Do I wait for him to ask me out (he is definitely interested)?

[Anonymous]

This has been such a slow burning situation, that my close friend calls it "almost a rom-com in real life". It started off unknown and we were both unsure about each other. But we felt this instant click

Both me and this guy (both in our early 20s, which explains the nervousness) are on the same wavelength. I cracked a morbid joke that made him smile. In response, one day when I didn't notice he was around. He made a joke that made me laugh, I turned to look who said it. He was already looking right at me.

From then on, he would frequently find excuses to strike up conversations during office hours. Just tons of cute situations that left me realizing, holy shit... I'm falling for him. Like seeing him play with dogs, or when he sees I'm tired and wants to help. I feel everything through his actions. It's like he became happier and charismatic, and I feel more productive and confident.

I think what made me realize it was extremely mutual? Other people. The others would ask him why he was always around. This week, his friend (I found out) has this constant smirk/wide smile and would talk to me or ask if I needed help. I think even the professor seemed to be in on this...

To be honest, I'm not sure what to do. I made a few moves here and there. Should I wait for the guy to make the definitive decision? Or should I secretly slip him my number? I feel so nervous and don't want to ruin it!!

[Bitter_Sweet94]

He’s interested that part is clear.

But the pace is slow because you’re both young, shy, and overthinking it.

If you wait for him forever, you’re just stretching the tension.

If you make a tiny move, you’re giving the situation a chance to breathe.

You don’t need a grand gesture.

You just need a nudge.

Something simple like slipping him your number or saying, “Text me if you want to continue this after work,” is enough.

It’s not bold, it’s not risky it just opens the door wider.

He already meets you halfway.

You’re not chasing him.

You’re just making it easier for him to step in.

And honestly?
If the chemistry is already this mutual and visible to everyone around you, a small move from you won’t ruin anything.

It’ll probably be the moment he finally relaxes and makes the next step.

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't wait on any man. You could be waiting forever.

[OneViewpoint]

Since you seem like NOT a shy wallflower and you guys have already connected through the same sick sense of humor... just walk up to him and slap a piece of paper with your phone number on it into his hand and say... "enough of this dancing around it, let's get this show on the road, call me". See what happens. From what you describe, I'm betting he'll fall right into a dialogue with you.

[Asker]

Haha surprisingly, I would be considered shy. He actually told me he knows I'm "shy, nervous, and introverted". Sometimes I'm bold and hold eye contact or crack a dirty joke.

Another cute tidbit if anyone is interested... we both use nicotine pouches. I mentioned out loud that I bought some from when I visited the EU. He struck up a conversation the week after about it. We exchanged some flavors (weird but cute)

I thought it might be fun to stick my number to one, while giving one to him again. See the surprise on his face haha
Here's to hoping it works out!

[Alex-Snow]

Follow him on socials. And remember it is definitely ok to ask him out!

[Twalli]

Guys are bad at noticing signals. If you want to be with him, go for it.