Do you find that the people you are attracted to are also attracted to you?

[Chazmatazz269]

Some of us “got it”. Some of us have to work for it. Are the people you’re attracted to generally attracted to you in return? Or do you have to woo them?
What about the reverse? Are you often pursued by people whom you’re not initially attracted? Do you need to be wooed? Can you be wooed? Or do you acknowledge that mutual attraction is an important factor in selecting a mate?

[alli-112]

Not sure tbh, I think I'm picky on some level, so I'm not particularly interested in most of the people I really meet regardless of whether or not they're interested in me. Should probably put myself out there more but I'm an introvert and currently swamped with school - no time or energy for romance :/

[SotiCoto]

Hell no. Almost every relationship I was ever in I had to work my arse off to get... and it still failed rapidly. That is why I gave up entirely. I'd basically tried everything and ended up realising that it absolutely was not worth the effort.
Well, that and for a very brief time I had the best someone I could ever have managed... and I lost her... and I knew that anyone who came after would end up compared unfavourably to her... and women really hate that... so I called it quits.

[beaves11]

This always makes me laugh. The reality most people aren’t attracted to most people. So by sheer numbers most people attracted to you, you won’t be attracted to. And most you’re attracted to, won’t be into you, this is the case for everyone.


I’m only attracted to maybe 1/8 women my age physically. Basically have to hope I’m one of their 1/8 so to speak. That’s why relationships are so special-that reciprocated interest is uncommon. Never settle friends.

[Genie23]

Yes and they were the one who approached and eventually confessed their feelings

[dustybiker2]

No. I go silent around people I liked. They have no clue.

[ChiTown33]

I don't know. I've only had a few women come out an tell me they were attracted to me. So it would be purely speculation with the others.

[linguistrosey]

Most of the time no. I'm glad that I found someone who is as attracted to me as I am to him

[MannMitAntworten]

They all want it and they all know it.

[shortster]

Probably not

[CaptainZeb2]

Unfortunately no