My guy friend is controlling?

[Anonymous]

So I have this new guy friend in my math class, and well he talks to me a lot and stares at me alot, the thing is I've only known him for about a week. He flirts with me and yea but the thing is I have a boyfriend and I'm starting to like him I'm scared I might fall for him. My boyfriend doesn't let me have guy friends much he's overprotective and controlling. I feel like whenever I see the guy when I'm with my boyfriend, I act like I don't really like my boyfriend and its crazy cuss I didn't even think id do that. Its kinda scary I don't know what to do!? Help?

[DebiPie]

I think you answered your own question. Your boyfriend is overprotective & controlling, two qualities that are not appealing to you or most people. Because of this, maybe you are feeling that you need out of that relationship. You said he doesn't "let" you have guy friends. Girl, it is a free country and you can have any friend you want. You are not married to him. If you let a guy control you, you have made yourself a slave. This is not good.

Think and act for yourself. If you are afraid of this boy, go to your school counselor for help. If you are not, break it off. Not because of the new boy, but for yourself, because you deserve to be treated with respect.

Good luck.

[Asker]

Thank You! But its hard cus I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I love him to death he treats me so good but hates the guyfriends I have :(its not like imma cheat on him but I guess he doesn't trust me? I don't know :(

[Anonymous]

Why are you with your boyfriend, other than that because he was there for you and showed you attention, and you don't want to let it go, AND he also seems rather unstable therefore could attack you physically if you attempt to leave him?

I really don't know why you would be with someone who restricts you in your free happiness. Technically, I don't know what you gain from being with your current boyfriend. You should just fall for this guy and be happy and hope he's not as much of a dweeb.

[Asker]

See the reason why I'm with him is cuss I love him and he has been through a lot and he's very stressful this is the first guy my dad approved of and we broke up fpr three days then got back together. I really do love him if I cud I would tell you all that has happened but I'm on a cellphone and its sort of a long story. But thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

"I love him" yeah I am lucky all the girls I've ever "loved" have deserted me left me dismissed me and all that, at least I don't fall into delusions like that again.

[Asker]

Awww I'm srry. ;(