Can you make an ex regret breaking up with you?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say the girl breaksup not because of anything so bad. But then the guy levels up in silence. He becomes successful and really made it, also looks good and in shape

That does make girls regret

That can make a girl regret leaving although depends a lot

No it doesn’t make a girl regret leaving

[OlderAndWiser]

It's not over if you still care about what she thinks about you. The best "revenge" is living your life well and letting her gradually come to the realization that you no longer care about her at all. . . not as a strategy to win her back, but because she's just a person from the past and you really and truly no longer care about her.

[DishLady]

You can make an ex thank their lucky stars that they got away... esp if you flaunt your success in their face.

[objective_calendar]

What makes you think when you're busy becoming fit and successful she won't be moving on?

Suppose after grinding for years you've become "hot, rich and successful". But when you try to flaunt it to your ex you see that she's gotten into a relationship with a guy who's 10x hotter smarter and richer than you. So now the fact that you're successful doesn't actually make her regret anything, at all.

She won't say anything to you, but what will happen most definitely is that even after years of hardwork and finally achieving success you'll still be left feeling inadequate and diminished simply because you're measuring your happiness upto someone else's reaction, something you have absolutely no control over whatsoever (assuming your "success is my revenge" mentality will still be alive by then somehow).

The end goal- becoming successful is what truly matters, so I suppose it doesn't really matter what motivation gets you there as long as you get to that checkpoint.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

You ever been in a lose-lose situation?

What you're deciding on is the opposite. Because if the next time she sees you and it doesn't absolutely kill her to see you doing well and being happy then you know she was never on the same level as you.

A partner is supposed to make you the best version of yourself. If they can't understand that your success is a reflection of their failures then I don't think you'll lose sleep over it after you've overcome enough of your insecurities.

[Calyptomaniac]

Who cares what someone you're not with anymore thinks? Improve yourself for you, not for someone else. Trying to make an ex who may never even know what you're doing jealous shouldn't be your motivation. Look forward, not back.

[ProbablyClueless]

From what women have told me, the reaction isn't regret. It's usually more just sadness. Like, "I'm glad you finally did what I hoped you would do. I don't understand why you didn't do it when I was still around."

[Nikki1989]

Why would you want to do that? Are you really that immature?

[MissSunshine2]

Honestly, the best revenge is to live well and never look back.

[DryGermanGuy]

With your obsession about that matter, she continues to be glad having gotten away.

[LiamJHayden]

If we've broken up I do not care what she does and I have no desire to make her regret anything. I move on and remain happy.

[Anonymous]

You can, that doesn't mean you will. So never have that be your main actuator. Consider it just a fringe benefit of improving.

[dudeinohio]

I wouldn't obsess about it.