Study claims there are more men in the US than women. W/men at an advantage why are so many single & w/ competition dating should be harder 4 ladies?

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So basically, dating is a lot harder for women because they have to face competition for the same man, and men have more options.

"The United States has had more females than males since 1946, according to the U. S. Census Bureau. In 2021, the population sex ratio in the U. S. was 98 males per 100 females. By 2050, it is expected to be 99."

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Study claims there are more men in the US than women. W/men at an advantage why are so many single & w/ competition dating should be harder 4 ladies?

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

that's a very small gap, it makes no difference. it's not like some other countries in the world like china, india, some arab countries or russia were there's huge gender imbalances that actually impact dating. in countries where men outnumber women by a lot, there is no increased competition for men in general by women. if anything the women get to be a lot pickier. often the women (if the society is not horrifically patriarchal) or their families (if they have limited rights), are competing for men that are on the richer or higher status side of things. they're not trying to get married to/marry off their daughter to poor or low status men. those societies tend to be more patriarchal (not necessarily full on, like china) and highly value status & money, and where social hierarchy and class is rigid and important in daily life. so it's highly beneficial to marry up, and bad to marry down. huge portions of men are left in the dust because of that. like for ex in iran like 30% of men will never have a women (the poorer men) and millions of rural chinese men stuggle immensely to get a wife and often end up alone and are called leftover men. for women to compete for the average man, you need a society where women outnumber men, like russia. because of ww2, most of the russian male population died, so women ended up outnumbering significantly men. meaning most would end up alone, and if they didn't want that they had to compete intensely against each other to at least get a man. that's why russian women are became over the top and high maintenance and started holding themselves to very high beauty standards.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men now days are too feminine and don’t know how to be leaders or providers they want to be treated like princesses…

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

It’s the same old issue
Men have few options and constantly compete with other men

Women have many options but few that are any decent so they have to flip through all the bad ones

Different challenges, both hard, both worth it

The good news for many men is that a lot of incel losers are giving up on dating because it’s too hard, reducing their direct competition.
In 2025 a man simply willing to have a conversation with a woman is already by virtue of doing it ahead of 75% of all men

From a woman’s perspective it’s hard to see because they assume all men talk to them because they only see the ones who so and never see the millions who wanted to but didn’t

For women dating is not easier because the economic state of things makes men on average less wealthy, less likely to have a car a house or any other scarce resource.
So he can bring charisma and compassion to the table but not a safety net
(But that’s also a direct result of women integrating the workforce and splitting the resources with men, because the resources are still finite regardless of the doubled workforce)

The fix for women is to go all in on “independence” and accept that having all the rights and privileges that men have also implies they need to carry half the load and can’t have it both ways
Fortunately many women do get that and they’re the ones who struggle the least in dating

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well let me start by saying quality over quantity (that goes for women as well) there may be a abundance of women for example. But are all those women quality women? The answer is no. Okay so we narrowed that down out of the quality women how many have boyfriends, husbands, etc? That narrows it down to the quality women who are single… But out of those women whose compatible with what you’re wanting as well as needing from a relationship matching up to her wants as well as needs. That narrows it down further. On top of another thing of mutual attraction some women may be what you’re looking for but not be interested in you particularly.

Some men (and women) also just get hurt in dating and never really trust someone romantically again. Others just haven’t found someone who they are genuinely attracted to whose also attracted to them.

Even for men who are attractive and can pick. Sometimes it takes time finding that right person still as I’ve said before.

Avicenna · Answer

The sex ratio has a surplus of men until around age 40. there’s a huge surplus of women 80+, but that’s of no use to young males.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well, define hard?

I'd say women easily get dates and have male companionship in their lives and have sex any time they want WAAAAAAAAY easier than men do.

Now, family court laws are evil in the west regarding divorce and child custody, alimony, women are more masculine now than ever, more college educated (studies show college women apply for divorce 90% of the time in divorces), they cuss more than ever, dress slutty more than ever, are more promiscuous more than ever, have cosmetic surgery more than ever, are tattooed more than ever, pierced more than ever, post nudes more than ever, have social media with sexy stuff online more than ever and at the same time they are more picky, entitled and expecting princess treatment more than ever... they are less traditional, wifey material and lady like than EVER in human history but expect traditional male courting, chivalrous, provider still from men.

Men are marrying less than ever.

So, if a woman is wanting a long term relationship and/or marriage... dating that lead to that is harder. But she still gets dates and has male attention and companionship.

dragoblack · Answer

Men are tired of the bullshite. The manipulation, the tip-toeing around eggshells, dealing with the unrealistic expectations, being told were are the kind of guy women are lookig for, yet no one is interested, the being tested, the major lack of honest communication, the 1-sided effort, the being manipulated & taken advantage of, the petty bullshite, constantly being ghosted, the huge amount of socilitation in our DMs, the lack of self-awareness, self-improvement, & self-reflection, and the entitlement bullshite... the list honestly keeps going and men are tired of it, it's just not worth it anymore, especially with the repercussion of divorce meaning we lose almost everything.
Guys are simple and we want a woman who will be like our best friend but with romantic benefits. We like women who communicate and are open with us about who they are as a person. But also, someone willing to joke around with us and be supportive.
I personally very rarely see a women be open and communicative, outside of those who are part of black sheep groups/cliques.

Jove79 · Answer

HELL NO!! I never type in caps.. BUT NO!! For each woman, there’s 10+ guys chasing her. For each guy, there’s 100 rejections.. and dry phone.

Women are very very desirable.. if you are a girl, all you have to do is put on a cute outfit and style your hair, and you’ll get guys checking you out and even approaching you.

A woman can be average, walk down the street, ask the first guy she sees for sex, and she’ll get boned within seconds on the side of the road.

A guy would get sent to jail if he asked a woman for sex.

Guys have to spend a minimum of 18 months on a high protein strict diet with daily weight lifting exercises, just to attract some women.

A woman can just breathe and they’re getting their DM’s filled.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The question title is in opposition to the description.
I'm going to go with the description as thats the only way it makes any sense.

Considering that, what percentage of elderly are women at any given time? is the descrepency because of old men dying before their wives? If so it would have no effect on the dating populace.

There are also a lot of single moms, and most men don't want those (including myself).
Single adult women with no kids are not common past age 30, and women tend to be more open about dating single dads, so the effective availability would favor choices for women I think. At least for anyone over 25.

Cormac995 · Answer

I don't know where you read this or found it but it's some of the biggest BS I've ever heard. If anything, it's completely backwards and men are the ones in this position. Do you know how many guys there are per woman on dating apps? it's a 5 to 1 ratio. Woman can be as picky as they want as long as they're a 5 pretty much with the only exceptions being some of like the 9-10 men with 6 figure salaries etc. Those are the men that are the only men who get to be picky.

SolitarySolace · Answer

The ratio is close to even, and yet dating is still harder for men—not because of numbers, but because women do the majority of choosing. Men don’t have “more options” just because they slightly outnumber women. Women still control access to dating and intimacy. That’s the real power, and that’s why so many men stay single despite being available.
- Eva ❤️

Sparklight · Answer

@babebytheshore85 It seems the men have always had more options. I guess it really still is a man's world. I don't know though. All I know though is that I do like the companionship of men though.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Men's lifestyles are typically higher risk than women. Men die off and women outnumber them. If dating is now hard for women it's likely due to all the stuff Terrance Popp talks about. He's got a pretty good overall take on it.

OneViewpoint · Answer

You know you're bad at math and economics, right?

Noodle_fan · Answer

With pretty close ratio like that i dont think it make difference, dating is hard for someone who have unrealistic expectation, it means they ask way more than they can give.

WonderingManII · Answer

I think dating is easier for women. Look beautiful and the guys just come to you.

jahaims · Answer

If there are more men it would be the opposite of what you said.

Godihateyou · Answer

In the US dating is impossible for woman. Every man of value doesn't value American women. We are all dating Asian amd Latino women.

biraileeşkadını · Answer

They are very immoral.

Robert1971 · Answer

Would it be easier for women to find dates

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