Ladies: Do you accept coffe or park 1st dates?

[Katebfun]

I have accepted once for each. I'm hesitate to do again. Because both men were low effort after or ghosted. They were clearly not thinking long term. As im Dinner, drinks or hiking dates I've had.

Are coffee dates a No or Yes?

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11 mo

☕️ Coffee...

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11 mo

I will add coffee or park dates when you've matched on an App, are completely fine! Because you've never met in person. Having a low key date, is more of a meeting new greet. To see if either of you look like you pictures 😅🤣. Im just mentioning the 2 guys i had met on a dating app, their actions after proceed to be low effort. Neither was seeking anything long term.

[DishLady]

Well the idea of a first date is not really more than just seeing whether or not you’re compatible, which makes a short date (coffee, drinks, dog park) ideal. Brunch or lunch for a second date, and incrementally longer dates as you determine compatibility.


Were you looking for a lobster-and-champagne first date or something?


Better to know the guy well than to shake him down for a “high level” date right off the bat.

[Katebfun]

Nope! I just wanted tk get data/info on how many women would accept s coffee date 😅🤣

[Ms_Facesitter]

Gladly!
They are a yes. Because it's not low effort. It's low risk. If they're expected to pay for the date, they're paying for extra without a guarantee that it's going to work out. So coffee is a safe option. Does that mean that he is poor and can't pay for it? No, it's just an extra meal.

What actually matters in a date is getting to know each other. Time spent together. Not how much he spends.

[Katebfun]

I agree 👍 💯 Thanks

[Phoenix98]

I don't really see a point in doing anything more then a coffee or park date for a first date for a variety of reasons. Unless I've personally known you for quite a while before that.

[worldscolide]

When I was single those are the only first dates I would ever do. If they didn't like it, or felt it was low effort, then they were unworthy of any further I vestment or time.

[avery58]

Yeah, sure. I don't expect and wouldn't really want the first date to be anything super fancy, unless I've known him for a while. If I'm just getting to know him, a casual coffee date and a walk around the park or movie date seems just fine.

[Beckybooboo]

My first date with my current boyfriend was a cup of coffee. We work in adjacent buildings and his has a Starbucks in it, so we made a coffee date in the morning before work. It was nice.

[alli-112]

Yes, but that's because they're low pressure. I get nervous for more formal or longer stuff when it's just starting out.

[jazzy34]

Of course. A coffee date is absolutely perfect. But then again, I’m not high maintenance sooo…. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Paige90]

Yes! I have done both and it's a good way to see if you are compatible with a guy.

[Nikki1989]

Any time is a good time for coffee. I am all for it.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the girl.

[eagle1951]

i'd say yes