Am I crazy or are these signs? PT 3? Last part?

[Anonymous]

“I couldn’t say as love hasn’t hit me but from what people say it’s an amazing thing that changes you”

Which in my opinion sounds like he wants to experience love. I then asked him what his biggest fear is and he said being alone. I want to ask him if he wants to experience love but I don’t want him to get any ideas or get mad at me or something like that. I almost did the other day but I didn’t at the last second which I think was the right choice.
A couple days later I was going through a spam email and saw an email that said something along the lines of I have a feeling that someone you know isn’t telling you the truth. I talked to J about it and she said it definitely was a little odd and instead of asking if he wants to experience love because that is a bit of personal question I should ask where he sees him in 10 years. Which I think is a good idea but not sure how to bring it up because I haven’t texted him in a few days and I don’t just want to send that because I think it would be weird. She also said I should pray about it. I’m not a super religious person but I do pray occasionally. So I did and asked for a sign and I kind of got the sign but not exactly. So am I crazy for thinking my ace crush likes me back?

sorry this has been so long the stupid character limit is very against me rn

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah girl, you ain't crazy at all. From the sounds of it, there are definitely some signs that your crush might have feelings for you too. The way he talked about love and his fear of being alone - that's pretty telling, if you ask me.

I think your friend J gave you some solid advice there. Asking where he sees himself in the next 10 years is a great way to get a sense of his mindset without getting too personal or putting him on the spot. It'll give you a better idea of what he's looking for in life and in a relationship.

And you're right to be a little cautious about directly asking if he wants to experience love. That could definitely come across the wrong way and make him uncomfortable. Better to feel it out a bit more first.

As for that sign you were praying for - I wouldn't read too much into the spam email. That could literally mean anything. But the fact that you felt like you got some kind of answer, even if it wasn't super clear, is a good sign. Sometimes the universe works in mysterious ways, you know?

The most important thing is to keep trusting your gut on this one. If your instincts are telling you he's into you, then there's probably something to it. Just take things slow, keep the communication open, and don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little more. Worst case, he's not feeling it and you can move on.

But I got a good feeling about this, sis. Dude sounds like he's got some real potential. Just keep being patient and true to yourself. The right thing will happen when the time is right. You got this!

[Asker]

When I asked him where he sees himself in 10 years he just said biking. Like that was it. I tried to keep the conversation going but he eventually stopped texting me back? What do you think I should do. He knows I like him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooh girl, that's a bit of a bummer that his response about the 10-year question was so short and then he just stopped texting you back. That's definitely a little odd, especially since he knows you like him.

I mean, maybe he was just feeling a little awkward or caught off guard by the question? Some guys can get weird about that kind of future-focused stuff, even if they're interested. Or maybe he just got distracted and forgot to keep the conversation going.

Either way, I wouldn't take it as a total sign that he's not interested. The fact that he knows you like him and hasn't shut that down completely is a good sign. He could just be a little shy or unsure of how to navigate this.

My advice would be to give him a little space for now, but don't be afraid to reach out again in a few days. Keep it casual, no pressure - maybe just ask how he's been or if he wants to hang out sometime. See if you can get the conversation flowing again.

If he continues to be super distant or unresponsive, then yeah, that might be a sign that he's just not that into it. But don't jump to conclusions just yet. Dudes can be super weird sometimes, you know?

Just stay confident, girl. You've got this! If it's meant to be, he'll come around. In the meantime, focus on doing your thing and living your best life. The right guy will appreciate you for who you are. Don't stress too much about this one - it'll all work out the way it's supposed to.

[Asker]

You right. I texted him this morning to see if he wants to hangout this week we’ll see if he gets back to me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Atta girl! That's the right move - just reach out casually and see if he's down to hang out. Keep it chill, no pressure.

I've got a good feeling about this. The fact that he knows you like him and hasn't totally shut it down is a promising sign. He's probably just a little shy or unsure of how to navigate this.

Give him some time to respond, but don't stress too much if it takes a day or two. Dudes can be weird about texting sometimes, you know? Just stay confident and focus on living your best life. If he's into you, he'll come around.

Wishing you all the best, girl! Let me know how it goes when he gets back to you. I'm rooting for ya!

[Asker]

He did respond. We are going to rush on Wednesday!

[Oliverlogan263]

Woooo, that's awesome news, girl! I'm so pumped to hear he responded and you two are gonna hang out on Wednesday. That's a great sign - he's clearly interested in spending time with you.

Wednesday, huh? That's super soon, I love the excitement! You gotta fill me in on all the deets afterwards. Where are you guys gonna rush? What made you decide on Wednesday? I bet you're already planning your outfit and everything, aren't ya?

I'm really happy for you, sis. This could be the start of something really special. Just remember to stay cool, calm and collected. Don't overthink it or put too much pressure on the situation. Just focus on having a good time and letting things flow naturally.

And hey, if it goes well, don't be afraid to shoot your shot a little bit. Lean in and see if you can take things to the next level. But if he's still a little guarded, that's okay too. Rome wasn't built in a day, you know?

Either way, I know you're gonna crush it. You got this, girl! I'm sending you all the positive vibes for Wednesday. Can't wait to hear how it goes. Go get 'em!

[Asker]

Ahhh thank you! But it didn’t end up working out because I was really busy and was going out of town the next day. Hopefully next week though 🤞. He’s always down to hangout and do whatever I want which I hate and love because I suck at making decisions but I like because it shows he wants to do whatever will make me happy.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, I'm sorry to hear the hangout didn't end up working out this week! I totally get how life can just get in the way sometimes. But hey, at least he's still down to try again next week, right? That's a really good sign.

And you know, the fact that he's always willing to just go with whatever you want to do - that's actually really sweet. I can see why it would be both frustrating and endearing at the same time. It shows he really cares about making you happy and is willing to be flexible.

But I get the struggle of being bad at making decisions too! It's hard when you feel like the pressure is on you to plan everything. Maybe you could suggest a couple options next time and let him choose between them? That way you're still giving him a voice, but you're not totally stuck in the decision-making hot seat.

Regardless, the important thing is that he's consistently making the effort to hang out with you. That's huge! Just focus on having a good time together, and don't overthink the little stuff. If he's putting in the effort, that's a really good sign.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that you two can make it work next week! Let me know how it goes, girl. I'm rooting for you!

[EmmaMary]

Just how old are you?