How can you tell when someone’s genuinely not interested verses playing games?

[Summeroflove]

It’s pretty easy to tell when someone is interested. But some people play games and others just really aren’t interested at all.

Would love to hear your takes.

[Anonymous]

The biggest giveaway for me is the endless compliments. It’s very obvious when it’s bs because they will use the same words and there’s nothing that stands out.. something that can be applied to literally ANYONE.. another is when they have nothing of value to add to a conversation. But you have to be careful because some people know how to use their words.

[Summeroflove]

And you know they used those same lines on everyone else who came before you.

[Summeroflove]

Now sometimes it’s flattery. Sometimes it’s just someone trying to be nice. But they don’t really mean it.

I can generally tell when someone’s being sincere or not.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes exactly. When I was in my high school years, a guy told me that what some guys will do is send the same message to every single girl and see which one responds. That turned me off back then because I saw the lack of real effort.

[Summeroflove]

Yep…. Which I understand to a extent putting yourself out there at the same time when someone’s wanting to really make a connection with someone and really likes a person. It’s a shame when someone’s sone that to everyone it’s not special at all. It’s just desperate.

But this is what people do… They’re desperate. Feeding their egos with attention. And just seeing how many options they have.

[Summeroflove]

As well as possibly seeking sex

[Opinion Owner]

I agree with you about that. Dating is way too complicated. When I was younger everyone made it seem so simple. Guy like girls, the feelings mutual? Let’s see where it goes. More than 70% chance something will work out.. today? I’ve heard that they have a new way of dating which is you go out and see the person but don’t interact. You get up and leave if you don’t like them or just ignore them. It doesn’t make any sense to me. 😆

[Summeroflove]

That’s the thing you can’t expect someone to know how they feel after a few dates. If you’re head over heels wanting to marry someone after a few dates. Slow down…

It is normal to have mixed feelings. It’s normal to be attracted to someone and loose interest. It’s normal to feel different sometimes you feel more attracted sometimes not. It’s normal to not feel attracted to someone and start developing feelings.

That’s why it’s important to be honest. Many people don’t intentionally send mixed signals. They just don’t know how they feel exactly yet. It’s the way people go ahour itn

[Opinion Owner]

Of course, Lizzy. Here’s something that sounds like you — warm, real, and human, not AI-ish:

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I honestly agree with everything you’re saying. It really is normal for people to have mixed feelings in the beginning, and I get that everyone moves at their own pace. But I also wish people were just a little more open about where they’re at emotionally. Mixed signals can mess with your head, especially when one person is already more invested than the other.

It would make dating so much easier if someone could just say, “Hey, I like you, but I’m still figuring out how I feel,” or “I’m not ready yet.” That kind of honesty saves so much confusion. I’m not expecting anyone to have it all figured out after a few dates — just some communication so we’re not guessing and overthinking.

However I will say sometimes I’ve seen people get confused when they are direct with the “I’m not ready” but they’re doing relationship things. You know? So communication is definitely very important.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

It usually comes down to consistency and clarity.

Someone genuinely not interested will be polite, honest, and steady in their boundaries.

Someone playing games will give mixed signals, disappear and reappear, or say one thing while doing another.

Actions almost always reveal intentions more clearly than words.

[Anonymous]

It's been my experience that the best way to know if a woman is full of 💩 you need to dig into her life. 💩ty people are generally 💩ty to everyone.

I used to know a woman that was so smooth with her words. She made you feel like you were the ONLY guy in the world. She was very seducing. Then if you looked at her history she ONLY would go after guys that were already in relationships. She was incredibly toxic.

Most women you cannot take solely on thier word. Listen to what they say, then verify. Unfortunately that is the world we live in my man.

[Summeroflove]

People know how to seduce. People can talk and act any way they want especially dark personalities for a period of time.

At the end of the day. You can’t trust people and even men…. So many people
Pretend to be someone they’re not and people don’t see it until later

[Summeroflove]

She’s probably a very bitter person. She sees people in happy relationships and her goal is to DESTROY it.

That’s why many people sleep with married and taken people. It’s about dominating and controlling and ruining those relationships. It feeds their own idea that true love doesn’t exist at least long term. Or else…. Why would people who are taken have sex witn them?

They sexually get off to destroying relationships and home wrecking. Because they feel worthless and like they can never find a happy relationship. So they destoy others.

[Summeroflove]

It can be about someone forbidden and things like that. But that’s typically the dark psychology behind it.

That’s why people will fuck married and taken people. Sometimes it’s just lust…. Correct. Some people have little self control. But the people going after married people intentionally. That’s it

[Zionne]

Genuine disinterest is consistent, minimal effort, slow or no responses, and little curiosity about you. Game-playing is inconsistent—hot and cold, vague signals, or attention only when it benefits them. Look for patterns over time, not single moments.

[Summeroflove]

I agree. The issue is that some people don’t realize someone’s playing games. Maybe because they gain something whether that’s attention/narcissistic supply, getting gifts from you, free dates, you look good as arm Candy, maybe sex.

But they don’t really want a long term relationship with you. They may keep you as a backup. Use you as someone to vomit emotionally on. Use you for sex. But they don’t want a relationship

Maybe they just want the benefits of a relationship without the commitment and responsibilities and work that come with a relationship

[Summeroflove]

But some people also genuinely cannot tell when someone just doesn’t like them. At all… for any reason. Even as a friend

[Summeroflove]

I mean someone saying hi or
Bye can just being nice. I’ve found over the top responses show a lack of interest. If someone’s just over the top fake “oh HI how are you!”

[foxsquirrell]

I think you can filter out girls who are not really interested. If they are always coming up with excuses, never has time for you, doesn't want to date you, doesn't want to kiss you, doesn't want to sleep with you, then it can only mean one thing. She is not really interested in you. Reject her.

Some guys might hope that she will have a change of heart if the keep pressing, or that she is playing hard to get to prove yourself to her, but if she wants to take you for a ride and waist your time it is precisely what she will do. Feed those hopes. So it is up to you how much you want to wait, but I think its pretty simple really if you put your emotions aside.

[Zack-Bann]

You pull away
If she’s interested she’ll keep finding reasons to be there
If she’s playing games she’ll move on to her next victim


Just do it in a non needy non butthurt way


This helps her decide what she wants to do rather than reacting to you

[LongLiveBillGates]

If a woman doesn't want to have sex that's when you know to run and not look back and find a girl that wants to fuck.

[Summeroflove]

I’ve found the opposite to be true. Someone whose just willing to jump in bed on the first date is likely a whore…. She may even be dating for sex.

Chances of being cheated on are pretty high. Either she’s just looking for sex. Using sex as a tool to get something. Or… is just desperate.

[emeraldsaphire]

I'm normally pretty good at reading people, but if I don't know then I just assume they aren't interested. I'm not interesting in playing games, this is a relationship, not Mario kart

[YourExLover69]

If a girl is friendly, talks regularly then she is genuinely interested in me. If she replies late like after 2-4 days or replies cold, acts cold. Never initiates conversations, hides everything then she isn't interested.

[YTuber417]

Make a move - if they follow through, 99% of the time it's genuine. Actions vs words. Keep things simple. If they're into you, they'll make it easy for you to go out with them.

[msc545]

You've just been given a brand new nuclear submarine which you are now keeping at a dock near your house. Other than smuggling drugs, what are you planning to use it for?

[Hellraiser1984]

They generally just stop being nice to you. Plus they move away from you. Then usually they just walk away from you.

[goaded]

If they say they're not interested, treat them like they're not interested. If they're playing games maybe they'll learn not to. If they're not playing games and you persist, you're being an asshole.

[Barbara86]

Their body language when they say it and show it reflects the way they act. If they show it. Plus lot of time how they say it.

[blackeagle007]

Agreed. Game players are childish? Would you want someone in your life? Forget them

[grega239]

I always assume theyre playing games because i have been given no reason to assume otherwise

[Anonymous]

It's not easy to see the difference, that's why I never risk the confusion.

[AValla92]

Couldn't tell you. Never had a woman interested in me, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately It depends on the person. Lots of people like to complain about when it should be obvious. But they don't understand just how different people can be.

[exitseven]

this has been a problem in my past relationships.

[Gagforlifetime]

They tell you or just never speak to you