What's the biggest age gap you think is acceptable, where the youngest is 18 or older?

[Anonymous]

[Salaciousrouge]

Lets think about this question! If you are asking why *I* think is acceptable, then I'd say no maximum. I may assume any union with more than 15 years is possibly transactional, but who cares! He gets love and care and a healthy partner, she gets love, and financial boost to set her on a good path... hopefully. I truly think people dwell too much on age gaps which is the stupidest marker to view for a successful marriage.
Now, if you ask what I think is 'acceptable' by western societal norms then the answer is somewhere between 7 and 10 years. I say western, because in many other parts of the world acceptable age gaps can often be 30+. There are some very logical and prsctical reasons for the acceptances which often have to do with finances and familial strength. A real world example would be that a 35-40 yr old, single man who owns a successful farm may be married to a daughter who is 18 and who has many children. Arranged marriages are still prevelent or 'heard of' in quite a few corners of the world, some of which might surprise you! This is quite practical if not love centric.

In the west, for some unknown and retarded reason, most people cluth their pearls when they see two people with more than 3-5 years age gap. Why? This is so childish. In my life I know of three very long and ongoing relationships of 20 years. 2 are marriages w an older man. The third was no marriage w an older woman. We can all sit around and discuss the horribleness of this big nothing-burger but all the reasoning against it has no impact on the outcome of success. Greater number of failed marriages cannot be attributed in any way to a large age gap. You may want to attribute a failure to this but I assure you, few if any complaintants step into divorce court stating their reason for leaving was the vast age difference!

Western society needs to lose this weird obsession for only dating someone 2-5 years different. What a ridiculous handicap to finding a compatible mate. The real reason, in my opinion, for feigning discontent with large age gaps are envy and jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Here’s my input on age gaps. The problem is this — females are more inclined to be with a guy long term who’s financially stable, has intelligence, has his life together usually she won’t accept a guy who has less. Guys have to build themselves up to attract females. Girls and women don’t need to do all that. She can be nice, have good values and take care of herself and work a $40k job doing admin work and that’s good enough.

It takes guys longer to establish themselves but once they do they may already be in their 30s or 40s while a female is attracted to him may be 10+ years younger. I think back in the day a girl was willing to be by a guys side and see him go through his failures but eventually reach success (ex: have a good job, get a car, get a house or apartment, start a life).

But I look at females nowadays and nothing is good enough, he’s not 6’2, he doesn’t make 6 figures, he doesn’t cook gourmet food, he’s not super friendly with all my female friends. Like sheesh, I don’t care if I was with a girl and she didn’t really like my guy friends, I don’t care if she had a simple office job as long as I like her and she’s faithful that’s all that matters to me. But unfortunately that’s why a lot of guys are single, marriage is declining.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I think people should date based on common interests, shared hobbies, personality, lifestyle, and how "old" they look.

There is chronological age, and then there is the actual condition of their body.

Being a decade older is an issue when you die a decade sooner, but if you look and feel as young as the younger person, you are likely going to live just as long as them.

Inversely, if you date someone your age who looks a decade older than you, they are likely to die a decade sooner, even though you are both the same age.

Preventing widows/widowers should be the primary focus here.

[In_Trance]

If one thing has been made clear especially on this platform about age gaps in relationships is that it only matters to people who are not in said relationship.

[Anonymous]

I know couple split by about a decade
My parents by 17 years
Another by 28 years

Anything beyond double age would be too much so in the last one they were 17 and 45

[zagor]

Well Bill Belichick was a successful coach so using his standard I'd say 49 years.

[serious]

5 to 7 years of gap should be good enough

[Wise4myage]

I say 10-15 years.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'd club a 20-year-old !!!

[Stevepro68]

104 to 25

[Anonymous]

Twenty two.