I ghosted my situationship after 6months of talking and calling everyday and meet up to go on dates when we could. Have you ever?

[Anonymous]

I realized that it’s someone that never really cares genuinely and would drop me like a hot potato when someone better comes along or already has someone. I’m done being an option and can’t define if he wants nothing serious or just friends. So I ghosted. Have you ever been in this situation? How did it go for you?

[SteveSmith1985]

No. I've never ghosted someone. I can't see myself ever doing that. I think it's a shitty thing to do. I don't think it's right. If you want someone out of your life, you should have the guts to say so.

I've also never been ghosted. But I've talked to a fair number of people, on here, who have been. I've been genuinely surprised at how deeply it seems to hurt people. The not knowing, and all the unanswered questions really does cut people surprisingly deep. Consistently. Like... guys, girls, 20 year old's 40 year old'. It hurts people more than I ever would have thought.

Unless you're getting away from an abusive guy. I think ghosting is cowardly. Write the guy a text, call him, do it face to face; write him a letter by hand... but ghosting is wrong. In my opinion.

If you are done with someone for good. It's right to tell them so. In any case I can think of... at the moment anyway. (aside from abusive situations).

Sorry... but... you... did ask.

[Asker]

No, I totally appreciate your opinion. But at the same time, if this person doesn’t care about me, there’s no sense in me sticking around and just going silent.

[SteveSmith1985]

Yea. I mean. Fair enough. Do whatever you think best for your own life.

[Anonymous]

Been in this situation and accepted my situationship back twice before I realized I was only an option and tired of being one. He always knew the right things to say to get me back so I really had to reality check myself and make his actions matter more, otherwise I’d have never let him go.

[Asker]

I’m so over it honestly it’s like that’s all they offer these days.

[Opinion Owner]

I feel you, I stopped dating for 2 years because I was tired of the shit. When I did start dating again though I was just super intentional, like I didn’t give a guy the time of day if he didn’t know what he was looking for, or just got out of a relationship. Usually when their uncertain of what they want or trying to “go with the flow” that how I knew they were full of bs and left lol which was usually in the first week or two. Like I refused to waste my time or risk another situationship it’s just so emotionally taxing I couldn’t.

[Asker]

Same here! If I sense or feel or see a red flag, I’m out. No joke, I’m out! And not looking back at all!!