong with kissing

[spartan55]

It's a joke.

[bunny234]

Oh- lol sorry I can be kind of square sometimes, good joke, funny.

[spartan55]

It's actually multi layred humour

[thegreenyogi]

If the connection is strong and it feels right. I definitely would.

[PrincessC16]

No tongue on the first day unless he's so hot I can't stand it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, but the first "date" happens after years of just being friends.
I don't go on conventional dates (go out to eat or whatever), I just date (become a couple with) a female best friend.

[FemPuppy]

I mean I would like actively try but if he does it then yes ofc

[Jerre]

Most definitely I would, a good tongue to tongue kiss.

[Jerre]

@Simslover92 Thank you for the Like

[Simslover92]

You're welcome!

[ZephyrFluer]

Id just want her lips after the end of the date. It just sends more message than any words, telling if she is ready for more intimacy, or if she's not yet ready.

[Blunky]

Happens more often than not for me if the date goes well.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I have before…. Shoot I’ve hooked up on a first date.

[MrChinaski]

This was my point. Kiss on a first date, good. Blowjob on a first date , better. No kiss then it's not really a date.

[MrChinaski]

It's just two pals hanging out.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@bddddd that’s not true…I would’ve preferred not to have done that

[MrChinaski]

A valid opinion.

[KittygosMeoWW]

@bddddd of course mine is yours isn’t…

[MrChinaski]

Not everyone on forums needs to fight. I am fine if we hold different opinions. I hope that you are too.

[MemeSupreme]

no i don't like to

it'd have to be very specific circumstances of it working out that which i don't see happening

[exitseven]

Yes, if the date went well and I liked her and she seemed receptive.

[Sinthia99]

I have before, but I tell myself I wouldn’t again.

[Simslover92]

That bad huh?

[Sinthia99]

I just felt it was a mistake and I rushed in

[Simslover92]

Oh...

[worldscolide]

No, I also don't fuck on the first date. The closed I get is a hug, and maybe some hand holding.

[MrChinaski]

Let's be honest. If you don't kiss, it's not a date. It's just a meal. I'm all for people bailing on what was intended to be a date but turned out badly. But you will never see that person again. Truth hurts, but you will get over it.

[Simslover92]

😂😂😂 You're not serious are you?

[MrChinaski]

Would you go on a second date with someone you didn't kiss?

[Simslover92]

Um... yes. I'm not real big on kissing. I've had bad experiences with it.

[MrChinaski]

It's a fair choice.

[Sudheer128]

I think first date is time to know each other, it may look inappropriate to other person, at first relationship should be developed and should give time, if bond is strong enough then it's okay to kiss, else not.

[Joshydavid25]

I've done it before and I've tried it recently..

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely. I've kissed on every first date I've been on. Kind of a thing with my generation.

[jahaims]

Only if I knew her for a good while first. Even then probably not

[Jay-_-]

Yea I know I would, but the energy has to be phenomenal lol

[Anonymous]

Depends... I've never been on a date, but if I were, I would - if she would take initiative, I kinda like dominant girls.

[Nikki1989]

Thankfully, I always did.

[Ladsin2]

Not generally no, but I could be convinced.

[chrissykerdock]

kissing can lead to a blowjob

[Sleephazard]

That escalated fairly quickly, then.

[Eempriyanka]

I hate hole over hole like why you gotta keep your lips over someone else's it's weird..

[Cuminginside]

Get yourself a water pic if you're worried about oral hygiene

[MatureMan40]

Depends. I wouldn't like to break her heart on the first date if she is not into kissing.

[Professor-college]

I don't see why not if you both like each other then I don't see the problem

[serious]

Absolutely not. No

[sage2021]

• Depends

[lilBigPotato]

If the feeling is right...

[PeterLegg91]

My then girlfriend she gave me a blowjob on one first date

[spartan55]

That's a great start to something special...👍

[PeterLegg91]

It lasted just under 2 years

[PeterLegg91]

The relationship that is

[spartan55]

That's a lifetime these days.

[jshm2]

Depends on the kiss location, I suppose.

[kaucky1]

I gotten to fuck without speaking and stayed on whole time too with more than one person

[NicholasRedone]

Potentially a peck on the cheek 😘 💋

[NicholasRedone]

Potentially before and after ; two pecks make a beak lol 🐦🕊️

[Drumlin2001]

Depends on how it went

[FunkyMonkee]

Been there, done that.

[Yannae]

That and more depending on how well the date went.

[soe11]

• I did on first day.

[Becky93]

If the date goes well so far.

[Lilly1979]

If the moment is right, sure.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe

[wkhan_87]

I think kiss is not overwhelming

[eagle1951]

yes yes and yes

[Cheerfull009]

Is other person is agree

[Credentialmayhem]

It depends how long we know each other

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't think so

[Jennz6]

Always

[MysticDevice]

Absolutely.