How can you tell if a guy is being genuine or just playing games in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy I have been talking to for just 1 or 2 months. Actually our communication is very good and he says that he really wants a relationship with me. He's always talking about places he wants to go with me, foods he wants to try with me and so on. However, I cannot completely trust him because he continues to see other girls. He says that he talks to those girls as friends and says that I am different but I can't believe it. Do you think he is playing me or is he really sincere in what he says?

[itsalyssaagain]

The more experience you have talking to and dating guys, the easier it is for you to spot when someone is bullshitting. That’s the easiest way to go about it.


However, I would say if they say anything that feels odd, like love bombing for example, don’t be afraid to question him on it. Call him out for anything he says that’s weird or too much.


The other thing is trust your gut feeling. If something feels off, don’t ignore it.


Finally and the most important of all - trust actions and not words. Whatever a guy says to you - in one ear and out the other. Judge him solely based on his actions.


In your case it seems like his actions show he’s just playing games. Don’t be afraid to tell him that his words don’t line up with his actions too.


Don’t be shy with any guy and don’t think saying or doing something will drive a potential boyfriend or husband away.


Men know what they’re doing trust me. They know when they’re playing games, bullshitting you and deserve to be called out for it.


A man who really wants to be with you or likes you won’t be pushed away if you call him out for his bullshit.

[itsalyssaagain]

Has he taken you to all these places he says he wants to? Has he made it public that he likes you? Do his other “girl friends” know that he likes you?

Use all of these facts to judge whether he is honest or not.

[Anonymous]

God has given us girls the intuitive power to feel when the other person is not a good person. Trust your intuition. He might be playing with you as he opened his options. He might be chasing other girls too. If you are not feeling good vibes from a person, then it is better to distance yourself from that person before you get attached to him and he shows you his true colors.

[Juxtapose]

My last girlfriend said I set off: "alarm bells" even though she was the one that would block me, accuse me of being a monster that wants to hurt her and so on.

I cared about her so much I stopped all sexual activity when she said she felt uncomfortable in general during the activities. I bent over backwards and was the best boyfriend I ever was, if anything I should have looked out for myself more.

You people really think you can sniff out some clues and figure out someone completely? Discard their whole personality and everything they stand for and label them as monsters? Off of what evidence? A fucking hunch?

[ohsheeT]

Well if he sees them only as friends and you are different than there's only one way to find that out and that's kind of stay back away from him a little bit and let him prove it that's not a a game that's a choice and in a roundabout way you would be saying well I believe you but why don't you prove it without coming straight out and saying that at the same time you will be showing him who you are and the things that you believe in because basically he's just treating you just like those other girls he's talking to you like a friend too if he wants more let him prove it

[Summeroflove]

Well he can have friends. But if you have a bad gut feeling. Seems you can’t trust him. Maybe it’s not meant to be

[glennos89]

I am a guy and I also have multiple female friends with are plutonic friends which never will be more then that. im single atm but I hate cheating and im 200% against it because you damage people mentally when you do so please stop believing in this stigma that men can't be loyal when they have female friends. Because Although many guys can't be plutonic friends with woman... There are also plenty who actually can have plutonic friendships with woman. Most guys can't but there are enough guys who will never cheat on their partner even if you would let them go on a cruiseship with 1000 single woman on it.

A good thing to find out whether a guy cares or just wants to have sex is actually not giving him sex while you dating him for at least a month or even 2 or 3 months. The guy who wants sex will lose interest but the guy you want sticks arround and waits

[hsshannah96]

They all lose interest

[glennos89]

Better stay single if thats your narrow point of view then. Its the same if I would say all woman are gold diggers!! You can't put the blame on 3,5 billion men for the mistake your ex-guys made in your past relationships

Check your friendzone and you will find many great guys that aren't like that. Woman like to complain a lot about guys being not faithfull but they dont seem to understand that they are putting the good ones in the friendzone and choose for the guys that will guaranteed lose interest. It's a fact. Allmost all guys know this

[hsshannah96]

I have no guys in the friendzone

[glennos89]

That's not true!! Im your guy friend in the friendzone now wether you like it or not hihi 🤭😋

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he will play you so you are best to trust your gut , When a guy really likes a girl he doesn’t invest his time into other girls’ he kind of takes a step back and puts all his time into the girl he really likes , so if he is clearly hitting up other girls’ after he talks to you then he is definitely playing the field and keeping his options opened

[Emmakhan]

Exactly

[TheThingALing]

Ok so if he's talked to you for two months, invested all that time with no sex, then he probably is either ALL about you or has trouble for one reason or another in getting girls to sexually desire him.

As far as the friends, that makes him look more attractive to you subconsciously even though you don't really like him doing it. If he dropped all his female friends or wasn't still talking to other girls, then you'd subconsciously see it as unattractive

[Minahh]

He's playing for sure it's all talk talk talk. If he makes it exclusive then he wants. And even after that be aware and see if he's scheduling dates regularly, is interested to know you, buys you small gifts randomly and genuinely cares about your feelings.

[Adam1978]

If you don't even give him time, how can you expect to be the only woman? Commitment must come both ways. You can commit without sex, then he should follow and when you trust him to be faithful you can start having sex.

[RavVid]

Well he might like you best out of the harem but if you are not going to be available why shouldn't he keep other options open?

[Shy_Steve]

He is Playing you.

You think if you start Dating Him He is simply gonna stop seeing other Women, Of course He isn't.

Sorry, But your Wishful thinking, You need to be Realistic Especially with your own love life.

[Anonymous]

You have not had a first date and you expect him to have already said goodbye to every other female on the planet? Do you think you're THAT hot? If so, please post a picture!

[KrakenAttackin]

Welcome to the modern dating world that women created. Go ahead and share an Alpha as you prefer that to having a beta all to yourself. #NoFucksToGive.

[Anonymous]

Godly discernment connected to your spirit and self esteem.

[Anonymous]

The same way you tell if a woman is being genuine or just playing games in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Lmao 🤣 don’t trust it. My boyfriend used to tell me that guys have no female friends they just want to have sex with them.

[JustMeL120]

Follow your instinct

[spartan55]

How does he know you aren't playing him?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Guys having female friends is normal.

[whistlingwh0res]

he is a whore.. all men are manwhore