Why are you single?

[Sam1133]

No one wants you?

You're single by choice?

[dragoblack]

Horrid luck sadly. I spent years coming up with a style that looks great, keep my hygiene & looks, work on myself for years, worked on overcoming my insecurities the best i can (years of trauma leaves deep subconscious scars, best i can do is controlthe reactions), emotionally mature, gain emotional wisdom, research until i understood what a healthy relationship looks like... and i rarely get anyone interested in me genuinely. Like once every several years. My luck with those i am interested in, tends to be horrid luck; they turn out to be lesbian, just sees me like a brother or as a friend, looks late 20s but is actually underage (absolutely not pursuing that), already in a relationship, she's a parent (i'm just not a person who wants kids), just not interested in a relationship, doesn't find me attractive, i just dont meet her stadards/prerequisites, just walks away after showing interest, completely loses interest when finding out I'm disabled, or just can't see a relationship with me. It's even worse online though; false-positive matches, an insane amount of onlyfans solicitors, ghosted, 1-word replies, talks once then ghosts, scams, matching constantly with women who are very unattractive to me, matching with women who are over 12,000 miles away, women finding a healthy relationship boring, hookup invites even though i said i dont do hookups on my profile, no women wanting to talk about themselves, and genuine matches being every 3-4 years that tend to go nowhere past a nice chat.

[OneViewpoint]

By choice at the moment. But I guess it depends on what you call alone. I date occasionally. I have short term affairs. I meet and chat with women all the time. In fact I get hit on all the time when I go out. But I only engage with women on my own terms. I'm divorced (10 years) and enjoying not being responsible for another adult human being at the moment. I can go where and when I want. Do the things I want. Eat what I want. And just generally live a low stress, drama free life while being social when it suits me.

[Anonymous]

Because I'm looking for something meaningful in a hookup culture time and I don't want to ruin the peaceful life I hardly established. No time nor energy to spend on people who are not ready for commitment but want to have everything a commitment brings

[Sam1133]

You're pure gold sweety protect yourself from this hookups trend

[DishLady]

Hmm. I'm single bc it's better to be on my own than with the wrong person.

[Sam1133]

Yeah?

[DishLady]

Oh yeah. I've watched gals from school swing from guy to guy like they're Tarzan and Jane then 20 years (and a few baby daddies) later they don't know who the heck they are. I know who I am and that's a very great comfort.

[Sam1133]

Tbh you're pure gem ❤️

[DishLady]

Aww. Thanks. That's v sweet.

[Sam1133]

You deserve to be loved ❤️

[DishLady]

We'll see what God has in the cards for me.

[Sam1133]

You have to play your own card
Big fan of yours maam ❤️

[DishLady]

Hahaha. I'll have to ask @Ironco or one of the other guys who knows how to play cards how that would be done. I tend to wait for God to guide.

Thanks, Sam.

[Finchie40]

Because I got away from a psycho

[HighValue]

I don't want additional stress and drama in my life. I have also not met any women that would make my life better, only worse. Plus, gaming is better. Maybe after I get to enjoy my backlog of games for a couple more years I may CONSIDER dating again, but I'm not sure if it is worth my time.

[RavVid]

Well the relationships in my 20's were not encouraging and each successive girlfriend has been worse than the one before her.

It seems to me the 5 to 7 year itch is a real thing cept it generally is much shorter. As a guy there are severe financial penalties for divorce so it is not something to attempt.

I can now be taken to the Family court for a two year relationship so I am not even going to attempt a long unmarried relationship.

[egan3141]

I immediately research the family court part as it definitely worried me, but if there are no children, you aren't married, there's no abuse, you don't present as married (call her your wife), and didn't ask her to quit her job to take care of the home (the only time living together matters), I'm not seeing how family court would happen. There are ways for civil court to happen, but family court? How?

[RavVid]

@egan3141 I didn't call it out but this in Australia and I see you are in US. Google "defacto relationships and family court Australia".

In the happy phrasing of the family law court - it now extends it's benefits to defacto couples. :( :( :(

Now that you have let out a deep breath let me give you a warning. As elsewhere a guy was safe if he didn't sign gov't marriage contract. You just worked out who owned what when you split up and went on your way.

However a Judge decided to take a defacto case and apply the standard gov't marriage contract to it. It was judge made law.

The important thing here is that a single liberal Judge can overturn centuries of tradition that if you don't marry 'em your safe.

In my case, I had decided to dump my girlfriend and thought to think how best to deliver the decision over a cup of coffee. It was serendipitous I did because I browsed a newspaper and it was on Page 3 Defactos can go to family court.

I ended up getting out with all my assets intact but I am still deeply traumatized by this. I think every guy should reflect on that you are only a single liberal judge away from being done like a dinner.

I'd be surprised if you didn't have feminists working on this

[msc545]

@egan3141 not exactly family court, but a court you won't like one bit. All the woman has to do is claim that you hit her or that you sexually assaulted her, or both, and you will get arrested and you will wind up in court. If you're very lucky, you won't spend a lot of time in jail. You could go to prison.

Women do this kind of thing for a variety of reasons, or for no reason at all. Or because they're just upset or angry at you, or something else. Courts are not very good at calling women liars, so you are very likely to get convicted of this, whatever it was that you supposedly did.

[RavVid]

@msc545 I've mentioned this a few times. A wife in West Australia decided to divorce but thought she would get a better deal if he went to jail. So she arranged for best friend to seduce him. Just as he got to the point of ejaculating, BFF withdrew consent. Understandably the husband was surprised and couldn't help take a couple more thrusts and hence was very technically guilty of rape.

Five years later, the BFF confessed that it was a setup and he was pardoned. Had still spent 5 years in jail though. Don't suppose he did very well in the divorce settlement.

In my case if I spend 2 years with a girl, she can take me to Family Court and get a settlement like we were married. Proof we were in a relationship only requires a pretty low bar. It is quite scary.

[msc545]

Yes, and if she spends, say, an hour with you alone, she can make all sorts of allegations about your behavior that are going to be extremely difficult to refute. If you can do it at all, it's almost like men have to wear body cams that also have audio recording these days in order to feel safe.

[RavVid]

@msc545 Yes. It would very difficult to disprove digital penetration for example. You do need body cam!

[msc545]

We should form a company and start marketing these things for men.

[RavVid]

@msc545 Absolutely it will make billions!

[msc545]

Let's go ahead and form the LLC now, and start researching where we can get some cheap body cameras and repackage them as, I don't know, some catchy name like "Man Safety" or something like that. You heard it here first.

[RavVid]

@msc545 :) :) I'll get onto it.

[msc545]

✔✔ !

[front2back]

Talking to women is scary.

Really though, I haven't put a ton of effort into getting myself out there, it is kind of hard to find women when you're on the road for work a lot and are mentally locked into a big multi-million project. I get along with women well though, though the problem is I tend to attract the type that simply wants a guy who is also their dad and takes care of them which gets old after a bit.

[cth2188]

I'm single by choice and have been since 2014. I have no regrets when it comes to not dating especially looking how dating is now. I also don't feel like I'll find someone compatible to me and can meet my standards.

[cth2188]

I own a business, in college, travel for work, and find most guys I meet have nothing going on and isn't on my level.. I'm happier single than dating

[cth2188]

I have too much to lose just settling

[Sam1133]

Ohk honey you're queen

[cth2188]

Yes thanks I'm also celiabte by choice because the STD increases scare me dating

[Sam1133]

You're real women with swag 😎

[cth2188]

Thanks Sam maybe if dating rebalances and people are serious about it I'll consider dating again in the future

[Sam1133]

Queen feel free to pm me

[Blueeyes81]

I'm a difficult person to get to know. I like solitude and my guard goes up the second someone trys to enter or if I try to let them in. I'm also a cynic which is definitely not a lot of people's cup of tea. Add to that that I'm a workaholic who does not make time and wholla, you get me. A guy who finds someone he is interested in and who is interested as well about every 5 years or so. Sooner or later I know one will stick but it's not a pressing issue I really feel the need to address.

[Anonymous]

Same as most people on this site. The women I'm interested are not interested in me. And the women that are interested in me I am not interested in.

At some point we settle or we don't. Considering I am a guy and the expectations placed on my gender I have chosen not to settle. I simply have too much to lose by choosing the wrong woman. And I don't do casual relationships. So I'm in it for the long haul or not at all.

[BobbieBoy666]

Women and men are afraid of me because I wasn't born with all working limps

Trust me I'm not single because I want to be.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Last month I broke up with my boyfriend I had known for about half a year.

So I guess I'm single by choice.
Been single for 4 years before that.

[crystalline0909]

Cuz we as women need someone who has higher principles and standards than us. Someone who is not an attention whore looking for validation and short term gratification.

[Orion84]

I'm single by choice, and plan to remain that way.

I've had my share of relationships, but I've decided they're no longer worth it, and I'm happier by myself.

[Screenwriter]

Have not been actively putting myself out there looking for potential SOs and also, being older, there are far fewer choices.

[Alex-Snow]

At this time in my life (I'm in college) I do not want a relationship. Sure I want some sex and it is working out with a friends with benefits, but nothing more than that.

[egan3141]

Because I want a wife, not a girlfriend. If all I wanted was a girlfriend, that would be easy to find.

[Ariesman81]

I refuse to submit to a woman

I'm honest

I don't want to raise another man's child

I can't afford to maintain an international relationship

Haven't found a woman who provides enough value to warrant the risk.

[beebella]

Because I haven't met anyone that I want to be with.

[Sam1133]

Ohk cutie

[JHNS98]

I'm shy and bad at approaching my crushes... and once I do approach them, some just say they're already taken.

[Sunshinelips]

Because I’m ugly and petite and nobody wants to know me, let alone be their girlfriend.

[Jltakk]

Originally by choice because I was focusing solely on studying, not social stuff. Put myself out there later on, tried meeting others at hobby spots or other social gatherings, but nothing worked, maybe it'll take another 15 years, who knows.

[genericname85]

i'm single cuse nobody that i want wants me beack. there has been girls that did like me but i didn't want those.

[AngryCarl2]

At this point it's mostly force of habit. If I had a partner I'd have to move into a bigger place so they weren't in my face all the time.

[GeorgePulchri]

Wanna work on stuff first before taking on that burden to my time.

[Anonymous]

Because I'm not super rich neither government employee. Girls were looking and searching about these two. So I'm single

[msc545]

I would rather be single than sleep with the enemy.

[Skyros]

I don’t want anyone because people can be frustrating and very difficult. Now plain sex is a whole other subject.

[Anonymous]

Girls I like - don't like me back.

Girls who like me - Are not my type.

[Anonymous]

I don't meet the requirements or the criteria of datings.

[queenofcardio]

My standards have changed.

[Anonymous]

I realized a long time ago, that I'm far from what women want in a guy. Life goes on

[loveyouoak]

Because I don't trust men.

[Anonymous]

Because she’s with someone else

[beefcakebradybatson]

Choice. 9Windsor's full of fugly broads!!!)

[noohair]

A little of both...

[Slave_submissive]

Because women are stupid

[TheMati6]

Because I enjoy it.

[Raydergman26]

Due to I have never dated before

[Anonymous]

single by choice lol

[Sam1133]

Best. Lets do hookups? 😂

[MikeMcMansion]

Its a mindset

[Brady]

single by choice

[Brady]

Surprised that more guys r single by choice. I saw on TV how guys liv longr when married n girls liv longr when single.

[egan3141]

Don't men usually die first though? So women that were married would still die single?

[princesskhya27]

I’m single by choice