I have no clue if I am single?

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I don't think I've ever been this upset in my entire life. I was with my boyfriend a year and 2 months. We both love eachother so much. The chemistry never faded. I've made a garden at his house, helped him decorate his deck, organized his kitchen, we even got a fish tank that he doesn't even know how to take care of. At the beginning of our relationship there was this girl (we'll call her Jen) who constantly blew up his phone. She was a lot like me and I don't have any friends so my boyfriend thought we could be good friends. We hungout with her a few times only for me to find out later that she was in his phone as "Jen Blue" and told me it's like Bonnie Blue the whore and that they tried dating once and she gave him a bj. Jen has herpes and so my boyfriend said he would never date her cause he's a hypochondriac about stds (which he is) and said that he thinks she's so gross. Well I told that girl off and she sent vile texts about me and my boyfriend. My boyfriend made a promise with me that he would never talk to her again or we were done. Fast forward we have been fighting a lot. He's never had a girlfriend before and thinks we should only fight 2 times a year... so there's been pressure on me to not fight and it made me fight with him more. This past weekend I got too drunk and upset that he doesn't call me pretty often. So I said fine I'll find someone who will and then I purposely texted this male coworker who likes me and my boyfriend knows. I wanted my boyfriend to know i was texting him to get jealous and I was just drunk and wanting attention. My boyfriend doesn't drink so he doesn't understand being drunk I wasn't in the right mind. He then threw all my stuff in trash bags even decor I've got for his house. I said are we done and he said yes I cried in his room for an hour.

ohsheeT · Answer

Wow well the way you started the question i was on your side but then after reading it all he has a big point. First of all getting drunk is stupid. Being jealous is stupid and playing drunk games is even more stupid. So what he's saying is if I can't trust you in all the other ways how am I going to trust you with a joint bank account. All it would take is you to snap and everything he has worked for is gone

I think you need to find yourself. And remember one thing you could have the best of the best relationships. And it's still a 50 /50 deal that it may not work

Anonymous · Answer

I really think that as hard as this may sound, you need to focus on yourself. You can’t prioritize and ache over getting him back while your health both mental and physical suffer so much. I know it’s hard to imagine your life without him or to think he’s seeing Jen, but you really have to fight to make him not the main focus of your life right now. If you believe in god or a higher power, put it in his hands and trust that if you are truly meant to be with this man then you will. But not now, it just isn’t the right time.

elovesyou1222 · Answer

I'm the original poster adding to my post:

But it's been a week since and the other day he was at his friends house who lives next to me and the next day i found an envelope with my credit cards in it in the mailbox (i gave them to him so i wouldn't use them). I also texted him asking if we were broken up or actually on a break cause its feeling more like a breakup. I have no clue where we stand. Any ideas? I really want him back he's the love of my life and I was wrong I am willing to change. I haven't drank since that night and I am getting on meds to stop my alcohol cravings

I have no clue if I am single?

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