Was dating easier before dating apps came onto the scene?

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queenofcardio · Accepted Answer

Yes, in a way.

I think people might have been more social before dating apps. You coud easily go out with your friends and get to know other people. Now , you go out and some people don't want to socialize, they'll spend half of the night in the corner of the room on their phone. Obviously , it depends but this is based on my observations.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Yes. Folks met organically and had realistic expectations.

Today most app-using daters are delusional enough to think that they have infinite options, so they never just choose a person who is right for them. It fosters their ego and sense of entitlement.

Kingofkings1992 · Accepted Answer

Well, those things are designed to make it easier, but for many it can actually have the opposite effect. Dating now seems more superficial and more about how they look, and less about genuine connection. It's why so many relationships fail now.

Hardon-Collider · Accepted Answer

Yes but this difficulty is exactly what humanity needs to learn and grow up from. Funny how many are against safe spaces but not when it comes to personal matters.

ohsheeT · Answer

Don't know if it was easier I've never been on one before but it was a lot more fun because no matter what you were doing or where you were. You living life you were motivated you were in the sun on a beach a club a motocross track a concert the 7-11 fresh air no cell phones when you meet someone you meet them right where your at eye to eye contact you not only see who they are but through there eyes and energy and body language in that moment you smile make a date. Or you smile say nice meeting you and move on ..

I have 2 friends that use dating apps they say its not like the old days they say its to easy talk on line talk on the phone for a couple days send pictures

No one ever looks like there
pIcture they say it's like little minor details that either nobody thought about or they did think about , but it's completely different

They're either getting laid or not they might go out one more time but doubtful.. 1 out of 10 girls is what there looking for but not.. so to be honest, I don't really know I know for me. I like the way that I used to do it in the old days. It seems like everybody's homebodies nowadays

I give them a hard time because they spend more time on the phone or computer talking to them instead of going out meeting each other

I said, why don't you just have that dating app open a restaurant?

They can deliver your food to each other. And you don't have to go anywhere..

Kinda seem there not very Motivated but once again, that's what my friends say, so honestly I don't really know

I need to start going out though that's for sure. But I don't think I'll go on the dating app any time soon

Finchie40 · Answer

i would t say easier ,? but definitely more meaningful, when we met a romantic interests back then , the primary focus was on each other, we weren’t bombarded by people over a computer screen. , we all pretty much shared one phone line in the house , if you had more than one , most of us were amazed , Oh My God you have 2 phone lines? Lol People were more content and happy with their lives , nowadays it’s like everyone knows your business. I feel life was better before all this nonsense technology came into play

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Dating apps made dating much easier for me and i meet women online ego i otherwise would have never met. I met my wife on s dating app.

AviatorTom · Answer

In some respects, Yes, in others, No.

Before dating apps and sites, people had fewer choices, basically just people they new or met in their daily lives, so dating was less selective.

With dating apps and sites, people have access to millions of people, all over the globe, to date, and are therefore can be more selective, disregarding many of the people they encounter in their daily lives.

In summary, dating apps and sites make dating easier, but not better.

Master_Debator · Answer

Before, I was getting clam from school, bars, and whatever. Most of the sites were obsolete to me... I mean adultfriendfinder type site just message you with fake women and I'm not going to pay when I'm already running into deception. Later other sites started to come out...

I got tons of wet clams when it first became a thing. Craigslist personals was my honey pot, but I'd get some clam from some of the generic sites too, but it was kind of lame. Then the government clamped down on sites like backpage for human trafficking and Craigslist dropped the personals ads to avoid getting shut down too.

After that the generic sites started making up rules... like I can't use this picture because my shirt is off.

Was dating easier before dating apps came onto the scene?

Which is funny because I can post it here, but it would just get removed from most modern dating sites. The reason they give, is guys like me make it impossible for other guys to get a chance. Another change they made... they started age categorizing. Like you see my age here right... what that means is I can't see profiles unless they're like my age or up. That toatally sucked the fun out of dating sites for me... big fat women, ugly, all blown out and old looking... did I mention fat?

Yeah... no more 19 year olds for me thanks to all the new rules... so I consider myself 'aged-out' of the current dating sites. I mean if you were my age and looked like me... would you settle for old broken looking geriatics? Basically it made it easy for a time, and then those sites degraded with time... at least for me.

Doublelist brought the fun back for a little bit, but now they demand money, and much like the other sites... it's just multiple posts by the same meth heads and trans over and over... it's dead.

So that's the sum of it... demands money, dead sites with fake chicks, rules that make me cock block myself, and they restrict my option to ugly old fat chicks. Like oh hell naw... not for me. Not anymore.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I think so. Why? One word. Dopamine. I found this video the other day on why dating apps and websites are largely trash. I'm more skeptical of them now than I was before. I'm not totally against them, but if I were single, I wouldn't put as much stock in them...

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It was easier because there were more people looking for something genuine. Now its like people are just hoes looking for sex and you have to compete with ugly girls with an inch of make up and filters. So it's not worth it to use apps.. I seen waay hotter guys check me out in real life than most the leftovers on a dating app.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think it was easier before the apps. On the apps you are matched or not matched whether or not you would really click in person. Plus, you can find someone who has every common interest imaginable, and send them a letter, and still not hear from them. I think meeting in social situations is far better. However, A LOT of people met their partner or spouse on those apps. So if it worked for them, that is great!

Twodogs0525 · Answer

I always thought dating apps were basically for hooking up, for my friends anyways... I never used them but all the guys I knew that used them weren't really looking for love, just a fling. I don't know what women are trying to get out of them but it seems, according to this site, they're looking for a relationship type guy.

beenherebefore · Answer

I wouldn't say easier. It was very different tho. Dating apps and social media give you the false impression of having lots of options and easy access. Whilst in the past due to people not having easy access to each other they would invest more in the dating scene and take it more seriously.

RavVid · Answer

Dating apps give an appearance of abundance so the natural response is to become more selective when there is a lot of good ones out there.

Even when you are dating one you are broadly happy with you are conscious there is possibly a better deal just a swipe away.

When the dating pool was smaller, people would be more likely to be happy with what they could get.

Nik1hil · Answer

Much easier..

Because women's Delusion weren't fed so much and they didn't had false ego Boost.

Now dating apps are like a Fountain which Women Stick on their Clit to get Water of Validation tickle their Clit..

90% of women, on Dating app are just there to seek Validation not actually date men, They will come on date, if it's free food otherwise no!..

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Yes and no, I think dating apps has made hookups and casual dating easier, but it's made serious dating harder. But that's just the surface, other things have made serious dating a lot. Harder social media, WhatsApp, just tons of things. It's just a different world.

Anonymous · Answer

keep in mind people dated without them for years , but the issue i often see is people think they can use these and don't need or can skip the personal connection of meeting someone in real life. like this app is just going to magically find them someone

BadApple69 · Answer

I don’t think it was easier but it was different. I also think dating apps gives people the illusion that there are so many attractive people out there so why settle for a 9 when you see so many 10s.
The dating apps are the illusion.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Yes, because now it’s just a way to hook up not to actually find a long lasting relationship now and then you find someone genuine that wants to build a life with you other than that nope

NathanDavis · Answer

I can't really say... since I've never tried any dating app but I can say that I've never had any kind of "struggle" with dating

Shy-boy53 · Answer

I’m not sure it was easier but I think before dating was more genuine. You normally got to know the person before the date not just met up with a total stranger

worldscolide · Answer

Yes, because it allowed for real connections rather than idiotic ego fluffing that happens now.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Yup. But is still possible. Step 1. Ask out as many girls as it takes to get a yes. Step 2. There is no step 2! Did you not pay attention to step 1 asshole?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. People don't automatically become good or bad because of dating apps and technology. Ish people give bad experiences including when it comes to dating.

Luopio27 · Answer

10 years ago people actually used them and yes it made them work. Now they are just egoboost for women!

AgentG111 · Answer

50/50. Locally yes because you had to actually talk with people. Dating Apps opened doors for folks farther away and different walks of life.

ABitShattered · Answer

I picked no but honestly only because I didn't have much experience with dating apps for most of my dating life.

Anonymous · Answer

i never used online dating so i think i would have done fine back then

blackeagle007 · Answer

I feel No it hasn’t. Competition for us in those are brutal. Women get loads of messages a day. Not easy

Pohjolan · Answer

It hasn't changed dating difficulty overall.  Its just now easier to some peope and harder to some people.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Apps make everything clinical and fake. Attraction and real love is pure chaos and apps can never compete

LC75LC71 · Answer

It's the same. One side (Usually the guy) has to initiate the conversation.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Before the apps, it was hard! Even though i have never used an app for dating 🤣

FenixG45 · Answer

You met rather quickly, and separated the 'needles' from the 'haystack' quicker!

ZeeVQ · Answer

Less comparison to unattainable partners

Vegasrunner · Answer

For men it was much more difficult.

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