Is a 15-16 year age gap okay?

[Anonymous]

I’m self conscious.

[bzcxx]

It depends. If someone is 30 and the other person is 14, obviously it wouldn’t be okay. On the other hand, if someone is 25 and the other person is 40, it’s still acceptable.
I’ve heard of relationships with a large age gap and they almost never work out in the long term. They’re mostly sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships or friends with benefits situations.
The biggest age gap of someone I know in real life is 10 years. 15/16 years is a VERY big gap and might even be considered by some to be a different generation (almost). You two are most likely very different people considering the age gap and would be frowned upon by more traditional parents/friends/community.

[Asker]

I’m scared if people think it’s odd. We have an age gap of 15.5 years and me being 22 and him being 38. I’ve met 2 of his family members and his friends already. 😔

[bzcxx]

Most people would think it’s odd and might not be accepting. Also, many people might think he’s a dad bringing his daughter out. I’ve personally seen this in real life.

[Asker]

I believe you. This is why I’m self conscious. 😔

[bzcxx]

It isn’t sustainable in the long run. Advise you to find someone in your age range.

[Asker]

Why do you think it wouldn’t be sustainable?

[bzcxx]

I don’t know your boyfriend personally so I don’t mean to take issue with his character. But many older men like being with younger women because of how they look - tight body, smooth skin etc.
What happens when you’re 40 and he’s in his 50s? He’s going to look for younger women again - people who are currently your age.

[Asker]

He’s not my boyfriend yet, but I feel as though he is definitely trying to take me off the market.

[bzcxx]

And I’m 95% sure if you get in a relationship, he’s gonna find someone younger than you in a few years.

[Asker]

Who knows what the future may hold

[bzcxx]

Exactly, who knows. There’s no certainty

[Asker]

You’re not wrong there

[Stevepro68]

I am hardly unbiased I am old but my girlfriend is 20 years younger than me. I think the younger you are the more of a problem it is. My girlfriend is I her 30s. It's not a big deal. If I were 40 and she were 20 much bigger deal. We all change through life but people that young change too much to stay with old people that are pretty static.

[Asker]

With us it’s 15.5 years. I am 22 and he is 38.

[Stevepro68]

In my mind that still seems like you are both in the same stage of life. I would not call that a big barrier.

[Asker]

Really? I’m happy to hear that! What makes you say that?

[Stevepro68]

A guy can be in his late thirties. Still looking for a family children. Still young enough to want to go out and do crazy things. Old enough to appreciate you. Things that typically change as you get older. Things that most 20 year Olds take for granted.

[Blackcupcake]

well… my personal answer would be that, I would never date someone whom I feel self conscious dating. for me personally, 15-16 age gap would make him 36-37… so if he’s 36-37, in a good shape and I fall for him, then I wouldn’t care the tiniest bit about our age difference. however, if he’s that age but he look and acts as if he’s 56 then I would politely skip on that relationship. so, it’s not so much about the age, as long as both parties are of legal age and consenting. it’s about the person…

[Apple1996]

I don't agree with age gaps that large since the older person is almost always grooming the younger person. It's also just a red flag in general that they couldn't find someone their own age. I'd say the most a age gap should ever be is 5 years, 10 maybe pushing it but still okay. 15+ they could be your parent (for example I had a baby at 17 so dating someone almost the same age as my son would be super creepy)

[slatyb]

That seems like a lot at your age, but there's a big difference between 18 and 24. How old are you, and how did you meet?

[Asker]

We have a 15.5 year age gap and I’m 22.

[slatyb]

How did you meet?

[Asker]

Can I PM you 🙂

[slatyb]

You may, and I will reply.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Dating someone who was experiencing puberty as you were being pushed out of the womb is a creepy concept.

[Asker]

That’s why I’m self-conscious. 😔

[NotTacocaT6969]

Why do you want to date a man who is essentially a glorified pedophile?

[Asker]

I am 22 and he is 38.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Yeah, that’s creepy.

Sounds like he’s trying to take advantage.

[Asker]

Explain. 😊

[NotTacocaT6969]

Men who are near 40 and older sometimes seek out young women who they believe are “young and stupid”.

They find those young women, make one fall in live with them and then use them as a sex toy until he eventually dumps her for a younger or more attractive girl.

All the while he uses his maturity to keep her under his control.

Like the 25 year old chick who’s a willing sex slave to my 57 year old landlord.

[FilmGuy93]

I don't think it's okay; particularly at your age because you don't have a ton of life experience, so you're basically setting yourself up to get used by men who are that much older.

[Berethor]

Is he old enough to be your father? almost/yea? it's not a small age gap.

[Asker]

I wouldn’t say he is old enough to be my father.

[Anonymous]

if you love him, go for it. I have seen married couple who are 15 years old gap, he treated his wife like a princess. other married women I know, jealous of her. 😆

[Asker]

Oooo explain.

[Opinion Owner]

he give her everything she wants, he never hurt her, he help her a lot for housework, always visit her at her workplace,

[Asker]

This has been happening to me. He has been doing a lot for me.

[Opinion Owner]

see? 😍 what else made you hesitate? and don't listen to other people, they know nothing. 😌

[Asker]

Bahaha lately he has been treating me like an absolute queen ❣️

[genericname85]

the older you get, the less problematic age gaps are. like if you're 35 dating a 50 year old but if you're in your teens or early 20s, i don't suggest it.

[Midgetmcwidget]

If he’s s fitty, who cares. All that matters are how you both feel

[BellaB8466]

as long and any person involved is an adult. yes.

[Avatar74]

If you're 22 and he's 38 as long as there's a bond between you and you love each other I don't see a problem.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for the positivity. I’m just not used to an age gap that large aha.

[Avatar74]

Your welcome, be happy I hope it works for you.

[Asker]

Thank you so much 😊

[Asker]

I don’t know why I find the age gap odd, yet I am attracted to this person.

[Avatar74]

Just go with your feelings, if your happy thats what counts.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot once again. 😊

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, my last girlfriend was age 18 when I was age 35.

[TroyDT]

If it is okay with both adults then what others think should not be a concern.

[Asker]

A 15.5 year age gap. I’m 22 and he’s 38.

[TroyDT]

You are both adults. No one else's business. But meddlers will probably do what comes naturally because they can't stand to see people happier than they are.

[Asker]

That is so true! I am mature for my age too.

[JCT666]

As long as they're both over the legal age...

[Asker]

15.5 year age gap. Woman being 22 and man being 38.

[JCT666]

Perfectly okay.

[Asker]

You think so? What makes you say that?

[JCT666]

Both are over the legal ages of consent everywhere. Nothing to worry about.

[SunnyHeythere]

That's what you said on my question you creep

[JCT666]

@SunnyHeythere No I did not. 22 years old is a fully grown consenting adult, not teenagers as you like to claim, creeper.

[SunnyHeythere]

You said as long as its legal and they are of age. That's clearly not true because you have a prejudice against age and gender.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

If you really wanted a guy, you wouldn't care how old he is.

[BJP21]

you're fine. 5-10 years age gap is a norm once your past age 18.

[noohair]

I would not let social convention about age keep you from someone that you are happy with.

[Kingofkings1992]

In your age group I don’t think it’s a good idea

[Asker]

We have a 15.5 year age gap and I’m 22.

[michael0007]

Why care about age gap of you're connected with his heart?

[Asker]

I’m scared if people think it’s odd. We have an age gap of 15.5 years and me being 22 and him being 38.

[michael0007]

Why bother about people? People keep blabbering shit always. Im also 22 tho soon.

[Asker]

Nice! Have you ever been in an age gap relationship and would you ever be in one?

[Asker]

Thanks 😊

[michael0007]

I can't you'll have to.👀

[Asker]

I did. 😂👀

[misfittoy]

if you are both consenting adults yes

[Asker]

A 15.5 year age gap. I’m 22 and he’s 38.

[misfittoy]

look at it this way, do you get along, have fun, treat each other well? genuinely like each others company?

[Asker]

All yesses, I’m also worried about the life expectancy and libido.

[boredgal]

I think it is as long as both are in legal age.

[boredgal]

*of legal age

[Asker]

A 15.5 year age gap. I’m 22 and he’s 38.

[boredgal]

that is totally fine as long as you are both single.

[Asker]

Yeah, we are. He hinted that he was single too.

[chicosuave]

It's only okay if you make it ok

[Asker]

What do you mean? 🙂