I am not anyone's type how can I side line or move my need of love like my last need?

[Anonymous]

I have achieved what I wanted to achieve in life only 4-5 things are remaining.
Sky diving, deep sea diving, and visiting some bucket places.(Those are nearby)
It's been 10 years now, working my ass in a corporate office, I got a house, helped a needed family, went to India, UK, USA, only Europe remains and some part of Africa.
Now running out of hobbies, things to do.
I don't like travelling but still I did.
But I never got the love.
I tried dating, but no one showed up, only once a girl showed up but she said I am not her type, went to bars, libraries, functions, events to meet someone. In my life I have changed everything about me and yet no luck.
I got the best clothes, hair, teeth, and changed my personality and perspective.
Nothing worked, nobody felt anything for me. And I fell in love with everyone I saw.
Now I am tired and on the verge of giving up.
All my friends are married and having babies, and so on.
I feel left out. I never used to feel this way.
2025 was kind of my last chance.
I tried like nothing happened, but this Valentine's I feel too alone so need some more ideas to get out of these feelings.

[slatyb]

You are under 30. I'm guessing your approach is off-putting. It sounds like you are in love with yourself and have no love for anyone else. Do you know any women -- women you aren't trying to date? Do you talk to them? How well do you know them? What are you doing to meet single women?

[Asker]

I know 2 singles every detail about their life.
When they eat, what they like, what they spend time for, whom they like, whom they don't like, who tried to get with them why they refused.
I also know what makes them worry, calm, excited and what not.
They cry in front of me cause they feel safe around me.
But they never loved me.
One of them gave me an honest answer that I am not at all attractive to her and never will, she can only be like a sister or a friend

[Asker]

Going to uni, the library talking to them, going to communities, just to have a laugh or talk about their opinions.(I don't believe in God)
But I like many of the values they preach.
But most of them just avoid me. Like lying to me that they are in a relationship or just ignoring after some conversations.

[Asker]

Oh this one time at a community, I was studying and she invited me to have coffee with everyone else.
And we had the one best deep talk in a while. But next time she just ignored my greetings and my cooking for that dinner, and everyone was like she never misses these dinners.
I also contacted her before that to meet up but haha rejected for what reasons I don't know.

[Asker]

There is another girl from London studying physics.
We didn't had a good talk though but we had like eyes locked. And she was too fun.
But again like that we didn't hit it off. I don't have any sports background and she is too athletic. Didn't have anything in common.
But next time when I saw her. She was just flirting with someone much better than me.
So I don't stand a chance against his flirting skills.

[slatyb]

You can improve your flirting skills. It's not hard. I was pretty terrible before my horrible marriage, then quite good after divorcing. You just need to get out more. Find an interesting activity group that attracts young women. Get involved, but don't hit on anyone for about three months. If you are pleasant and contribute to the group, you won't have to hit on them -- they will hit on you.

[Asker]

Nope didn't work.
Tried exactly

[slatyb]

Well then I guess it's pretty much hopeless. But there is sex for sale everywhere.

[Nikki1989]

And how do you know that? Do you know every single person that lives on this Earth?