WWhy would someone deliberatelywaste your time?

[Anonymous]

They do it on purpose

Maybe seek you out and do it. Why!

[abc3643]

Happens all the time in team sports with a clock - pretty much anything except baseball. It is often said that a team will "eat clock".

For instance, suppose it is late in the game and your team is winning and time is running out. You don't need to try to score more points to win (which can be hard). Instead, "best defense is a good offense", so, as long as you are on offense, they are not on offense and cannot gain points.

You can stay on offense doing safe, time-consuming things as the clock is ticking down. This prevents the other team from going on offense to score points and come-back.

You see this tactic a lot in football and basketball.

For instance, near the end of the game, you will often see the team about to win have the ball late in the 4th Quarter. Throwing the ball is dangerous because of the possibility of an interception (*). Besides, if your receiver catches the ball and goes out of bounds that stops the clock. So, instead, you run the football. Running the football is much less likely to result in a fumble (*) and continuously "eats clock"; the clock does not stop even when the play is over. When the game is all but over, the quartback simply "takes a knee" which is akin to running but not actually doing anything. It's the safest way to just "eat clock".

(*) In football, an interception is when the defending team catches a thrown football instead of the offensive team's intended receiver. A fumble is when a player on the offensive team has the ball and then drops it with the defensive team then gaining possession of it. Both of these are called "turnovers" because you are turning the ball over to the other team; you go from offense to defense and they go from defense to offense. When the other team is on offense, they can score points, so you don't want that and thus you don't want to commit turnovers.

[StupidHero]

Some people just don't understand that time is for doing important things, like the time I stopped a bank robbery by accident. I was trying to figure out how to open a bag of pretzels with my teeth and ended up tripping over a velvet rope. The chain reaction sent me flying into a display of glittery fountain pens, which slid across the floor and caused the robbers to slip and slide right into the arms of the security guard. I didn't even notice they were there until I was already halfway through the pretzels. Honestly, why would anyone waste time asking questions about wasting time when they could be busy accidentally preventing major crimes? I once saved a cat stuck in a tree by trying to climb it to get a better signal for my phone because I wanted to watch a video of a hamster eating a grape. I missed the branch, fell on a trampoline someone left in their yard, and bounced back up so hard I bumped the cat right into a pile of leaves. It was genius, really. People waste time because they aren't as naturally gifted at failing upward as I am.

[Nikki1989]

It's the same reason anons post meaningless rants that very few people read. Sometimes trolls escape mum’s basement. Shit happens.

[Zally]

There isn't enough information to understand exactly what you mean? Are you unhappy that some things require you to wait, like when you wait at a bus stop for a bus to arrive? Or has someone intentionally wasted your time somehow?

[Anonymous]

I wish I knew. The girl I want more than anyone constantly dangles a carrot infront of me. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she gave me the worst reaction.

[Asker]

Maybe she's not interested

[Opinion Owner]

She was at one point. Now, she probably isn't, but she keeps breadcrumbing me. I thinks she's intentionally trying to drive me crazy.

[Asker]

Same to me its unfair

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it sucks. All I can do is hope she reaches out, and maybe I'll eventually be able to move on if not.

[Asker]

Hope keeps you stuck thats where she wants you. Maybe thats her way of giving you kwrma

[Asker]

Karma*

[Opinion Owner]

Karma for what?

[Asker]

Maybe you didn't notice her worth or something. Somehow she feels played

[Opinion Owner]

I did take too long to realize my feelings, but thats only because she was the first and only person to give them to me. She also should know why I had such a hard time after realizing so.

[Asker]

I think its best not to put words in people's mouths... what if she had no clue why it was a hard time for you after realizing... sounds like you wasted her time... honestly...

[Opinion Owner]

I meant approaching her. I first saw her at a time when I was having some confidence and social issues. She saw me everyday alone, so she should be able to put the pieces together retroactively. Those issue were mostly resolved the following year. I completely understand how my behavior could have sent the wrong message and have been trying to understand her perspective.

[Asker]

I dont see how she was even into you when she's treating you like this now. there's no way

[Opinion Owner]

At one point, she was legitimately stallikng me. I fucked up that bad. I accidentally rejected her, possibly causing some distress, and I than mistakingly tried talking to her at an extremely inappropriate time.

[Asker]

Sorry to be so hard on you but I think you should finally move on... me too

[Asker]

That really sucks but how can you know she was stalking you if you were so called too shy?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think I can. I almost escaped her, but she pulled me right back in with her obvious breadcrumbing. Why? Probably to torture me, but there might be a 1% chance she actually gives me a chance.

[Asker]

1% chance is shit lol

[Opinion Owner]

I have a significant amoumt of evidence, but its all anecdotal. She had her friends keep tabs on me. Some of them were extremely obvious. I saw 2 random girls staring and pointing at me. The next day I saw them with her. She deliberately would walk infront of me amd have her friends gauge my reaction. Somehow, she knew where I lived and what car I drove.

[Asker]

Im sorry she treated you like that but you deserve someone who treats you better... dont you think?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably, but I was, although unintentional, horrible to her. Although it was kind of intimidating, her stalking was cute. I don't think we would be a guaranteed success, but I would like to try. I see no reason we couldn't wipe the slate clean.

[Asker]

How were you horrible to her?

[Opinion Owner]

I accidentally rejected her, possibly causing some distress. I was socially isolated and inexperienced. Later and unknowingly, I tried talking to her at an extremely inappropriate time. She rejecyed me. After that, I saw her stalk me and kind of lost control. I mistook that as a clear sign of interest, so I tried again and pissed her off.

[Asker]

That honestly seems like such a mess... i dont think shr likes you unless she's in denial but I highly doubt she is.

[Asker]

You're speaking in code and not giving me the full story. I want to help you. Maybe you can help me

[Opinion Owner]

It is, but so is life. If I could just choose to move on, I would have by now. Not because I don't like her, but for my own sake. Like I said, she seems to be still breadcrumbing me. I see 2 likely scenarios. She either likes me and is afraid of the mess, or she can't move on but hates me and wants me to suffer. I guess I could also be insane.

Maybe I'll be able to move on, but not yet. I know it not the smart move, but it feels right. Thanks for your time.

[Opinion Owner]

What is code?

[Asker]

Like you're speaking to where I can't fully understand you. You giving me bits and pieces.

Tell me... how is she bread crumbing you?

[Opinion Owner]

I can give you the one that reignited my interest. She changed her profile picture to mirror mine. I only have had one public profile picture I'm actually in. She was in her version of the setting and was on the opposite side.

[Asker]

Tell me another one? Thats not a very good one. Could very well be a coincidence

[Opinion Owner]

I highly doubt it. We were at our respective sports teams stadiums. She posted hers much later than mine. I had mine during our snafu.

How have you been breadcrumbed?

[Asker]

Through Twitter pages. I thought the guy I liked used them. They work where you can lay that page a couple of bucks to tweet anything you want. And I've been getting love bombed for months. I thought it was him but it probably isn't anymore. Probably someone else I don't know but yea when I say I miss you he'd post a picture... stuff like that but we haven't moved into a conversation yet. Only because I just started reaching out. Usually id sub tweet. Talk about him and not actually @ing him. Cause I was so scared

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not very well versed with Twitter, but at least your talking direct now. I'd do anything for that. Its the small things that keep you thinking but aren't enough to act on that keep your head spinning.

[Asker]

Oh no me and my crush arnt exactly on speaking terms... he never went into my dms and it's hard to message him he has hundreds of thousands of followers and I think he told these other Twitter pages to mess with me 😥 i have to move on because I've been breadcrumbed and more. Its been like 2 years of this. Im over it. Plus he's with someone so im definitely delusional

[Opinion Owner]

Do you know him from real life or just online? I've been stuck on this girl much longer than that, but we a real life connection thing. I wish would have posted if she had boyfriend. Instead, I see her mirroring me.

[Asker]

he's an artist... I've seen him in concert before. Lol but everything started over 10 years ago. We just kept losing touch with eachother. Did she only mirror you once?

[Opinion Owner]

Mine is almost 10 too. Online, yes. We used to mirror other in person, but thats an involuntary thing like her curling her hair. The other breadcrumbing is on this website.

As crazy as it sounds, I accidentally found her asking about me on here. I googled my own behavior and was brought here. I wasn't sure at first, because of the statistical improbability. However, there has been far, far too much smoke with certain posts.

[Asker]

Its insane... thats how I feel with a lot of posts but its like a lot of people are probably going through the same things as me I don't know... can you tell me how you feel about this girl?

[Asker]

You should talk to her if she's breadcrumbing you on this site lol

[Opinion Owner]

For almost everyone else, it probably is. Some of that is definitely true for me. There are obviously people facing similar issues, especially with shy guys. However, there have been certain details and timings of certain posts that are too specific. I've tried making it easy Florida her to find me on here, but I haven't had and luck yet. Unfortunately, I can't trust her yet to make my presence obvious.

[Opinion Owner]

*for

[Opinion Owner]

I will tell you how she makes me feel, but it's getting late and thats an extremely important statement. It should be abhorrence, but it's anything but. I'll make sure to respond next time I'm on.

[Asker]

Sleep tight my friend

[Opinion Owner]

She always made me feel certain things that I haven't felt before. One way to kind of descibe it overall could be "safe". I'm usually very reserved, but I actually wanted to let my guard down with her. I just was able to. I've never flet such a strange, weird, and stromg desire for something. I want to be able to get to know her.

[Opinion Owner]

I can't really determine what exactly it is. It has some kf the characteristics of a crush, limerence, attachment, and the heavy 4 letter word.

[Asker]

Thats beautiful... too bad she doesn't know

[Opinion Owner]

She should have some idea based on my actions and words. I'm still hoping she'll give me a chance to tell her.

[Asker]

Man im on the same boat as you but they dont want us. If they did they'd be more direct you know?

[Opinion Owner]

That is what the logic side of my thinking tells me, but there has to be some reason she gives me attention. Maybe I'm just an ego boost or she likes manipulating me. Or maybe she still likes me... We are in a situation where there could be a fear of consequences for either of us. Her fear would be unfounded.

Unfortunately, I already made my last Hail Mary attempt. I think I even told her I wouldn't try again. She wouldn't need to do what I did. I would be ecstatic anyway sue reached out.

[Asker]

I think we re both delusional

[Opinion Owner]

That what I'd assume everyone would say, and I completely understand it. However, deep down I know there still is something there. It makes it almost impossible to let go.

[Asker]

I must of did something to him to make him feel so repulsed of me. This is so embarrassing cause I had no clue. But I have an inkling maybe we ran into eachother otnline and8 he knew it was me. Ill never forgive myself for this. Plus im darkskin he's probably repulsed even more!

[Asker]

I think im going to stop trying😬

[Asker]

Its been 4 years and nothing

[Opinion Owner]

Trust me. If a guy likes you enough, he will forgive you for almost anything. I tell myself I will quit my girl, but I cannot with the current ambiguity.

[Asker]

Well shouldn't you be listening to your own advice? If she liked you she'd forgive you and she hasn't...

[Opinion Owner]

She at least understands my perspective more, so I hoping she'd at least be open to it. I know that I mostly to blame for the mess.

[Asker]

I guess man. I hope she talks to you. Im giving up lol

[Opinion Owner]

I know less about your situation, but I think you should reach out

[Asker]

I have. A dozen times

[Opinion Owner]

I guess you sent him a message he didn't feel the same or you verified that he was ignoring you. I'm sorry if thats the case.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Because time is money, so the more time you're wasting, the more someone else picks up money you lost in the process?

[Anonymous]

Why do women flirt with men they have ZERO interest in? It's the same reason hun.

[WhitneySnow]

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