Is my friend’s boyfriend being controlling or is she overreacting?

[Anonymous]

So she feels insecure because he has lots of girl friends on Facebook, he wants her to get rid of her "guy friends" even tho it's family and he's following half naked girls. He controls the way she dresses. And then gets upset if he thinks she's looking at another guy even tho she doesn't. She loves her boyfriend. Well, he stopped calling her pretty, and telling her any sweet compliments except for when he wants to see certain pictures of her. She feels very insecure because she doesn't understand why he tells her she has to wear shorts under her dresses, to avoid the crack being even a little visible, or shape. She has to wear a long tshirt to cover bottom when she wears pants. He doesn't want her to wear any makeup. Yes if you look at his friends he follows the complete opposite. So of course it bothers her and she tries to bring it up, and has gotten to the point she's bringing it up more weekly and he gets mad at her. He refuses to communicate with her. When she gets upset he calls her crazy, and says she's psycho. He just seems to not care about the way it's bothering her at all. She had seen something said he had a girls contact in his phone, and he denied it, some girl posted his name, said it wasn't him, so all these things cause her to worry, along with him never complimenting her anymore.

Also, he says the reason he stopped complimenting her was because she was "weird" about it because she got a smile on her face and just got happy about it.

Whys he like that? She's crazy, yet he does the same thing, and can be a hypocrite and somehow doesn't even seem to recognize

[ShellyB]

From what you said he sounds kind of controlling to me, maybe he wants her to do some of those things bc he knows how he looks at other girls and does not want other guys looking at her that way, but it sounds kind of immature to me, what would happen if she didn’t follow his rules? Like if she didn’t wear shorts under a dress, would he complain or what? And, is she upset about it? Sometimes it might not be clear how a couple decides to do things. JMO!

[Asker]

He gets upset if she doesn't dress how he wants, says that when she wears makeup it's for attention from other guys, and accuses her of talking to other guys at work. (She's a cashier) So when a guy asks her something at the store, and she would answer, he ask if it was her type. She begged him several times to quit worrying. And he has threatened to break up with her if she didn't wear the shorts under the dress like he liked before

[Asker]

Oh but too, she doesn't even wear makeup like most girls, literally just highlighter and mascara. The girls he's following are all wearing a lot more makeup. She wanted to wear fake lashes he told her no, the girls he follows do. But she doesn't have a problem doing what he wants it's more the double standards

[ShellyB]

I guess he is being sort of territorial about her, the double standard might be “girl I want a relationship with vs girl I want to just look at”, if it were me I think I'd prob argue about it w him and if I didn’t think it was going to change, I don’t know if I would stay. in the relationship. But that is just me, has she thought about breaking up or is she still into the relationship?

[bowenw]

Her boyfriend is one giant red flag. She should run away from him as fast as she can.

[Nikki1989]

Very controlling.