Do you think a long distance relationship could work out?

[Darine123]

I’m in one rn and he has been acting distance and shady. He would fight and ignore me every weekend. Keep making plans to come see me but the dates keep pushing out. Caught him talking to multiple girls while we together.

[ohsheeT]

Yes it can work if both people are honest.

But more than that i believe everybody should experience one.

In life when we get into a relationship. It's somebody that you see each and everyday and we want to be close. And touch.. and of course with touch and see each other we become closer. Because we communicate not only with our mouth but with our eyes with touch\nFacial expressions. making love bonding and becoming one we are physical

In a LDR depending who you are and how much you love someone you want all the above. And the only way to do everyday is through our energy. When speaking you speak with your heart and your energy is dont know if you have every experienced becoming one with someone a lot of people say yes but I'm not sure they truly have when making love and really becoming one with some one when your finished you roll off and you go in to an out of body experience when this happens it's very spiritual and beautiful too energies becoming one

And when this happens you learn on what your energy can do. You energy can go anyplace at anytime so in a LDR as you're sending words back and for you're on the phone.
There is the most beautiful feeling that you can get or give and since it is your energy, it is.
Pure? Spiritual. I believe that our energies are the real us when we pass our body falls to the ground. Our energy gathers are sole or spirit are knowledge. Everything we have done in life and it takes us to wherever we're going from there

Just like breaking up with somebody, if our bodies are the we're dating that person. A break up heartache last for maybe a couple weeks three weeks a month

But when 2 energies fall in love you can't eat sleep. You can't function for months because because our energy is mourning the loss of the other energy. Anyway a long distance relationship is something that everybody should experinse to become more spiritual to start. Understanding yourself better and who we truly are in this world. We are just not human beings. We're way way deeper and better than that. Everything in this world.
Is on a frequency on a megahertz vibration

And scientists are coming out with more and more proof of this and the faster the sooner you can learn this the more you're gonna grow to get to your destiny

And once again I mean anything in this world can work as long as two people want it to work

[AvaRay]

Every relationship has their own challenges.. their own beauty as well

Either it's close distance relationship/ LDR..

I ever be in LDR with my 2nd ex for quiet long time , n really deep sad it's not end well..

See, it's not a guarantee that when u r in LDR it ll always end up failing.. n it's not guarantee also that when your mate is close distance with u, your relationship ll always work out cause I ever in both relationship n I know it

Matter is who u being together with in a relationship.. if u r being with a right man no matter u r in LDR / close distance relationship it always working out , but if u r with a wrong man it ll always end up failing / u getting screwed up..

Many people say that plenty fish in the ocean.. that's true but not every man / every woman is a right person for us

Better late n take it slow but secure n safe rather than hurry but end up in a daily regret..

We can hv feeling for someone but to make commitment with someone we hv to be really careful , cause relationship isn't a game neither a joke..

N if someone truly love u, their action ll proof it not just words, promise.. their action ll not be contradictive with their words n ll not give u confusion n make u feel doubtful every single time

So, if their action isn't showing all of that we'll u get your own answer r they truly love u / not..

[Paris13]

I had once married a man, a Muslim, out in Egypt and lived with him and his family for awhile. It didn't work out for us, although still friends, for I returned to the states and zsaw how hard it was to get him over here with me.. I am now for nearly 7 years in another LDR with a UK man and we are happy. I just visit back him every so often but won't live out there but our love and hard efforts and communication keep these Fires of Desires Going and Growing. It all depends on both of you. Not just One, hun. xxxoo

[HollyK21]

“He would fight and ignore me every weekend. Keep making plans to come see me but the dates keep pushing out. Caught him talking to multiple girls while we together.”


In my opinion, all of this context points to a deeper issue than just distance.

[OlderAndWiser]

The important question is not whether it COULD work out. What you need to think about is "what is the likelihood that it will work."

Those are very different questions. Martians may land a flying saucer in my back yard tonight, but I am not waiting up to give them milk and cookies!

[Purpleronnie]

It’s honestly laughable how frequently this questions is asked. Maybe I should either not answer or just copy and paste.


In my humble yet experienced opinion , a long distance relationship is doomed to almost certain failure. The odds are stacked against it for a million little reasons.


When we are born , we could not survive without the touch of someone who loves or cares for us. This i feel is then imprinted into who we are. So when in a loving , caring relationship we need that , more than we like to admit sometimes and NOTHING else compares.


So , sure we can live without for a period of time, making do with the support of technology but at best its absence leaves a mark and eventually drives a chemical wedge , that lack of oxytocin and even the best of us succumb to our most natural basic instinct.


So long distances work in the short term , distance ‘can’ intensify feelings but also exaggerate them. But in my opinion ldr long rarely works.


I’d offer less than 1% of the time.

[Zack-Bann]

I’m about to say something that will sound judgmental but it’s an honest observation:


If your social media presence resembles that picture you have on your profile here chances are he feels threatened by not being there to keep guys away and his defense mechanism is to sabotage the relationship himself before he finds out you cheated on him.


And you might be the most loyal and faithful woman in the world. That doesn’t change the subconscious insecurity that comes from seeing these kinds of pics online when you’re far away


But the bottom line is: LR doesn’t work. I’ve watched it go ip in flames countless times with friends and once with me.
There’s always something
Intimacy requires proximity
You can’t manufacture it over the phone

[Purpleronnie]

Great comment / opinion 👏 , never even noticed the picture although I think it’s encouraged and definitely sets the wrong tone.

[Abbycado]

Depends on how long and circumstances. I met my boyfriend at school last year. Over the summer, we had to deal with being an hours drive apart.

Now, that is not super far but certainly inconvenient. We made it work and were able to get together a couple weekends a month.

[linguistrosey]

Yes, LDR could work out if both of you actively work towards making it actually work. Communication, consistency and commitment are important to any relationship but communication and consistency are particularly very important in a LDR.
Nearly all LDRs are doomed to fail if there is no end date (i. e uncertainty). Draging the relationship for as long as possible and failing to keep promises are also recipes for a failed LDR.

In your case, your relationship is probably over. I would break up. Your boyfriend doesn't want you and has other priorities over you. Don't waste your time and efforts and just let him go.

[Twalli]

It can. My sister's fiancée, he was her boyfriend at the time was dating her long distance. He lived in Florida while she was going to graduate school in Texas. They saw each other for a weekend once a month. Eventually he moved back to Texas and now they live together and he's either gotten certified as a welder or is still in the process of getting certified. He proposed on their 6-year anniversary of dating. Funnily enough that's the same year that my fiancée and I started dating. It's also the year my fiancée's sister got remarried. 2018 was a very eventful year for my family and my fiancée's family.

[Flatmanlewis]

No. I don’t. People need intimacy and the simple moments of life to forge bonds and have a true relationship. An entirely LDR is an emotional band aid on a void.


If a couple have an established relationship and then I’d morphs into an LDR due to a short term life demand like a military deployment, college education, or work opportunity, then the foundation can sustain them but starting a relationship as an LDR from the start is destined to fail, in my mind.

[Screenwriter]

You've listed several reasons why THIS LD relationship is not working. If someone is truly interested in you, they will face hell and high water to come see you. There won't be arguments. You will not catch them talking to multiple women either.

Move on. He's not that into you and the distance isn't helping.

[Seangreen]

Look anything's possible however I wouldn't expect much to come out of it because if either one of you end up meeting somebody that you really like that lives near you I don't care how long the long distance relationships been going on but especially if you've never met in person someone's going to come along for one of you first and it's going to be over with pretty soon after that I'm just saying

[JohnnyB123321]

You would need to think about what would be possible if it worked. id try it though. Getting on a plane is easy. I’ve flown some girls around the county this last year. Not really to start a relationship but have a partner to explore new areas and have a few days of some physical enjoyment.

[InknKink]

If you met him in real life, started a relationship, and then moved apart because of unforeseen circumstances (work, etc), AND created a hard set plan to move back together... maybe...

Otherwise. Hell no.

[Jamesgoldrich]

Long distance can absolutely work out. But it really takes discipline, trust, communication and obviously agreed upon schedules if when you both will visit one or the other. Insecurities have no place in long distance relationships because all it takes is a festering thought to begin eroding the relationship.

[exitseven]

It might work but both parties must be committed to the relationship and there has to be some kind of an endgame where the two of you will end up together.

[lesleyholm]

You're absolutely right commitment from both sides is key, and having a shared vision for the future really matters. Without that, it’s easy to get stuck or drift apart. It’s not just about making it work day to day, but also knowing where it’s all leading.

[exitseven]

@lesleyholm you have a good handle on this.

[lesleyholm]

Thank you , I could tell you always do the same and also have the best way to handle things

[exitseven]

@lesleyholm I have lived this.

[lesleyholm]

I have to but since my husband died it’s been hard to find someone likely to him though.

[PeachyPie93]

They can work but only with someone who generally wants you. He clearly doesn't want you considering he makes excuses not to see you.

[queenofcardio]

I've tried multiple times. It rarely ever works

[DJB72]

Mine did. We got married and were together 21 years until she died last year. I know plenty of people who kept one going on deployment as well.

[DryGermanGuy]

Yes, when both people are dedicated to it. However in your case, it doesn't sound like it.

[McSteamy]

It's based on the situations. One couldn't work for someone would work for another. In my life, it didn't work out, because she's too young and prioritized her goals than me.

[beenherebefore]

It could work but most of the time it doesn't.

[WhitneySnow]

It could but I don’t think this guy is serious about you

[PlanZ6]

It can it take a lot of work and depends how much you communicate with each other. And text everyday and FaceTime once a week at least.

[bowenw]

He doesn’t seem to be into you if he keeps making excuses to not see you.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Unlikely. It's way too hard to build confidence in the relationship when you aren't physically present.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Absolutely it can work out it just requires a little more work cause your far aways from each other so you have to be a little more creative. Understand?

[Amur8711]

I think it can but you need to actually talk about what's happening in your lives, make time to video chat, and meet to see if your compatible in the physical world.

[WonderingManII]

I don't think your relationship with him will workout.

[jamesgoldman]

No, not that I ever tried because we could tell it would fail... quit while you're ahead

[i_Jedi]

Yeah! With enough trust in each other, it will!

[Staximus]

Long distance relationships are stupid pretend relationships

[dudeinohio]

No. They rarely work. You need the physical connection.

[FenixG45]

LDRs can work if both put work into it. I'm not sure he is putting in the work.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's possible with the right person, but it mostly doesn't work.

[dinojames22]

Not going to work.. lot of heart and headache.. trust me

[itsannalee]

It works for some people but it hard.

[Nikki1989]

Very rarely do they ever work.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

They generally do not.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

It rarely works out.

[DrPepper12]

Nope. Never. Uh uh. Nah.

[Danny_dan92]

For some yeah. For others no

[pembeam]

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[Paige90]

No I don't

[In_Trance]

Nope

[realb1chh]

girl dump him