What does it mean when a guy says he needs time to think about us?

[rach27]

I told this guy that I have feelings for him and I don't want to pressure him into a relationship, but I just want to know how he feels. He followed up with me with a phone call and I told him that I am sorry for pouring my heart out to him and he warmly said for me to not be sorry. He said he just needed time to think about his answer to my question. He also pointed out that he does have other things going on in his life on top of that. Before now we have had regular phone calls initiated by him for 14 months. We have gone out to dinner quite a few times and we have texted once in a while. Even after I told him how I felt, he still continued to have those regular phone calls, and he also asked me out to dinner for my birthday two days after I asked him about his feelings. I noticed he could not look me in the eyes often when we were having dinner out for my birthday. I'm not sure why he was doing that. But even after that day, we still continued with the same routine of regular contact. Does anyone have a thought as to what the most likely answer is to how he feels?

[RavVid]

What is Love? Men certainly know when we are struck by lust because we get hard & all at the drop of a hat over her. Female love for a man is more encompassing and consumptive than male love for a woman. And Lust & Love are more connected I think for us. We start thinking I will always get hard over her.

We also start enjoying doing things for her - that is provide and protect loving kicking in.

From what you are describing you do have an ongoing relationship with each other, as you are doing those activities regularly. He has said he has other things going on and if he wants to succeed in it he might be suppressing desires for you to achieve in that area.

It's a brave woman who interferes with a man's work. So don't - support instead and be part of it. The wise woman does that.

It is not even clear if you are in a sexual relationship. If you aren't yet (maybe due to distance?) be receptive to it.

Overall I'm confident that the nature of guys and gals will win out and that includes mutual love.

[bowenw]

It may mean he does not feel the same way about you that you feel for him. He could also be seeing other women and isn't prepared to be exclusive with you. If he was into you I doubt he would have said the needs time to think. I suggest you don't waste time waiting for him to decide.

[Nikki1989]

It is usually a sign that he is feeling overwhelmed and experiencing some internal conflict. Men can be unreliable, but most grow out of that behaviour eventually.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

He needs time to make a decision

[slatyb]

It means he's not interested. Move on.

[Paige2006]

It means he wants to do the right thing.