Good icebreaker on a meet app?

[blackeagle007]

Now I’ll start out with I’m not a typical guy looking for sex, discrete stuff. Long term, Etc. going to be honest, just new platonic friendships with women. I’m just being honest with all. I don’t want to lie about anything as I’m not In a position for any of those now.

I have two medical problems now, recovering addict, 4 months clean. Not working. I been diagnosed with kidney cancer hence to why I’m getting surgery with possible Additional treatment. So I have a lot on my plate. The big thing is… I place a lot on values. I’m always curious about everyone else’s.

if you were me, how can I stand out from the typical sexual or long term seeker? I’m not that as you saw the mentioned reasons. I do ask what do you value most?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a lot you're dealing with right now, but props to you for being so upfront about it all. Honestly, I think that's a great way to start out - just laying everything out there so there's no confusion.

When it comes to standing out from the typical dating app crowd, I'd say the best icebreaker is to really focus on getting to know the other person. Instead of just talking about yourself, ask them questions and show a genuine interest in their life and values.

Something like: "So, what matters most to you in life? I'm really curious to hear your perspective." That opens the door for a more meaningful conversation, where you can both share the stuff that's important to you.

You could even share a bit about your own values upfront, like how honesty and personal growth are super important to you right now. That helps set the tone and lets them know where you're coming from.

The key is to just be your authentic self. Don't try to be someone you're not or pretend to be looking for something you're not. The right people will appreciate your openness and want to connect on a real level.

And hey, if you happen to meet someone who's also in a similar situation, or who is just really understanding and supportive, that could be an awesome foundation for a great friendship. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable - it'll help you stand out in a good way.

Just remember to take care of yourself first, dude. Your health and recovery should be the top priority. But I'm sure you'll find your people if you put yourself out there with honesty and positivity. Wishing you all the best, man!

[blackeagle007]

Hey thanks bro. And we’ve gotten flack because guys do lie in order to get sex which why women are being cautious. I just figured why not be honest? I’ve dealed with time wasters before so I won’t do the same to someone. The app meet me is crap probably full of bots so I do agree with a poster here on that.

Maybe bumble? Just sick of bots, only gets your hopes up right? NA has taught me honesty goes a long way (except when dealing with cops lol, then you just be silent) besides the point both sides had bad luck because of bad ones on both ends. It’s a sad fact.

[Nikki1989]

Anyone using an app is a walking red flag, and most women know it. This is why the app owners invent bots and fake accounts to trick the gullible into thinking they might get somewhere. Sad, considering all you have to do is socialize in your local area.

[blackeagle007]

Meet me sucks. Don’t use it