Am I undateable?

[Chartreux]

I am separated, going to divorce…

I am a teen mom and my kids are grown & moved out, but I still have debts and live in a little apartment, is it that bad that no guy wants to date me?

[ohsheeT]

You mean your going through a moment in time right now and your in your own head not know the future

There's a reason for that. First you have to stop sit down and let the past go.

Smile love yourself
That is number one rule
Second rule is to believe in yourself and follow through
Just because your kids are grown does mean you stop teaching them who to be in this world.

Just because you are divorced. Doesn't mean that you stop being the leader and the teacher

You are your thoughts so so only have positives and one foot in front of the other you know your the only one that can make it happen

So quit f***in around and feeling sorry for yourself. And just do it\With a smile
And remember you become what you dream I believe in you

[Zack-Bann]

The circumstance isn’t ideal but it’s not a deal breaker


If you’re desirable or not will come down to you personally
Are you a social person
Are you kind and compassionate
Are you fit and healthy
Are you smart and cultured
All these qualities that make a person desirable


But some others already said it: you do need to end the marriage entirely.
Since your kids are adults and no longer requiring formal co-parenting there’s no reason to have a husband in your life even if you’re separated
That just invites drama

[FreyaRed]

Usually men who aren't interested in deeper relationship don't care about your financial, social status as well as kids don't bother them. Maybe you need a little bit shiny silver dust on you wings to focus more attention on you. Makeup, clothes and a little bit confidence is something you can easily afford.

[HawkPerception]

Well the truth is, no man wants the responsibility of helping raise another man's child. That does lower how much you're valued in the dating market. But you're 37. You have your whole life ahead of you. There are plenty of guys older than yourself that would not mind dating you.

Be open to the idea of online dating if you're not already. Pretty sure you can find a date by the end of the week. It's much easier for women.

[Miristheiss]

Rationally, yes you are. The world is full of pathetic simps raised by feminists moms who've taught them to white knight and "save" women who have made shitty decisions and fucked up their lives. They've taught them men aren't allowed to have standards and holding women accountable to their own promiscuity and sluttiness is "bad" and the "past don't matter". A manly father should have taught them to flee from these low quality, bad women and to go after the few virtuous women and if a woman demands this autonomy to just to whatever she wants at any time... piercings, clubbing, tattoos, hanging out with guy friends alone, dressing slutty, flirting and you are bad and controlling. Any woman who acts like that and even has those shitty desires is no good and he should just run immediately.

Wise, high quality men shouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole. But the world is full of pathetic simps who'll go after anything. So you'll probably find some moron trying to accept your used, rotten goods you're selling.

[Anonymous]

Well you're separated. You're not divorced yet. No self respecting guy is going to date you ATM. I went through that fiasco with the last women who showed interest in me. I wouldn't date her while she was still officially married. So she passed on me for another guy who didn't hold to those standards. She got wit him. He f***ed her then kicked her to the curb. Then after getting divorced she tried to come back to me. I told her the truth. Had she waited I would of dated her. But since she didn't consider me worth waiting for then. I would not date her now. She shot herself in the foot on this one.

[Asb_Samson]

Undateable? Not at all. You’re 37 Young, independent, and free to live life on your own terms that’s incredibly attractive. The debts and apartment are just temporary details, they don’t define you. What stands out is the confidence, the strength, and the spark you carry. Any man with sense would be lucky to share his time and his nights with a woman like you.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why they don't want to date you can be limitless of reasons why, the reason can even be that you aren't making yourself visible to the type of men that would wanna date you, my point is there's many perspectives on why you aren't attracting people, it doesn't mean you are undatable.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

You lost me at the mention of debts.

I wouldn't have any problems with children or you living in a shithole (thankfully I got my tetanus shot), but debts are a dealbreaker.

[stratford]

None of those things would prevent me from wanting to date you. If we had an emotional and physical connection everything else would fall in to place around that.

[Berethor]

Even if your kids are grown and moved out you have a lot of baggage, pretty undateable.

[insatiable_curiosity]

No, you’re not undateable. It sounds like we’re both struggling with this issue. Hang in there!

[Ironco]

Get your marriage taken care of first.

Why would a guy want to date a married woman, even if it is a separation. Get that solved first, then start looking.

[bowenw]

You are datable. Hopefully you meet some guys that appreciate you.

[Vegasrunner]

Guys don't want women in the middle of a divorce. The other stuff no guy cares about.

[DryGermanGuy]

Not enough information, sorry. 🤷‍♂️

[slatyb]

No, but wait until the divorce is final

[Anonymous]

Depends on what you look like.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Are you hot?