Reasons why you chose to be single?

[MyraTan]

As someone with Asperger’s I know I can be off putting to men but at first I thought I have a chance until at the age of 21 I did research and what to expect in romantic relationships. Turns out I couldn’t sacrifice my routine and me time for a significant other and would rather spend days by myself at home or at a library. It’s at that age of 21 where I have given up since no men and the fact that I refused to step out of my comfort zone to socialise and making new friends that to me is extremely intimidating. I only have one best friend and no other friends due to the fact she’s the only one who understands me and no one else. I don’t even have a male friend. Seeing how people in general in a group of friends makes me feel like ‘nope not for me I would have panic attacks if I were to hang out with a group of male/female/mixed gender friends. Realising I don’t wear makeup, groom my brows, not removing body hair and even chose to wear glasses since my sensory issues will go into overdrive if I were to do beauty routines. I just can’t stand the feeling of makeup, contacts, the itching of hair regrowing back (I heard one of my ex classmates complained about shaving side effects so I didn’t do it in the first place). I remembered how when I did try to flirt subtly with a guy I liked at 20, he freaked out and he looked at me like I was weird or something. I read relationship advices on the internet. ‘Make the first move’ ‘be Subtle’ ‘Play hard to get’, etc. The thing is I flirted once in my whole lifetime because usually I don’t flirt and when I tried it for the first time I was treated as though as I have an incurable disease or something.

Updates

2 mo

No I never ever had a male flirted with me not even once I have a feeling they can sense there’s something different about me. So yeah realising at 21 I’m more suitable to be single because relationships are stressful for neurodivergents and that I don’t think I can have the ability to maintain a relationship, I might not have much to offer anyways.

[bowenw]

If you are looking for advice, I suggest you be yourself but try to meet as many people as you can in a setting that works for you. If you don't like groups, find ways to get to know people one-on-one or in small groups. In large groups, try not to be overwhelmed by all the people, but instead talk to one or two people. Also, don't give up on meeting people because of a few bad experiences. Everyone has had encounters with mean or incompatible people. It's part of life. Don't think that you don't have the ability to maintain a relationship or that you don't have anything to offer until you try it several times.

[bowenw]

Don't sell yourself short. You obviously are very intelligent which is one thing thing you have to offer in a relationship. Please feel free to DM if you wish.

[Anonymous]

That's not a simple explanation. Life comes in stages. Your have different mindsets at different times. But suffice it to say when I was interested, they weren't. And when they were interested, I wasn't. And bottom line I never got an offer that I felt was worth taking. Ergo I'm single.👍

[Nikki1989]

No one chooses to be single. You can twist the truth in as many ways as you like. People are single by circumstance and usually of their making.

[AngryCarl3]

I didn't choose to be single, being single chose me.

[Anonymous]

Because: Girls I like - don't like me back. Girls who like me - are not my type.

[Zionne]

too hard to commit yet