Do you like being the one to make the first move?

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Like proposing, texting, or saying I love you...

InknKink · Accepted Answer

I used to hate making all the first moves because it opens you up to rejection. And rejection always felt like an attack on my character. I internalized rejection in a way that said, something is wrong with me.

However, with time I became more accustomed to risk and rejection. It has made it easier navigating the world in general.

A world in which the predominate answer to every question is no.

As a man, making large moves and learning to shrug off rejection is perhaps one the hardest lessons in life, but also one of the most necessary ones.

I still don't know if I would say that 'I like making the first moves' in a relationship. But I'm grateful that I've had to. I'm a better person for it.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I don’t mind it , but I prefer her to make the first move , mainly because a girl usually has multiple guys’ hitting on her but most of us guys’ don’t have multiple girls’ hitting on us , so it’s a huge turn on when she makes the first move , From my experiences with girls’ the ones that hit on me first , I experienced a longer lasting relationship with her over a girl that I made the first move on.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I don't date, never have and have no plans to date for the next 30+ years. Thus, I am not likely to. make the first move a year time soon.

I don't flirt either because I am not interested in becoming a victim of sexual abuse.

I don' recall the last time I texted anyone and I am never the one initiating texting. Those that know me are aware not to expect an answer in the ext 24 hours and will not bother with me.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I always preferred the guy to make the first move when we first meet. Of course I would give it right back to him once I knew he liked me.
I've experienced saying I love you both ways. I've said it first a time or two but usually the guy said it to me first.
This one guy said "I love you. Or at least I think I do". 😅

ohsheeT · Answer

No it doesn't matter who the first to do anything it's something nice when both are engaged.
To the relationship.
And does something just because they want to do it

About the only thing that I will take to lead in. Is that is in the bedroom? Because I want to make it all about her anyway

AviatorTom · Answer

I like to be the one to make the first move, and I also like it when she makes the first move. A partnership is what makes the best relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

The response from the obnoxious middle aged Australian woman here is a great example of how dumb women are about this subject. They say they've tried it and it never works out. But in reality they tried it once, maybe twice, failed and gave up thinking guys don't like women who take the initiative.

For most guys we get shot down like 90% of the time. Can you imagine if we concluded that women must not like men to take the initiative? The human race would have gone extinct a long time ago.

The reality is guys love to be approached by women we are interested in. But just like women, if we're not interested, we're not going to accept, but NOT because she took initiative. It's not rocket science.

aceleon · Answer

no.

yes as a male i have to do it since woman seldom does it but it doesn't mean i like it.

if possible i almost never want to be the initiator, only thing i ever want to even initiate is sex and even that is if we both initiate and not just me all the time.

if i have to put effort and get tired it is not worth having.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Nah, I don't really care who makes the first move. I'm not really into super submissive women who only communicate indirectly and then get frustrated and upset when things don't go their way. Want something? Go get it. Put yourself out there. Man or woman. Sitting quietly and waiting for your perfect outcome to magically occur isn't much of a strategy.

exitseven · Answer

I was always really shy around girls. Even when I was pretty sure tht she liked me I was still afraid to make a move.

There was a girl I reallt liked and I thought tht she liked me too but I never was able to tell her how I felt. She started going out with some other guy so I figured that I needed to step up. I put on my big boy pants and went to see her. I finally admitted that I was falling in love with her. After that it was not as scary as I thought.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Great question! Datingwise I don't mind, although I seldom make a move myself. I'd sooner have the option of approaching or not, as traumatic as the constant rejections are, than be in the passive position of being approached constantly by losers and having to reject 99.99% of them because they're physically repulsive or clearly sociopaths. I don't know how women hack that s***.

TrimmedTip · Answer

I would be the one to make those moves but mostly it depends on the opposite person. Like how she behaves with others, with me. If she respects family, friends, strangers and stuff. Lots of other things. If she is ambitious and lots lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have done it, but it is usually a waste of time. Men claim they want women to approach them, but most men flee like a scared puppy when this happens.

Berethor · Answer

I don't really like to make the first move, but I can't expect women to do it for me, especially considering that I am looking for a virgin, I usually text a woman first.

RavVid · Answer

Texting yes. Initiating first contact yes. If I am enthusiastic, I am enthusiastic so might be first with love you. Proposing is still to happen and is highly unlikely ever to.

dwreborn · Answer

It doesn't matter to me I know I wouldn't say or do things just to be the first if u don't mean it then does it matter

katiesmuff · Answer

It's nothing I've ever spent any effort considering. Who cares who is first when you truly care about the other person.

Viola_456 · Answer

I like it at least i can choose who to approach... Mostly im approached by men that I dont like

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly not really, I’ve done it a lot such as approaching, texting or calling. And honestly after so many years of doing so I’m not even going to attempt at it unless I’m already in the relationship

beenherebefore · Answer

I prefer when the Man is the one making the first move.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not really. I prefer the other person do it.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

No, I'm too shy for that. I prefer self-confident, assertive and dominant girls who like to take initiative.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't necessarily like or dislike it it simply is what it is.

Jltakk · Answer

I hate it to be honest. Approaching others like I'm looking for a job is exhausting, would just rather enjoy life and if someone comes along, that's fine.

Alex-Snow · Answer

It does not bother me but I also like it when a girl asks me out or initiates sex.

RHK36 · Answer

I don't make any moves anymore. Women are at an all time high of crazy and lack of accountability.

Anonymous · Answer

No never. I will do things to make him notice me sometimes, but never make the first move.

i_Jedi · Answer

If I did not make the first move, who will? Lol

WhatIsYourZodiac · Answer

If I am totally into her, I love to make the first move always...

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely not and that was before it became illegal

DishLady · Answer

Nope.

thegreenyogi · Answer

It depends on the situation.

Fireguy17 · Answer

doesn't bother me at all who does it first.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Both! Quarry & hunter is both fun

valentina4eva · Answer

nopee😅

WLW04 · Answer

Yes and taking a chance.

Petite_girlie · Answer

It ensures I talk to the one *I* like too.

WonderingManII · Answer

Nope.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yep.

Raydergman26 · Answer

Yes at times

adenniz · Answer

In another life

Slim57 · Answer

No I hate it

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