What do I do to get a boyfriend when it feels like the most impossible thing ever?

[Anonymous]

I hate this place. Some days I feel like I’m okay with being alone but some days I realize I was never ok with it. People told me to put myself out there and oh god I did multiple times and fuck! I always got denied. I’m pretty sure I’m not unattractive but a little bit of a plain Jane for sure. I don’t get approached too, now what do I do? I have a crush on this dude in my university class then I tried my luck with him, again. As expected, I was rejected. I tested the waters by telling him he looks like my celebrity crush (he does) and he didn’t give a flip fr. He just hearted the last message I sent him, when there was a good opportunity to continue the conversation. So obviously he’s not interested. At least he was nice about it but oh god what am I doing wrong? I’m tired fr. What do I have to do to get a boyfriend out here? And please don’t say anything about self-esteem cuz I’m start swinging. A lot of people are insecure and still get into relationships, therefore, nothing is to do with that, at all!!!

[ohsheeT]

Ok hold on. Start again
First things first. Do you know who you are.

Do you know what you want
Do you love yourself
Because that's where it all starts you have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else or anyone else can love you.

Don't get me wrong there are many that will tell you they love you. But you will find its not true
And these guys are put in to your life to teach you about love.

Or you can be lucky like you are right now and that person your looking for just hasn't found you yes. So keep doing what your doing dont be in a big hurry. Other wise in stead of learning the lesson you are meant to learn you will pick the wrong guy and from there you will have to learn many lessons


Hope that made since to you
You are given anything and everything you want in life anything you ask for.
We are our thoughts
They all come true. But the we will get to make a choice and with that choice comes a learning experience.

This is life with every thing you do in it.
So don't be in a big hurry. Understand it's not that you can find one. Understand that your being protected in a way with out lessons. .

But I can also tell you this you will be tested to see what you have learnd in this time while your waiting for the right guy.

And the first guy that asks you out might be wrong for you and if you don't live your self then that's when you want something so bad you jump in to it.. and you will go through heart ache. Maybe just once or maybe 2 or 3 times until you learn why you have to love yourself first and how to read guys. So you don't get hurt

So to answer your question while your waiting take the time to learn anything and everything about guys first so when you have that choice you make the right one

[HighValue]

Telling someone they look like someone else you like isn't going to work. Just ask someone out directly instead of expecting them to read your mind, especially since many guys know women often falsely accuse them of stuff so they are less likely now to initiate things.

[Asker]

Do they really can’t tell?

[Asker]

The thing is, shouldn’t it already be obvious that I like him cuz I followed him first on insta then texted him first? I mean I’ll just take the L he just doesn’t like me

[AvaRay]

Honestly for me, there’s no universal formula to get a boyfriend.. 😊🦋

It’s not about testing waters, clever lines, or trying to impress someone who isn’t genuinely interested..

What u need to focus on is living your life fully with passion, respect, n dedication..

Upgrade your own value, nurture your character, n grow in ways that truly matter..

So it’s better to focus on developing your own quality n character as a person..

Trust that God’s timing is never too late, never too long, never too early..

If God has someone who’s truly right for u, He’ll bring them in the perfect time, perfectly aligned with His plan..

Review your own purpose for wanting a partner, what kind of relationship r u truly building?

U should understand that relationships, hving a mate aren’t games, or just ways to kill time, or a casual companionship..

Emotionally n mentally, it requires maturity and depth..

If u only chase someone to get the label of hving a boyfriend, just to escape loneliness, u won’t be able to assess a person’s character or quality honestly n objectively..

[Asker]

Oh dang you didn’t have to out me like that but one part of me wants a relationship to build something meaningful but the other part just wants it to fill the void and loneliness

[AvaRay]

It’s okay, being honest with yourself is already powerful.. 🤗

Recognizing both sides, the desire for something meaningful n the pull to fill a void shows self awareness..

The key isn’t rushing to fill emptiness, but allowing space for connection that truly matters, with the right person n the right timing..

When depth, integrity, n alignment meet, everything else falls naturally into place..

That’s when relationships stop being about escaping loneliness n start being about building something real..

[jahaims]

You're logic is a lot of people do something stupid so it's okay. I see why you are single.

[Asker]

Dang gramp you’re always grumpy. Try relaxing your anus for once

[jahaims]

Have fun dying alone

[Asker]

Nah I’m no grumpy bitter 30 something year old dude. I have friends and family, as opposed to you.

[In_Trance]

You're trying too hard.
Relax and live your life. Everything happens at the right time

[Asker]

Okay but when? It’s been 20years

[In_Trance]

It's not about the time that has passed.
It will happen when the time is right.

[dudeinohio]

Patience and persistence. you'll find someone